nephandi
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Joined: 9/23/2005 From: Cold and magickal Norway in a town near Bergen! Status: offline
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Greetings quote:
Some of the posts on this thread have been deeply disturbing. I've added a lot of people to my Hide list. If anyone is ever going to say "well, you got yourself into it" then why would ANYONE EVER want to play? The moment you concent to anything, you've 'gotten yourself into it' and it sounds like some folks view it as a blanket statent that means all bets are off. That just sounds like something vanilla people would say about everything we do. What about his consent? He had never consented to play that night, any part of play including aftercare. Dos not his consent count? quote:
Also, just because it's BDSM doesn't negate all relationship concerns - just because the problem occured in play, it's somehow not subject to the same values as the rest of a relationship? Off course not, however we are here dealing with a man that was very unexperienced, and had no idea about what subspace was. It is like if one's partner come home drunk as a skunk, many would just leave them alone until they sobered up. I wish you well
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