LadyHibiscus
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Joined: 8/15/2005 From: Island Of Misfit Toys Status: offline
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I am grateful for my family every day, but this thread really makes that grateful bucket all shiny! Tammy, it's your life. Fix it, or don't fix it. Saying that you are being a bad parent is all well and good, but what help is that? Your kids are floundering. It's like a fat person bemoaning their weight while they eat chips on the couch. When I was considered old enough to be home alone a few hours after school (age 9 or10?) I had a different chore every day, change the bed linens, vacuum, dust, laundry, whatever. My parents worked like dogs, and I was happy to do something to be useful and help out. I might have spent half an hour a day on whatever the chore was. I set the table for dinner much earlier, and helped clear and deal with dishes. Ironing, remember that? Somehow, in spite of the hideous load of housework, I had time to read, do art, play, watch television, ride my bike, do my homework...astounding!! Suit up, or shut up. I am sorry that you have no backup from the male front, but since you are a single parent, BE ONE. Lots of wonderful examples here on the boards of FANTASTIC moms raising their kids to be good citizens while still having good loving relationships with them. (Parade wave to my darling Daddysredhead!) Since you have been in school since the 1990's, I am guessing that you are not in a degree program that will finish soon. So take the rest of the year off. Your CHILDREN are your priority, right after YOURSELF.
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