ChatteParfaitt
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Joined: 3/22/2011 From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: orchid77 I believe the question stems from others who really don't respect what a switch is- sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive. Also you have those who ask this question to see if they can manipulate you in becoming more of a sub or dominant. So it is about agenda. Which goes to my first statement they don't respect what a switch really is- sometimes sub and sometimes dominant.. I think there is also an implied prejudice that a switch will not be a good sub or a good dom/me, and should just "stick to other switches." Not all of us can switch with the same person or even want to. I know when I was looking for a dominant, as soon as I put the switch word out there, assumptions were made. (Heck, that's even happened on this board). The assumption seems to be a switch will always challenge you, will never really be obedient, will be constantly manipulative, and will on some level always be trying to top you. This is nonsense, but people seem to believe it, and I have given some thought as to why. My thoughts are that switches, knowing both sides, do not (as a rule) put up with a great deal of domly BS. They know a good dom when they see one, and can easily spot those who are not dominant enough for them. (This doesn't mean that person may not be a great dominant for someone else, but a switch does need great leadership.) The switches I have known tend to be a totally pussycat once they decide to submit to someone. Until then, yeah they can be a challenge. But just about every switch I have been involved with has been worth the challenge. As for a switches' dom/me side, again there is an inherent prejudice that they cannot be domly enough. When you know both sides well, first you know up front all the manipulations that just don't work on you, but you also know what it's like to be a submissive, and that to really get what you want, you need to lay down a solid foundation of trust. That takes time. I'm considered a soft fuzzy domme by many, mainly b/c I seek emotional dominance far more than physical. I understand all domination begins in the mind. I don't just want your body, I want your soul. And I know precisely how to get it. All this is a very round about way of saying, yes, there are reasons some are quite prejudiced against switches. They make assumption that are not necessarily valid on closer observation. As for people asking if you are more sub or dom/me, again they are looking for info to fuel their prejudices.
< Message edited by ChatteParfaitt -- 6/28/2011 4:19:21 AM >
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