RedMagic1
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If I remember correctly, you have posted that you haven't dated too many kinky men. If you don't have much real-life experience with dominant men, you may not know exactly what dominance means to you, nor what type of dominance makes you most happy and wet. Example: one of the best riggers in the SF Bay Area is quite heavy, but he has no trouble dating young nubile Asian ropesluts, because he can send them into subspace like nobody else. So, Annie... would you, you personally, prefer a man who is a perfect 10 in looks, or a perfect 10 in topping skills? Most guys, of course, aren't a 10 in either one, so I'm really asking which of the two is more important to you. ("I want the whole package," is a reasonable answer here, but, of course, if you want to attract the whole package, it helps to be a whole package yourself, so you might want to look at how you can improve your own package, ha ha, to entice the type of man who interests you.) For some men, their form of dominance is that they try not to deny themselves any pleasure. Sexually, they will do with a woman whatever suits their fancy -- and, when it comes to food, they will eat whatever they want, whenever they want. Would you prefer a man like this, or would you prefer a man who believes in deferred gratification? My sense of you is that you might not know the answer to this question yet. I don't think there's any way to answer such questions intellectually. You need to date some, and have experiences that make you either fist-pump or puke, and you figure out where your head and clit are at. In my own case, I used to be heavy, and I lost a lot of weight, but it's hard to keep it off. So I needed a woman who had an active lifestyle, because I want to reinforce my recently-gained healthy habits. And, yeah, I'm all dominant and manly and shit, but it's still easier to do hard things if I have help and support.
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Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others. - 15th century Aztec
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