UniqueRaven
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Joined: 9/30/2009 From: Austin, TX Status: offline
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Honestly, I see this as - like so many things - up to the two involved in the relationship, and their compatibility. I did have this situation with my previous Master. Over the years, he came to love me so much and placed me on a pedestal, that he was no longer able to control, guide, and "Master" me - which is a fundamental need of mine. So this did cause so stress between us, and ultimately contributed to our eventual separation. I need that firm hand, that strong support, and someone to provide that structure - structure that allows me to simply relax, be myself as a slave, and exist fully in his service. So what does that mean for me? I can serve anyone. I can - I am capable of it. However, the best reason (for me), and the only reason I will serve someone again at this stage in my life is because I adore my Owner/Master, and have the other aspects of the Owner/property relationship in addition to simply service. So in that case, yes, I am seeking love - I want it - but I need a man who needs to be an Owner like I need to be a slave. And then when we're both in that authentic place of simply being ourselves in the power exchange and the structure, then love simply is just there - and isn't a worry or a concern. This is why I haven't rushed into slavery again - well ok, I've rushed a couple of times, but I've been smart at figuring out when a situation wasn't right for me (smiles). And I've been happy about my development as a slave as a result. Truly, worrying about love in an M/s relationship is just the same as worrying about protocol, or structure, or rituals, or anything else. You do what works for you and your slave - and don't worry about what falls by the wayside, as it's part of being human in an authentic, loving, relationship.
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"My life has no purpose, no direction, no aim, no meaning, and yet I'm happy. I can't figure it out. What am I doing right?" ~Snoopy (Charles Schultz) My blog is at http://takinghishand.wordpress.com
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