lizi
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ORIGINAL: WillowBayU Well...self-destructive behaviors is my middle name. I could ramble on here about self-destructive behaviors with which I have engaged since I knew I HAD a self. Hey, how about that for all the Doms who say they want an introspective, intelligent slave or sub? It is who we are. If we weren't self-destructive, would we even BE in this lifestyle? Honestly, but naively, from my own interest. I am NOT criticizing anyone here. But let's be honest...we can talk until the sun comes up about how strong submissives and slaves are, how to be owned or controlled is to realize freedom...yes, preaching to the choir. But what makes US different from YOU? What makes US different from vanilla? Even if we do not desire to be used, humiliated, objectified, offered as meat...isn't the entire premise here self-destruction on some level? Hasn't it always been since we understood who we are? Hasn't it always been since we understood our destiny? I can honestly say that my purpose in having a D/s relationship is NOT self-destruction in the least. It's self-celebration and I find peace and balance with the right partner. He loves me for what I give to him, not for what he takes from me. Whatever it is for you that makes you happy then I hope you find it.
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