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Big difference between master and mistresses looking fo... - 9/4/2011 2:10:46 PM

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I have noticed a big difference in most profiles between men and women that are looking for slaves. In most womens they have something to the effect of how the slave must have a income or work outside the home. I have found that in almost zero of the mens looking for slaves. Does it show what is really important? Women want the men to make money and men want the woman to be available at all times.

RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 2:14:40 PM

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 2:15:47 PM

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That's one way to look at it.

Another is that they're both going by the traditional roles in which the man earns money.

Another is that the men are tapping into 24/7 fantasies more than the women. There seem to be more men into fantasizing vs RL than women.

Yet another is that the women may have had experience with a freeloader and have decided they're not going there again, while the men haven't had RL experience yet.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 2:22:57 PM

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The easy answer to this is that I don't think with My (proverbial) dick.

Ok, ok. For the benefit of discussion, I'll expand.

In My opinion, it isn't the money factor. Yes, I fully expect anyone joining My household to have their own means. I'm not here to financially support anyone.

Yet, it's more than that. I'm only interested in folks who are well rounded. I *want* that person to have all of the advantages that come from having a life that allows for outside experiences. Whether that is work, school, or through the community, I want them to have a greater scope. Through that, I get a better slave. One who enriches My life in a multitude of ways.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 2:24:08 PM

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This is the difference you focus on and could see between male and female dominant's? Humm...

Look, some may have a financial interest or lifestyle standards, but do you know how many men in the last few years that have been nearly homeless, homeless, ready to be relocated within weeks or are looking for someone to take care of them, that are out there? Lots. I have even seen guys complaining that domina's wouldn't take care of them! Personally, I am not into money or things and want time and a good guy. Anything he brings to the table is extra, but I don't want a lazy guy that didn't even try to do well in life, making my home his simply because of poor choices or the economy.

So while you are trying to point out that women are materialistic... are always concerned more what is in the back pocket than the front... you kind of look silly, focusing on the negative you may see and not seeing the positives that are out there and clear to see to those that have eyes and a stable balance and view of many things.

I like househusbands... I am just not supporting them anymore. Have you seen the economy and what has gone on socially for decades? It is truly a two income thing.

Good going on boxing us all in... you just put yourself into a box.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 2:36:02 PM

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Most women don't need it spelled out.

Guys who have to filter information from their little head through to their big head need to have it spelled out.

That's the difference.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 2:37:02 PM

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Haha! I know a lot, and I do mean a lot, of Master/slave or Male Dom/female sub couples.

Of those I know, not one allows for the slave/sub to be a 'stay at home' partner.

Men might not put it in their profiles simply because plenty of women understand this already. There are no free rides.

However, the amount of messages I get from men who will do anything and everything for me under the assumption they are going to be squatting at my house would lead me to believe that it is necessary to point out that it will never happen.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 2:48:35 PM

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Haha! I know a lot, and I do mean a lot, of Master/slave or Male Dom/female sub couples.

Of those I know, not one allows for the slave/sub to be a 'stay at home' partner.

Men might not put it in their profiles simply because plenty of women understand this already. There are no free rides.

However, the amount of messages I get from men who will do anything and everything for me under the assumption they are going to be squatting at my house would lead me to believe that it is necessary to point out that it will never happen.

I wouldn't go that far. I happen to know a few. Some of whom used to post here quite regularly. Perhaps you should expand your horizons.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 2:58:21 PM

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I wouldn't go that far. I happen to know a few. Some of whom used to post here quite regularly. Perhaps you should expand your horizons.

As I said, of those I know.

I certainly don't know every person or couple around and have no doubt that it happens and is enjoyed by people (male and female) outside of those I know.

No worries, I am.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 3:02:35 PM

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so basically another post eluding to all women are goldiggers. What a surprise.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 3:08:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: myrgth

Haha! I know a lot, and I do mean a lot, of Master/slave or Male Dom/female sub couples.

Of those I know, not one allows for the slave/sub to be a 'stay at home' partner.

I've known a couple, but the subs were disabled and could not work. One did domestic service and the other worked from home.

I agree that it's not common.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 4:20:15 PM

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so basically another post eluding to all women are goldiggers. What a surprise.

Yes, that's how I read it.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 4:44:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: myrgth
As I said, of those I know.

Meaning, you might want to open up your world a bit, huh?

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 4:52:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Meaning, you might want to open up your world a bit, huh?

I don't think that's quite fair, Lady P. I can't think of a d/s couple that I know in person who I know to have a stay-at-home partner. That's just a statement of fact. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen, just not with anyone I know (that I know of, although obviously I don't go round interrogating people about their work/life set-ups.)

Do I need to open my world up a bit further too? I'm not sure how I'd go about that...

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 5:05:40 PM

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Perhaps it's a cultural difference, VC.

If you would care to, please do feel free to message Me on the other side regarding this. I'll be happy to share certain names with you.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 5:35:42 PM

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What LP said - we want someone who is not secluded in the house. We want them to have friends and interests outside of the house. We want them to go out and socialize. Without that, their personality and intellect will stagnate.

Now, beyond that, we can't afford to have someone in our house helping to run up bills unless they are helping to pay them as well. We require at least a part time job. It can be min-wage, flipping burgers or whatever ... but they have to be able to contribute in some way. If they work from home, we will expect them to have some other "thing" that they do outside the home (volunteering, mentoring, whatever) - same if we happen to luck out and find someone that we mesh with who is independantly wealthy (although I'm not holding my breath on that happening lol).

I will also add this - as crazy as my job is, and as stressed as it makes me sometimes, I like my job, so even if we DID find someone who was wealthy enough that I didn't have to work full time, I probably still would (well ... maybe not full time ... but at least 2 days a week). I don't expect anyone to fund my life any more than I will fund anyone else's.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 5:45:18 PM

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To the OP:
The majority of Dommes I have ran into simply did not want a greedy free loader on their hands. I see nothing wrong with the Domme wanting me to be self sustaining. On the other had though I have come across Dommes looking for a live in slave.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 6:01:28 PM

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I think the majority of dommes want the man to make more than they make which is the traditional Mf model.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 6:13:44 PM

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That's your first post? Really?

Agreeing with Mummyman. Right now, I can't afford a househusband, and the reverse 50's household fantsy isn't my thing. I want someone with a parallel background to mine, who can contribute to the household. If we're BOTH working, chances are we can both retire.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 6:27:04 PM

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And, I am not sure if I have ever met more than one person using this site.

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