WyldHrt
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I must admit, I don't get the email issue. Aren't there mail controls that allow you to limit who sends you mail? Perhaps there need to be better controls if this is such an issue. Are people who are complaining about getting emails using these controls? Do they work?
Yes, they work. I do not use them because I like to receive cmail from friends here on the forums or on the other side. If the controls are used, most of those messages would go to my bulk folder. That said, there are no filters marked 'asshole', 'wanker' or 'drive by insult', so we have to put up with it if our profile is active. What we do have is the new spam reporting system, which is cutting down on the deluge.
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I did a little quick estimate on the number of males/females in CT (past hour- did a quick count.) It was something like 30F/85M so around a 3:1 ratio. So I don't understand where all these emails are coming from- there just aren't that many men to send them.
Try CA, as that is where LP and I both live. Not that it matters, as I get mail from all over the US and many other countries as well.
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Maybe mail controls to limit mail from people who have posted if that's a concern? I suspect that geographically limited emails might also make sense- hence no need for the bellyaches about emails from Nicaragua or wherever.
You really should check the mail controls before talking about changing them. You can route out of state, out of country, male, female, Dominant, submissive, couples, and above/ below certain ages to the bulk folder. As I said before, the problem is that messages from friends can get lost.
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In terms of the time needed to write polite responses...I spend between 15 minutes to an hour (and occasionally more) composing an email to someone for the first time if I add in the time spent looking at their profile. I suspect that this figure is not far out for people that write a reasonable email. If I've taken the time to write the email, why is it so onerous to spend less than 15 seconds to shoot the quick response- of "Thanks, not interested- best of luck in your search."?
I have never understood this, personally. Is getting a rejection email really all that? For me, it would be worse than no reply, esp if i were to log in and see a bunch of new mails only to read, "Thanks but no thanks" over and over again. Ugh.
As I noted in the other thread where this came up, many of us stopped sending polite rejections because the response is often either insulting, an argument for why we should give the person a chance, or the person keeps writing just because you replied. It gets old.
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There used to be quick response buttons to emails on this site. They got taken down- I suspect because they weren't being used. Clearly, they'd take even less time than 15 seconds. The puerile response of "No response IS a response" seems to have taken root- and not surprisingly, the people that write crafted emails have become a minority.
They were a majority at one time? Not since I've been here.
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But are all those profiles of men saying their looking for people fake? Or have these men gotten so angry that they vent on random individuals with no provocation?
Ask them, because I don't have a clue why they do this.
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There's something going on here I'm not understanding.
That would be what it is really like for women on the other side.
ETA- Damn, LP was posting while I was parsing! 
< Message edited by WyldHrt -- 10/6/2010 7:36:26 PM >
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