Awareness
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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet So, on the one hand, the OP was told more than once that she was a fucking idiot for being taken in by someone she didn't check out more carefully, and now you come along and say she would be a fucking nut if she had? No wonder the poor girl ran screaming from the room. Ah the joys of asking for advice from anonymous people on the Internet. Yes, because all of the fucking nutbags here had really practical advice on how to determine if a guy would fuck you without a condom. Yeah, that shit definitely shows up in public records. I hate to break it to you oh-so-clever people, but integrity doesn't show up in someone's readily available public records. Your advice in this instance is about as useful as an origami self-defense course and you toss around your ludicrous ideas as though you're the font of all wisdom. In reality you're a pack of self-righteous assholes who enjoy the odd bit of schadenfreude. Integrity is determined by watching the degree to which a person's words match their actions. Last I heard, Ted Bundy didn't have a criminal record, so anyone bringing him up is making my point for me. Namely, trust your instincts. Women have incredibly finely-honed instincts when it comes to men - the problem occurs when they ignore them. If you run around digging into someone's past, find nothing and then presume all is copacetic, then you're setting yourself up to be a victim. The most reliable indicator of someone's personality is to watch their behaviour and trust your instincts. If you find yourself making excuses for someone's odd behaviour then you're not trusting your instincts. Security and safety are ongoing philosophical ideas - not procedures you run at the entry point to any relationship and then just presume all is well once they run the gauntlet of your background-checking.
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