TheCabal
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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather OK, rather than try to restate my OP, because my thinking has changed over the course of the thread so far, I’m going to slightly modify my question (hopefully more clearly) to focus the discussion on what is of particular interest to me at this point. There is a particular flavour of dominance that holds that there is something inherently dominant or submissive in certain sex acts or positions. In order to avoid gender issues with the style, I’m going to call this the “Action” style. The opposing view, which I’ll call the “Reason” style, is that the act itself doesn’t matter so much as the reason behind it. Tazzygirl’s example of the blowjob defines this very well; the act is both submissive and dominant at the same time, based on the perceptions and reasons of the participants. Now, based on the posts on these boards, the majority of the proponents of the “Action” style seem to be men. My question is why do you think this is? The answers suggested so far have basically been as follows: 1. They are HNGs. This sounds like some one-true-way talk to me. You don’t agree with them so they must be HNGs? Besides the idea came from Focus50’s thread, and he hardly strikes me as an HNG. 2. Because men are more visual. I have trouble with this one because, as I stated before, I don’t find this to be true in my limited experience. I also have a little trouble seeing how being more visual would lead one to consider an act more or less submissive. I suspect I’m missing something here though, so if anybody wants to elaborate on this idea I’d appreciate it. 3. It has to do with social conditioning. This is where my current thinking leans. This seems to me to be the most likely reason. 4. Its all very interesting and confusing (Thanks for being so enlightening Parappa). <Just kidding, you know I luvs ya!> I think you're on to something with social conditioning - and that social conditioning tends to be reinforced: submissives often expect certain behaviors from dominants based on their sex. As you've noted, it's not a hard-and-fast rule though. There are VERY physical Dommes, and VERY mental Doms. FWIW, personally, I don't consider the physical side of all of this very fulfilling. If you're bigger and stronger, it's not at all difficult to physically overpower someone. But you can control a body without controlling the mind. Control the mind though, and you have both.
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