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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &why? - 3/26/2011 10:15:39 PM   
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Now it makes sense why I enjoy being face fucked with my head dangling off the side of the bed!


tazzygirl, ever tried a table?

CP


Not since I was.. ahem... younger. I find, along with most of my partners, that a bed is much more comfortable and allows for easier, and more pleasurable, repositioning.

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &why? - 3/26/2011 10:29:02 PM   
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As far as the age thing goes, I have always enjoyed men who are a decade younger than I, they tend to be more adventurous, so if that has been your experience with younger women, I can see it. From my point of view though.. I find the younger men are more adventurous, not because they are younger but because they view me as someone with experience who probably has done (A,B,orC), even though I might not hsve until I met them. I tend to be adventurous, if my partner is equally so.


i wavered over the issue for a short time and wondered if i'd engage on a case by case basis or do something more radical instead. And i elected to bail. When i consider where things stand and the lifestyle i've built, i simply have more in common with younger men. Those my age are saddled with other things and responsibilities i have no desire to take on. i need someone with the ability to pick up and go without a bucket load of constraints.

For me, it isn't about the sex. i like a certain kind of man and that guarantees i'm going to have a great time whether he's younger or closer in age. And yes there are differences in the energy, but not to the degree where i could make a huge generalization and i wouldn't. The one thing i keep coming back to is being carefree and wanting someone that can understand and respect that. It opens up a host of avenues for mutual exploration and that's the direction i'm walking towards. i knew i'd be closing a door and eliminating a lot of possibilities, but in truth they were only that in theory and weren't anything i would have selected.

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 7:20:20 AM   
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Interesting. You don't set filters for race or ethnicity, yet You capriciously set filters for age? What about intelligence, experience, beauty, and uniqueness?

You, by Your suppositions about all women over 55, overlook other qualities such as quinessential essence of allure. How can one place all women into one category by constructing paramaters that may or may not be true?

As anti-aging medicine becomes more prevalent, age has and will continue to become moot; as those of us who use it benefit from it. Those filters no longer apply to me as my as biological age is no longer reflective of my chronological age.

This slave is more beautifu and vibrantl today than she was in her 20's. And that beauty is a combination of not only her physical attributes but her spiritual and mental attributes as well.

Everyone is unique...therefore, it is a combination of dynamics: presence and allure as well as beauty, intelligence, and an accomplished life which make for a desireable slave as well as her capcity to surrender and yield to Power.

"Young" in essence is only a perception, as are all filters...and in their capricious application One might just miss finding that perfect complement.

Just my thoughts.
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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 7:31:49 AM   
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Hello there, roisin, and welcome to collarme!

Yep, having filters does preclude some matches.  But it cuts down on a lot of clutter.  I tend to differentiate my filters as being absolute and as being squishy.  Like hard and soft limits.

Age, looks, personality, intelligence, sense of humor... they're all in there.


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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 8:49:01 AM   
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Interesting. You don't set filters for race or ethnicity, yet You capriciously set filters for age? What about intelligence, experience, beauty, and uniqueness?


He doesn't need to set them unless they're priorities in mate selection. I have them and make no apology for what i like. Why should i?

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You, by Your suppositions about all women over 55, overlook other qualities such as quinessential essence of allure. How can one place all women into one category by constructing paramaters that may or may not be true?


While i posited that one should just call the spade what it is, perhaps that is the OP's truth. i can't know for certain. But since we're spinning the allure angle, what happens when a man approaches you that falls way outside of your aesthetic preference? Do you go excavate his allure or simply tell him not interested? i can't think of many people that take everything that comes their way merely because it might have potential.

So he doesn't like older women. I wouldn't bother myself about it. i mean, who would want to consider a man that is put off about a facet of their person that they cannot change? Seriously.

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As anti-aging medicine becomes more prevalent, age has and will continue to become moot; as those of us who use it benefit from it. Those filters no longer apply to me as my as biological age is no longer reflective of my chronological age.


That is an absolute load of crock. i'm thirty-nine years old with a daughter that's half my age. i'm blessed with amazing genes and haven't had any reconstructive work. And all the surgery in the world will not alter some tell tale signs. You'd have to redo yourself from head to toe to hide it. But more than this, it isn't the number that people are wanting to avoid, but all the things they believe come in tow. You cannot change your experiences. Nor can you roll the clock back to recreate that twenty-year old mindset.

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This slave is more beautifu and vibrantl today than she was in her 20's. And that beauty is a combination of not only her physical attributes but her spiritual and mental attributes as well.


You sound like you're justifying your present state. How sad.

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"Young" in essence is only a perception, as are all filters...and in their capricious application One might just miss finding that perfect complement.


No, he's merely saying his complement will arrive in a particular guise. As we all do in our own way. Some folks are merely more upfront about their selectivity.

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 9:41:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TheWayofPassion

Sir

Interesting. You don't set filters for race or ethnicity, yet You capriciously set filters for age? What about intelligence, experience, beauty, and uniqueness?

You, by Your suppositions about all women over 55, overlook other qualities such as quinessential essence of allure. How can one place all women into one category by constructing paramaters that may or may not be true?

As anti-aging medicine becomes more prevalent, age has and will continue to become moot; as those of us who use it benefit from it. Those filters no longer apply to me as my as biological age is no longer reflective of my chronological age.

This slave is more beautifu and vibrantl today than she was in her 20's. And that beauty is a combination of not only her physical attributes but her spiritual and mental attributes as well.

Everyone is unique...therefore, it is a combination of dynamics: presence and allure as well as beauty, intelligence, and an accomplished life which make for a desireable slave as well as her capcity to surrender and yield to Power.

"Young" in essence is only a perception, as are all filters...and in their capricious application One might just miss finding that perfect complement.

Just my thoughts.
Blessed be
roisin


Greetings roisin lass,

Certainly I set limiters/filters. I make no bones about it and certainly do not hide it. Why on earth should I? My home, My rule, I make the rules and decisions regarding the acceptability of who is to be considered for a probationary collar. Were I to do differently, I would be a piss poor Master by allowing all possibilities of who may be a gem in disguise or a piece of slag to have me changing my mine like a flag in a infrequent breeze. My limiters are never hard and fast but do reflect preferences which will work best in my home. I always consider the age groups which also work better for my wife 30 years younger than I too. there is just no way that it would be feasible for me to think of bringing another 18 year old lass into the home or even one much under 30 for that matter. the girl has to be able to fit in with the entire household including the dogs.

Again if I were seeking a girl whose duties will include some areas of hard work such as assisting with various outdoor tasks in the fields or plantation, I will look to perhaps a younger person who has the fitness and stamina to carry out those duties. Just as for a parlor masid I will look to a person with some grace and ability as well as a quiet non intrusive mode of speech. I would be worried about the possible health and frankly how many years of service I could reasonably expect from a lady say closer to 60.

I have in  fact set my selection parameters more along the lines of any prospective employer of domestic staff which is precisely what slaves we seek would be and even paid staff for that matter. Were I seeking a companion and lover, then your points would perhaps be valid. however I have a relatively young wife who is my constant (as work allows) companion, my lover and mate so that department is quite well filled although I enjoy sexual forays with slaves as is my right, just as she does too. These things are not what our relationship or the house dynamic is about.

Of course it could be that I may decide to accomodate an older lady should she bring somethinbg very special to the table.. Perhaps an experienced absolute pain slut would do that.. It would allow Neets to explore her budding sadism and me to turn my inner sadist loose and develope this aspect of our lives, However in the long term the home needs to be serviced and run smoothly with as little disturbance of the peace asnd tranqiility as possible.





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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 10:32:53 AM   
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Sir

Interesting. You don't set filters for race or ethnicity, yet You capriciously set filters for age? What about intelligence, experience, beauty, and uniqueness?

You, by Your suppositions about all women over 55, overlook other qualities such as quinessential essence of allure. How can one place all women into one category by constructing paramaters that may or may not be true?

As anti-aging medicine becomes more prevalent, age has and will continue to become moot; as those of us who use it benefit from it. Those filters no longer apply to me as my as biological age is no longer reflective of my chronological age.

This slave is more beautifu and vibrantl today than she was in her 20's. And that beauty is a combination of not only her physical attributes but her spiritual and mental attributes as well.

Everyone is unique...therefore, it is a combination of dynamics: presence and allure as well as beauty, intelligence, and an accomplished life which make for a desireable slave as well as her capcity to surrender and yield to Power.

"Young" in essence is only a perception, as are all filters...and in their capricious application One might just miss finding that perfect complement.

Just my thoughts.
Blessed be
roisin


Roisin,

I just looked at your photos. There is no doubt you are attractive in many's eyes. There is no doubt that you take good care of yourself. There is also no doubt that you are not in your 20's and could be in your 50's.

None of that is said in a negative way...... I am only a year and a month from 50 myself. I embrace that. Yet.....if a potential slave, someone I might be interested in, is looking to serve someone younger, I will not be upset. Their reasons may be shallow even. It is not my concern. My only concern is that I do not fit their interest.

I am weird in that, if a person is not attracted to, interested in, me.......I will quickly lose any attraction/interest in them.

The truth is that you are a woman in her middle years, just as I am. There are many that will find us appealing for all that we do have to offer a relationship just as there are some that will not find us appealing for what we cannot offer.

I cannot be 28. I do not want to be 28. I make no apologies for either. They either adore me, lust after me, want to serve me.....for the awesome 48almost49yo that I am, or not...... It is neither good or bad, it just is. Simple really.

LaT


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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 11:19:06 AM   
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None of that is said in a negative way...... I am only a year and a month from 50 myself. I embrace that. Yet.....if a potential slave, someone I might be interested in, is looking to serve someone younger, I will not be upset. Their reasons may be shallow even. It is not my concern. My only concern is that I do not fit their interest.

I am weird in that, if a person is not attracted to, interested in, me.......I will quickly lose any attraction/interest in them.


Im the same way. If a Man decides im not what he wants, the reason why doesnt matter. Im simply not what he wants and its time to move on. Filters or reasons are his and his alone. Nothing I can do to change them. No sense in dwelling on them.

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 11:19:17 AM   
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Yep, having filters does preclude some matches.  But it cuts down on a lot of clutter. 

Exactly. No set of rules is perfect, but one hopes with such filters to at least sweeten the mix. I don't look at anyone below 35. Does that mean that I'm losing out on a few quality 25 year olds? Certainly. I'm OK with that. The cost is small and the benefit large.


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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &why? - 3/28/2011 1:26:32 PM   
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and more pleasurable, repositioning.


tazzygirl, well a very large lazy susan then!

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 2:56:44 PM   
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Yep, having filters does preclude some matches.  But it cuts down on a lot of clutter. 

Exactly. No set of rules is perfect, but one hopes with such filters to at least sweeten the mix. I don't look at anyone below 35. Does that mean that I'm losing out on a few quality 25 year olds? Certainly. I'm OK with that. The cost is small and the benefit large.



Bingo. When it comes to searches it's a numbers game - as Jeff points out - there could be a goodly number of people under my minimum age (I take the trad route - half my age plus 8) of 28 that have all the life experience necessary, but ya know - the likelihood just isn't that high. That said, here on the boards, I've encountered a number of under 28's who are clearly plenty smart and mature enough. It isn't that they don't exist, but that you don't want the search criteria to be so broad.

As for upper age limits... anyone a lot older than me is out.

More important than age is height - if you're a chick and you're over 5 foot 11 inches then it wont matter how wonderful your soul is, how smart you are or how big your tits are, we aint gonna be getting down and rolling around.

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 9:02:23 PM   
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If a fifty-year-old is trying to look like a twenty-year-old they end up looking like a moron.  Accept the reality of your situation and learn to knit some blankets.  

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 10:16:10 PM   
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If a fifty-year-old is trying to look like a twenty-year-old they end up looking like a moron.  Accept the reality of your situation and learn to knit some blankets.


my self-esteem blossoms in your presence!

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 10:54:03 PM   
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If a fifty-year-old is trying to look like a twenty-year-old they end up looking like a moron.
  Hey.  Leave Sharon Osbourne out of this!

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/28/2011 10:55:18 PM   
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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &why? - 3/29/2011 3:53:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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and more pleasurable, repositioning.


tazzygirl, well a very large lazy susan then!

CP


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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &toilet as i ma... - 3/30/2011 6:50:49 AM   
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If a fifty-year-old is trying to look like a twenty-year-old they end up looking like a moron. Accept the reality of your situation and learn to knit some blankets.


NS,

Now that is harsh annnnnnnd not very factual!

CP

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &why? - 3/30/2011 8:21:56 AM   
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For me My master is nearly 5 years older than me, I wanted a guy to be with that wasn't more than 5 years and wasn't as interested in looks than personality! Then I finally found him! I was 25 and three years later we're thinking of marraige!
I grew up thinking looks are not everything , its all about how they treat women and well I'm very into saposexuality! Doh so my b.f. has degree in chemistry and does gaming infact he taught about it and thats now something we do together!!
He loves history too, he watches the history channel so much!
I think if women are still young and single they'll be more interested in meeting a guy than an older women that is still single or has just divorced I think!

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &why? - 4/1/2011 6:36:49 PM   
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For me My master is nearly 5 years older than me, I wanted a guy to be with that wasn't more than 5 years and wasn't as interested in looks than personality! Then I finally found him! I was 25 and three years later we're thinking of marraige!
I grew up thinking looks are not everything , its all about how they treat women and well I'm very into saposexuality! Doh so my b.f. has degree in chemistry and does gaming infact he taught about it and thats now something we do together!!
He loves history too, he watches the history channel so much!
I think if women are still young and single they'll be more interested in meeting a guy than an older women that is still single or has just divorced I think!

(in


sunny,

Well said and defined....... welcome to the boards.

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RE: Age preference of the male dominant &why? - 4/11/2011 8:23:31 AM   
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Chief Auditor -L- give me a break...


TC,

Twas not a slam.........although she has not been on much recently we had a gal Lucky Albatross that apparently cataloged threads over the years and could in minutes list out all threads on that subject.

CP

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