In terms of adventure, the omission is never related to prudishness but simply because the individual doesn't trip my switch in that way. I can find a man attractive but not be boiled over. It's the ones that are capable of bringing more to the table than their whip swinging skills that will generally get my attention. You can have all the experience in the world and still be a bore. I'm more interested in the rare package than the mass produced clone.
This is the standard party line.
The problem is, it's not accurate thinking. Someone with warts covering half their body, a foul odor and a level of imbecility 5 deviations from norm... is certainly rare.
Say that I made a factory producing physically fit men with symmetric features, aggressive yet reasoned approaches towards conversation, or whatever other hot buttons you may have, and released one of them into the wild. You found him desirable, accepted his advances and formed a relationship with him. How would that be different than if I released all of them, then killed every other dude on the planet (oops, sorry! I didn't mean to release that virus...) In theory, it shouldn't matter to you. Same awesome guy. But in one case, he's rare; in the other, he's common. Is your value system so shallow that you'd be single rather than pick one of them out and move on with your life?
There's no question that we as humans are wired to value uniqueness; because it allows mental shortcuts in how we frame the world. But it's become far too popular to say that this is the most attractive thing a man can bring to the table, when it's really not. In fact, truly unique individuals are often playing with a dating handicap.
While I'm at it, screw confidence too. I'm tired of being confident, it's too much damned work. And it seems to not correlate very well with how much folks can function in the world. I know a lot of confident losers and a lot of insecure people who are awesome.
Oh yeah, my age preference is mid-20's, op.
< Message edited by DMFParadox -- 3/10/2011 11:10:39 PM >
bloody hell, get me some aspirin and a whiskey straight
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