tazzygirl
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ORIGINAL: tammystarm agrees to most, however i didnt say he doesnt help, he has chores he has choosen for hiself as well, they are about the only ones that get done. It was an agreement between the two of us, that after a long marriage and raising her children he would never go down that seriously rocky past with anyone elses kids, i understand.....long story. Besides i never realized that i do need help with the kids. O well just curious as to solutions, have fun and be good to yourselves! tam The one daughter and the boyfriend are playing house in your house? They either kick in on the chores... and the rent... or out they go. Takes care of two problems right there. The two that are yours? Pick a day when you feel like you may be alive - I have fibro too and I know what a bitch that is - and you clear out their rooms. I mean everything. Chore lists are a must. As they keep up with their chores, items are returned, privileges are returned. No one gets a free ride. And, finally.... YOUR health is HIS concern. If he doesnt give a damn about your health enough to make those kids do any work to help you, screw them all and do nothing. Being slave/kajira sounds great. He does exactly what he wants and nothing more.... and the kids are seeing this and following in his footsteps. If you want to continue to be a doormat, then do so. Even my ex... the gorean asshole that he is... manned up and made his kids do chores. Its easy to toss this off on you, but its supposed to be his home. He is just as responsible for imparting unto all the kids the life lessons for being self-sufficient. He is failing in tha regard.
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Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt. RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11 Duchess of Dissent 1 Dont judge me because I sin differently than you. If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.
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