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You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 1:58:29 AM

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An annoying trend I've come to notice among the general population using the site (Maybe not the Forums but the site in general), and perhaps it's a regional occurrence, is the plainly obvious profiles of subs/slaves/switches/whatever be they male, female or something in-between saying they're looking for that one person who only wants them and blah blah blah. You're looking a boyfriend, not BDSM. You might like BDSM. You might like getting your hair pulled during sex. But you're not here to meet people to chat with and learn about the lifestyle. You're looking for a boyfriend. Stop putting in your profile that you're open to this or that when later on in your post you state that you only want this one specific kind of relationship.

Fine. You want a boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever, that's perfectly fine. But stop insulting my intelligence. You're desperation for a committed relationship is just bursting out of your profiles and it's rude to believe that we're too dumb to realize it.

RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:00:41 AM

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~Fast Reply~

A dominant can't be your boyfriend?

Jesus, I'm gonna have to file for divorce and take off my collar. Evidently Val and I did this all wrong...

Ok guys, I'm back on the market. Who wants a comic book lovin' subbie?

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:01:12 AM

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This is not going to go well.

Oh where to start?

One twue way comes to mind.

I'm so sorry but in order to insult your intelligence, it would be helpful if you would show some.

Best,
sunshine

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:01:45 AM

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Darn, that was my WHOLE mission in life here, was to insult your intelligence by saying what I wanted and what I was looking for on MY profile! I hate to break it to you, but there's some people in this world that think that sex is best with someone you care about and who cares about you and knows you. And I don't see the point of BDSM if there isn't any sex involved.

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:02:05 AM

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so it's wrong to want a monogamous, committed relationship in which two people love each other and STILL do BDSM?

Who knew?

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:03:11 AM

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Evidently Grom Gor knew. Silly rabbit.

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:03:23 AM

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Well, MOS, you learn something everyday, now, don't ya?

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:03:23 AM

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im sorry - reajusts brain and reassembles again - are you dissing people who are looking for a committed relationship.

had you ever thought that maybe the profiles you are reading are from people whove been around the block more times than you and have actually boiled this down to just another way to have a committed relationship and have chosen to discard the label Dominant, Master, sub or slave and just be who they are without the titles -

and by the way - people are allowed to have a bit of kink and a lot of committment - you seem to be suggesting that we should all be here for lots of kink and no committment -

< Message edited by lally2 -- 7/11/2010 2:08:11 AM >

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:04:38 AM

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Lally ! Bad girl! You are being intelligent! That is insulting! STOP NOW!

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:04:50 AM

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Are you sure you're really 28? You look a lot older than that in that picture. In other words, are you trying to have your mid life crisis and finding road blocks?

< Message edited by DarlingSavage -- 7/11/2010 2:05:45 AM >

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:05:23 AM

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Oh. to those committed to the lifestyle and to experiencing it, I applaud you and hope you the best. What's been getting to me lately is the profiles that are so clearly treating the site as an adultfriendfinder (leather bound edition) except free to use.

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:06:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself

so it's wrong to want a monogamous, committed relationship in which two people love each other and STILL do BDSM?

Who knew?

I tried to tell you!!!

(So... can we spank the bunny now? Maybe really fast before Val and I have to split up to preserve the idea of non-committed BDSM relationships?)

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:06:54 AM

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AFF is for hook ups. You are complaining about people who want a committed relationship. Make up your mind.

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:07:26 AM

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well, colour me hedumicated

Guess I'd better stop looking for a committed long term relationship...*sob*

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:08:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Gromgor

Oh. to those committed to the lifestyle and to experiencing it, I applaud you and hope you the best. What's been getting to me lately is the profiles that are so clearly treating the site as an adultfriendfinder (leather bound edition) except free to use.

A) How the hell is using the site like adultfriendfinder looking for a committed relationship? I've been on that site and it was not the spot to find yourself a man to take home to meet the parents

and

B) How is that a bad thing? Everyone is allowed their tastes and this is a dating site. They are allowed to look whatever the hell they want. If they want a wham, blam, thank you ma'am, more power to them. If they want walks on the beach and moonlit kisses before they expose their bottoms for spanking, more power to them.

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It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:09:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

(So... can we spank the bunny now? Maybe really fast before Val and I have to split up to preserve the idea of non-committed BDSM relationships?)

Woohoo - spank me now!!! *boingboingboing*

Just don't tell me afterwards that you loves me.

That would be...wrong!

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:10:30 AM

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quote:

Woohoo - spank me now!!! *boingboingboing*

Just don't tell me afterwards that you loves me.

That would be...wrong!

But what about the aftercare?

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:10:57 AM

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quote:

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well, colour me hedumicated

Guess I'd better stop looking for a committed long term relationship...*sob*

I'll commit to you! We can have a relationship based on cute things. And maybe coloring books. Ooo ooo and yummy desserts!

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

(in reply to myotherself)

RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:11:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Gromgor

Oh. to those committed to the lifestyle and to experiencing it, I applaud you and hope you the best. What's been getting to me lately is the profiles that are so clearly treating the site as an adultfriendfinder (leather bound edition) except free to use.

and yet youre profile clearly states that is what youre looking for - i think youre trolling.

< Message edited by lally2 -- 7/11/2010 2:13:23 AM >

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RE: You're looking a boyfriend, not a Dom. - 7/11/2010 2:11:30 AM

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Fifty quid oughta do it!

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