LillyBoPeep
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sometimes people do that because they aren't as interested in you as you are in them. they don't want to meet because they don't want to have to let the other person down. they might be interested in talking about things, but they see you wanting more and meeting as the first step to "more," and they don't want to go there with you. then there are those who do it because they're not as interested as they let on. they pretend to be in order to live out a fantasy online, or to stroke their own egos, or whatever, but they aren't actually interested at all. then as others have said, there are those who are overly cautious, have had bad experiences, or are just a little anxious about meeting face to face. some people are super concerned with their own appearance and -- well especially nowadays when even 8 year olds and use photoshop, sometimes photos of people aren't accurate representations of them. they might use an angle to hide a chubby tummy or something, or they're using photos from 10 years ago, and in person, they can't hide that stuff. they could be married and just looking to mess around, they could be men pretending to be women and visa versa. all sorts of reasons. if someone won't meet on your time frame, then just look for something else, unless you really feel a serious connection with that person. i yammered at M on yahoo messenger for 3 months before finally getting to meet him. i had moved to a new place and didn't have reliable transportation of my own. we had all kinds of glorious conversations and the minute i bought a car, i drove to see him. if the conversations can't keep your interest, either, that's a pretty bad sign. even if someone won't meet you right now when you say so, if their conversations are still engaging and enjoyable, it might mean waiting for them is still a good idea.
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