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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 6:46:50 PM

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I have noticed a big difference in most profiles between men and women that are looking for slaves. In most womens they have something to the effect of how the slave must have a income or work outside the home. I have found that in almost zero of the mens looking for slaves. Does it show what is really important? Women want the men to make money and men want the woman to be available at all times.

Oh crap. Are you intimating that all Dommes are in it for the money? Subtle you're not and insulting you are. Daddy and I both work and I expect my sub to work too....and he DOES. We all pay our own share around here when we do things together. No one gets a free ride. NO ONE. I don't think it's a case of all women being in it for the $$ but I think, like someone else already said, we've been down that road before with freeloaders and don't want to take that route again. In today's economy, unless someone has a helluva good income, both partners really do need to work or have SOME kind of income.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 7:01:10 PM

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And, I am not sure if I have ever met more than one person using this site.

I have met well over a hundred. What's your point?

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 7:34:58 PM

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Meaning, you might want to open up your world a bit, huh?

I don't think that's quite fair, Lady P. I can't think of a d/s couple that I know in person who I know to have a stay-at-home partner. That's just a statement of fact. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen, just not with anyone I know (that I know of, although obviously I don't go round interrogating people about their work/life set-ups.)

Do I need to open my world up a bit further too? I'm not sure how I'd go about that...

I am a stay at home partner. For the first few years I just stayed at home and went to school. Now I work from home. *shrugs* It works for us. (he likes to have me available to take care of things he's not available to take care of while he's at work)

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 7:35:11 PM

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My point is its not a great site to meet women.

Second I forgot to mention that a woman asked me for money tonight to meet her. If you want me to send you a copy of the email I will.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 7:55:17 PM

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My point is its not a great site to meet women.

Second I forgot to mention that a woman asked me for money tonight to meet her. If you want me to send you a copy of the email I will.

LOL.......I have met many.......maybe your technique is a little bit lacking?

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 8:02:53 PM

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My point is it's not a great site to meet women who will fuck me without me putting any effort into being interesting and attractive by sitting on my ass.

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Second I forgot to mention that a woman asked me for money tonight to meet her. If you want me to send you a copy of the email I will.

That doesn't validate a damn thing.

To answer the OP:

Well, I believe a basic understanding of responsible adults; is to decide what they expect from eachother, what thier goals in life are. Are there stay at home slaves? Sure. Is it for everyone? No. I would not accept a pet that didn't contribute to the household. I have two and they both go to college and work. If it's a dynamic you want and you can find someone to share that with, great. It's not for everyone.

The reason you likely see a Domme stating it is because female subs who expect to be freeloaders generally state that is what they seek. While the men who are otherwise oblivious have to have it pointed out.

I'm so glad I don't have to put up with half the shit the Dommes do when I start looking again.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 8:34:40 PM

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Haha! I know a lot, and I do mean a lot, of Master/slave or Male Dom/female sub couples.

Of those I know, not one allows for the slave/sub to be a 'stay at home' partner.

Men might not put it in their profiles simply because plenty of women understand this already. There are no free rides.

Well, shit. I guess I have to come up with plan b, now. Thanks.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 9:11:23 PM

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My technique is probably lacking, women these days frown on being dragged back to my cave by their hair.

None of the women have contested my assertion that in general they are looking for a man who makes more money than they do along the traditional model.

Sorry you were fixed E, it must be difficult for you living with two goddesses. But seriously, your reply as a male dom is irrelevant to the male sub experience.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 9:19:55 PM

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want to know why you aren't meeting women? because you're a whiny misogynistic little fuck.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 9:47:50 PM

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I don't have it written into my profile because I'm not really a big fan of making YOU MUST statements up front, but I'm quite insistent that potential slaves have some source of income, for two reasons. For one, it strikes me as a power dynamic if I go out and work every day and she sits at home doing whatever it is she pleases. I don't want kids (no, really) and I'm not a huge fan of clean so someone who didn't work would just be chilling while I do the work. Who is serving whom in that scenario? Unless she's an heiress or something she'd best be doing something productive with her time. That said, I wouldn't be all that big a fan of a slave who worked long hours and came home exhausted, by the same token, because how much service could I reasonably expect from someone who worked 70 hour weeks? In short, I do have rather specific demands on a potential slave's employment status, just as do dommes. I can't say for certain if this holds true across the board, since I think a lot of people revert to traditionalism in femsub relationships as it provides a familiar framework on which to build a patriarchal relationship, but I doubt I'm alone over here.

I will say this as to the difference - it seems like dommes are much more willing to put hard requirements into their profiles than doms. I read a profile not 2 days ago that had upwards of 5 pages of requirements and probing questions right off the bat. I suspect this springs from their being inundated by potentials and wanting to be efficient. I don't spend a great deal of time reading either gender's profiles - mostly it's just people from the forums that I click through to check ASLO out of curiosity - but that is my impression. I imagine that's what you're seeing - since you never interact with doms long enough to know whether or not we have similar requirements you make assumptions based on profiles which are not really valid.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 9:49:16 PM

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Males make up the majority of the 'do-me and I'll pay' fetishists and bottoms, which defines a coupla the posters, who appear to be searching only for barely-legal grls-gone-wild pros or hos.

Meanwhile, back here on planet earth, I frequently make more than my partners; rich guys tend to be the least generous with their time, which is the attribute I'm most interested in.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 10:49:18 PM

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A year or two back, when I was looking for a partner, I did get a message from a guy who expected me to work and keep him in the lifestyle to which he had become accustomed.

Judging by the pics he sent, that included eating McDs, watching too much TV and avoiding water and soap at all costs

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 10:59:08 PM

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My technique is probably lacking, women these days frown on being dragged back to my cave by their hair.

None of the women have contested my assertion that in general they are looking for a man who makes more money than they do along the traditional model.

Sorry you were fixed E, it must be difficult for you living with two goddesses. But seriously, your reply as a male dom is irrelevant to the male sub experience.

I just got back to this thread, and you are completely full of shit. I currently make more than Holly and rob combined. I make more than most of the guys that we have talked to over the last 10 years or so. You know what? I LIKE THAT. I like knowing that I'm the bread winner. I like knowing that I can support myself. I can honestly say that I only know of one guy that we have talked to in the last 5 years for sure that made more than me, and HE is the one who brought it up. Please re-read my first post in this thread which states that I don't expect a free ride from anyone.

It's no wonder you're having trouble meeting people here.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/4/2011 11:49:41 PM

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And, I am not sure if I have ever met more than one person using this site.

I have met well over a hundred. What's your point?

At this point, I've probably met two hundred. At least 75% have been forum regulars at one time or another. Doing so isn't really all that hard. I never understand when people pull that 'you can't meet anybody from here' card. If you can't....... Seriously, you're doing it wrong.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/5/2011 12:02:14 AM

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Perhaps it's a cultural difference, VC.

If you would care to, please do feel free to message Me on the other side regarding this. I'll be happy to share certain names with you.

Oh I don't need names - I absolutely believe you if you say that there are couples who do this. No question. :-)

But I don't knowingly know any of them - and that's all that other lady said too. I just don't think it's quite fair to have a go at her about it, is all.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/5/2011 12:12:03 AM

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Come across the pond, VC. I'll throw you a party that will spin your head.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/5/2011 12:56:34 AM

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I have a live in sub that has worked in the past. He might again in the future. At the moment he is where I want him. in my home 24/7. I support our household. As for someone new that might want to become part of what I do here well......If it's a sub/slave/whatever it bettter damn well at least show up with enough money to take care of it's self. Or be willing to work to earn it(and I don't mean from me) If it is a client, well duh you pay for someone elses time if you want a session. I don't need a leech that is only wanting to dust once a week. Do dishes when ordered. Fuck to his hearts content. And expect me to pay his bills. I am a domme mommy, but I am not your mother. You might be shocked how many men I have to explain that to.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/5/2011 1:13:35 AM

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Truly some Women are from not just Venus but are outer planetary. Why any Woman would not be pleased to have a man as their servant to do all their housework for no charge even if he did not have an independent income of his own is totally beyond me. Some Women just dont know when they are getting it good. Then again some do, and are more than pleased to have an unemployed male servant do all the work for them for no charge. Like i say some Women are just outer planetary. If i live to be 105 i will not understand most Women
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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/5/2011 1:18:23 AM

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Why any Woman would not be pleased to have a man as their servant to do all their housework for no charge even if he did not have an independent income of his own is totally beyond me.

because after working all day to make money to support the dickie little freeloader she'll have to do all the housework because he fucked it up when he tried to do it.

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RE: Big difference between master and mistresses lookin... - 9/5/2011 1:44:02 AM

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well that wouldnt be me. i would leave the house spotless. i can cook, scrub floors, water plants and wash Your car if You wish. i would also be pleased to do hoovering and washing up dishes as well as making beds. what more could a Woman ask for
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