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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 9:45:56 AM   
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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 9:47:09 AM   
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You know, I was in the hospital for the past week for an emergency.

I feel well enough to start reading the boards again.

I see a thread like this and it cracks me up.

If this is the worst problem a 38 year old woman who professes to have a perfect life has, then be happy you got played. There was nothing confusing about any of this; it was quite clear.

The one thing that continues to annoy me is when women (or men) try and use D/s as an excuse to believe that people will have higher behavioral standards than anyone else in life and that they instantly open their heart and legs to anyone professing to be a Dom.

Oh, and background checks? Background checks have nothing to do with behavior and integrity.

Hope you are ok.

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 4:17:05 PM   
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Having the experience of my red flags being confirmed by the domestic violence convictions has taught me to trust my gut. These men very very attractive to me and I'm sure the relationships would have ended in disaster had I proceeded. I'm grateful for the ability to get a reality check.

An attorney friend of mine has access to a more comprehensive database and found additional convictions for assault and battery.

The OP would not have proceeded had she known the guy was married ahead of time. Now she knows to check first.



I do not know which state or country you live in. But I would like to share some information about "convictions" by quoting from what a law professor said in his class (in California, USA) and how do the Department of Justice works.

His words: " I know lots of cases where people have been convicted wrongly of domestic violence, battery, assault, and even as sex offenders".

Domestic Violence convictions are just like a joke in California. Ask your lawyer to check about it and give you his opinions about that. Someone can get charged with no evidence of any event, and just to get out instead of staying in jail for months waiting for courts, he may sign a paper which will make him as "convicted".

About battery and assault charges, same thing can apply here too. You can easily get an assault charge for hitting a guy who is drunk or high, just to protect yourself. Even if, there is evidence for self-protection and that the guy that has been hit was drunk or high at that time, you can get convicted.

It even applies to crimes which can make a person as a "sex offender". You may be charged with no evidence, and just to get out, the person may sign the paper that will make him convicted.

You can ask your lawyer about these laws, crimes, conviction processes (ESPECIALLY ABOUT CALIFORNIA). He may inform you with more information.

I am not talking about with someone who has 5 domestic violence, 5 assaults, 5 batteries in his records, I am just saying from my experience while studying "Paralegal Studies" and "Law" in California. that if you see a couple of incidents in someone records, that probably is not showing you the character of the person.

From my experience, someone who has been convicted of other crimes than battery and assault, can be much more harmful in a relation than a guy convicted of "just" those crimes "a couple of times".

Another thing is the person's income. If you made lots of money while dealing drugs or earning some profit illegally, you can expunge your records by paying to the Department of Justice. Databases will not show it to anyone except Law Enforcement and Department of Justice. But if the person, is just making some income which doesn't let him have enough savings, and convicted of a crime, may not have that money to expunge his records. Most of the time felonies can be expunged easier than misdemeanors too. There are different practices about that. Shortly, if you have money; you can get a pardon or expunge by paying to Department of Justice, and if you don't have the money that record will show up anywhere.

This is just to inform and share some knowledge about how Department of justice works and that you probably will not know somebody from what you see on a screen or papers.

And also another thing about Domestic Violence related to this lifestyle is, people did and still get convictions of domestic violence because of bruises and other marks on their partners' bodies with the notice of her doctors. Even if the women say that they consented this, the man can still be charged with a phone call of the doctor, and get convicted afterwards (This is California).

Your lawyer should be able to inform you about these in a more professional way.

Have a nice day!






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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 4:30:04 PM   
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take a few precautions,
So do I. Condoms, but those aren't enough for you. They are for me.

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 4:36:11 PM   
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take a few precautions,
So do I. Condoms, but those aren't enough for you. They are for me.

I dont have any problem with you doing whatever you want, already said that.
Just dont expect to be sticking yours in mine.

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 4:42:47 PM   
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Holy shit, you're nuts.
No, just sensible. Why obsess about what might happen? It's highly unlikely, to happen, so I'm not going to worry about it.

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 4:48:47 PM   
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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 4:52:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Arpig

I hadn't really planned to tj. 90 is a little old for me. 

yeah, that does tend to scare off a few guys.

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/26/2011 7:06:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		i would suggest next time go slower it dont matter if you talk months online or days unless the communication was there that this was expected but there are losers everywhere not only in our lifestyle but everywhere and guys used this for the "pleasure" and hurt a sub or slave for any person for that matter it is a game for them , next time listern to your gut its always right........

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 4:45:47 AM   
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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 7:08:17 AM   
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I do not know which state or country you live in. But I would like to share some information about "convictions" by quoting from what a law professor said in his class (in California, USA) and how do the Department of Justice works.

His words: " I know lots of cases where people have been convicted wrongly of domestic violence, battery, assault, and even as sex offenders".


I'm getting a little tired of repeating "I already saw red flags." Both of these guys had anger and/or boundary issues. The domestic violence convictions confirmed my gut instinct that these were men I'd be better off avoiding. Look, how stupid would I be to get involved with a former pro athlete who'd been hauled into court for beating up his (now ex) wife (twice) and some dude???

My decision to not meet does not need to come to the standard of "beyond reasonable doubt" or "preponderance of the evidence."

No one gets hurt if I base my decision on faulty data (which I didn't.) I have no doubt that I would agree with you should you make an argument against the death penalty.

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 7:23:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Exactly kalikshama. Wrongly convicted or not, it still sounds like drama and an unacceptable risk to me. Why waste my time?
No doubt there are some people wrongly convicted. On the other hand, there are a whole lot more that were rightly convicted. And probably quite a few that were accused, not convicted, but should have been.
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

quote:

I do not know which state or country you live in. But I would like to share some information about "convictions" by quoting from what a law professor said in his class (in California, USA) and how do the Department of Justice works.

His words: " I know lots of cases where people have been convicted wrongly of domestic violence, battery, assault, and even as sex offenders".


I'm getting a little tired of repeating "I already saw red flags." Both of these guys had anger and/or boundary issues. The domestic violence convictions confirmed my gut instinct that these were men I'd be better off avoiding. Look, how stupid would I be to get involved with a former pro athlete who'd been hauled into court for beating up his (now ex) wife (twice) and some dude???

My decision to not meet does not need to come to the standard of "beyond reasonable doubt" or "preponderance of the evidence."

No one gets hurt if I base my decision on faulty data (which I didn't.) I have no doubt that I would agree with you should you make an argument against the death penalty.



< Message edited by Iamsemisweet -- 7/27/2011 7:37:49 AM >

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 8:19:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		For anyone thats interested.. i just found this today. 2 sites to see if the pics you have been given are legit or stolen.
I tried a few pics saved on my computer on tineye and came back with some very interesting results, didnt get anything from google on 2 pics from online tho.
Anyway, here is the info i found.. Anyone else care to give them a try?

How to unmask the fake online persona
Have you ever come across a profile on a social site and wondered…
Well google is your friend. go to google and click the images tag. Now open a new browser window and go to the suspect profile. Grab a picture and drag it over to the google search box, and drop…
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www.tineye.com
I like tineye because you can use their addon for firefox, it enables you to right click on any image and search using their database.


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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 9:30:04 AM   
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This is useful, thanks.


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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 9:53:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet

Well Tj, I ran your tit mouse picture, and it turns out, you are not real!  Just kidding obviously, I love your tit mouse.
This is useful, thanks.

lol Now I never said that titty mouse was mine. I wish I was that clever and artistic.

I was surprised & disappointed by the real source of some pics i was sent... oh well..

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 9:58:29 AM   
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www.tineye.com
I like tineye because you can use their addon for firefox, it enables you to right click on any image and search using their database.



Hey thanks so much. This is totally awesome. I just sent a picture of me there and i am fake. Just kidding. This is going to be so much fun. Bwahahahahaha

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 11:10:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet

Well Tj, I ran your tit mouse picture, and it turns out, you are not real!  Just kidding obviously, I love your tit mouse.
This is useful, thanks.

lol Now I never said that titty mouse was mine. I wish I was that clever and artistic.

I was surprised & disappointed by the real source of some pics i was sent... oh well..


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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 11:50:56 AM   
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Well, maybe you should go back to the clever artist, and see if he can do a pussy cat!  How fun would that be?

That would be cute too. I wonder where the little twitching pussy nose would be..

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 6:06:03 PM   
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For anyone thats interested.. i just found this today. 2 sites to see if the pics you have been given are legit or stolen.
I tried a few pics saved on my computer on tineye and came back with some very interesting results, didnt get anything from google on 2 pics from online tho.


I tried doing this with a photo of myself from a blog.  Tineye did not recognize it from the blog so this is not a fool proof method of discovering fakes.

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RE: Recent confusing experience (& it was my first as a/s) - 7/27/2011 7:50:48 PM   
tj444


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ORIGINAL: Tristan
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For anyone thats interested.. i just found this today. 2 sites to see if the pics you have been given are legit or stolen.
I tried a few pics saved on my computer on tineye and came back with some very interesting results, didnt get anything from google on 2 pics from online tho.


I tried doing this with a photo of myself from a blog.  Tineye did not recognize it from the blog so this is not a fool proof method of discovering fakes.

no, its not entirely foolproof and neither is the google image search. Those kind of sites and social networking sites likely arent viewed and saved in those databases or something.

I did get results from a couple of the pics i inputed but a few others didnt work. Nonetheless, I was surprised at the real source & sites of those pics.

Again, its just another tool to try, nothing to lose to try it.

Also, it says this- 2.If the page URL contains images, they may be hidden from TinEye (e.g. by javascript). Try submitting the image(s) from another source.



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