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Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 5:47:13 AM

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I am new to all this, my sub wants me to tell her sexual things to do when we are apart.

Her examples were only, "tell me when and how long to have a vaginal or anal plug" she is a preschool teacher and I'm reluctant to have her do things at work. It's not like the kids will know, but I will...

I have done the plug instructions, had her wear abrasives on her nipples and one time I told her; "pick a coin, you decide the denomination, the coin will decide your fate Tuesday night. Bring it with you" This seemed to excite her and gave her something to think about when the coin choice didn't really matter, there were two options with the coin she chose, heads or tails.

Anyone have any tips to keep her aroused when we are seperated? Maybe a link to some ideas I can use in my own way?

Thanks for any help or tips!

RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 6:31:46 AM

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For what length of time are you seperated? I would find it more arousing to
be told to refrain from anything sexual until your return. Not only does that solidify your
control over me, but it helps me practice self control at the same time. Win win!
So I suppose I'm not much help here.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 8:03:22 AM

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I don't want to get into the reasons why, But I can generally only see her once a week.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 9:51:01 AM

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a/k/a......I'm married.

and if I'm right I'd tell her to seek out another partner and try to forget you because you lover and care for her too much to continually hurt her.

If I'm wrong....tell her to think of you and not to touch herself or to touch herself but while keeping you in her mind as she does so.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 9:54:52 AM

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^ married & cheating?

Make her masturbate and anonymously call your wife right when she cums. Tell her to be real noisy when she cums. Schedule it so you are having sex with the wife at the same time. That way, you can order the wife answer the phone while you are fucking her. Then your POTS (piece on the side) will cum in her ear while you cum in her cunt.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 2:12:20 PM

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Maybe a link to some ideas I can use in my own way?

maybe this link will be of use. you may not think you need it right fucking now but you do, and you sure as fuck will before too long.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 2:25:16 PM

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I'm single, she is married. She comes to my area for a class once a week and stops by to visit me. No, I don't feel good about seeing a married woman but I did not seek her out, she found me. The way she described her situation made me feel like it wasn't a terrible thing I was doing. If we get caught it's a bigger problem for her, unless of course, I get shot. Feel free to judge me, I don't approve of it myself. But the whole D/s relationship is teaching me things about myself I never new, things that will help me in future relationships. This is just temporary, she is not leaving her husband for me. I am just a distraction, but it's a whole hell of a lot of fun while it lasts.

I'm guessing the urge to help me will be minimal now...

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 2:30:33 PM

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I don't want to get into the reasons why, But I can generally only see her once a week.

At first I wanted to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume it's a long distance relationship. When a guy says he can't get into the reasons why he can't see a woman more than once a week it screams MARRIED.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 3:01:47 PM

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I'm single, she is married.

makes no fucking difference.

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The way she described her situation made me feel like it wasn't a terrible thing I was doing.

you were wrong.

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If we get caught it's a bigger problem for her, unless of course, I get shot.

gee i can see you really fucking care about her.

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Feel free to judge me

we will

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I don't approve of it myself.

then why the fuck are you doing it? you don't approve but are doing it anyway - are you that fucking desperate? do you need to get your rocks off that fucking badly? a little fucking self control and integrity is in order here duckworth.

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But the whole D/s relationship is teaching me things about myself I never new, things that will help me in future relationships.

like how you'll do something you know is wrong just to get your fucking ya yas out.

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but it's a whole hell of a lot of fun while it lasts.

oh well then that makes everything just fucking fine.

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I'm guessing the urge to help me will be minimal now...

si! correcto!

actually i will help you. here's my advice - do the right thing, drop the fucking selfish slut and find yourself a single woman to get it on with. some shit should be fucking obvious.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 3:04:52 PM

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What you are doing is terrible, and you know it. So stop doing it. Don't enable her to cheat, it can only lead to bad things.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 3:10:01 PM

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I don't see how the ridicule helps anyone.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 3:13:48 PM

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You know, the foundation of this lifestyle is built on one thing: trust. You are making a mockery of it.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 3:23:12 PM

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If you don't want to help me, that's fine.

we are trying to help you twatwaffle. dump her, she's bad fucking news. she's cheating on her husband, she's lying to him. so it's been established that she's a fucking liar, do we really need to explain this shit to you? you know its wrong, so straighten the fuck up and do what you know you should. stop making excuses because you're getting some kick ass sex.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 3:54:13 PM

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twatwaffle

More like "blue waffle".

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 4:09:14 PM

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you wanna give her orders while you're apart??

Best one yet...tell her to take her and her husband to a marriage counselor....order her to. Demand it. If she doesn't obey she's not much of a slave now is she?

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 4:10:30 PM

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I don't see how the ridicule helps anyone.

So not true... it "helped" give me a good laugh -- purely at your expense. Now, go slap your twig and giggle-berries and shampoo the dish towels for as many times as it takes to clear your silly little mind, then dump the cheating cunt -- oh, and don't forget to wash the dish towels, 'cause that's just nasty!!!

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 4:12:16 PM

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..tell her to take her and her husband to a marriage counselor....order her to. Demand it. If she doesn't obey she's not much of a slave now is she?

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 4:21:17 PM

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I don't think anyone is trying to ridicule you OP, but people do get very heated and extremely poignant when it comes to cheating.

I don't condone cheating however I don't really care or have a definate opinion of it. I would assume that you and she are both adults and have both wieghed the pros and cons of what you are doing. I would also assume that you both have also considered that there may be serious consequences to your actions.

Given the cavilier attitude you had about being shot, I would say that you haven't really thought about that well enough. Given the attitudes here, you might want to take any reprocussions that happen if you were to be caught a little more seriously. Sometimes people do get upset and angry.
But that is only my objective view, yours may vary according to how you feel.
I won't tell you how to live your life, and if you want advice on how to keep your submissive happy, use your imagination or read other threads.

Another thing though that I read which does annoy me is the whole trust issue. I can understand that trust plays a big factor in relationships, but people who pratice kinky sex did not invent it, or have exclusive rights to it.
Trust happens in every relationship, it is not the most predominant thing just because you are kinky.
Trust to me in BDSM is more of a I trust you to not kill me or do any damage to my body or mind, because you happen to know what you're doing. It's not because you are in a kinky relationship and you will never stray or be attracted to anyone else ever.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 4:39:05 PM

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WOW I know cheating is wrong and everything but DAMN ya'll are just brutal!!

Since I don't know her whole situation (like almost none of it accept that she is married, trying to better herself in school, and obviously not the happy camper in her home life) I won't even begin to judge your (either one of you) actions.

That being said, there are all kinds of things that you can do when you are separated. Others mentioned not allowing her to cum (that is always an option), as well as what you've already tried. There are also things like using ice cubes on the clit, ginger root on her pussy or anus, tack bras, clothes pins on the nipples, gosh I could go on and on. You could have her journal/blog her thoughts or feelings on submission to you (though in her situation this could be damaging)

It really all depends on what your goals with her are (especially considering that this is temporary)

More information would be helpful. What do you like? Not like? What does she like? Not like? Do you want to punish, discipline or just keep her hot?

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 4:50:38 PM

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WOW I know cheating is wrong and everything but DAMN ya'll are just brutal!!

fucking right bubba. but there's a reason.

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No, I don't feel good about seeing a married woman

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I don't approve of it myself.

horny the hamster there knows its fucking wrong and is still doing it. he's doing something he says he disapproves of because he's enjoying getting a bit of nsa kink, so fuck him.

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