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A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 3:49:01 PM

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I can't believe I am asking this; and I hope, I sincerely hope, that no one takes offense at the question that I am going to ask. My curiosity is killing me though.

Ok.

The question centers around submissive men; I am asking here because I figure that most submissive men read the Mistress forums, and because the Mistress's are just as knowledgeable in this area as the men would be.

Submissive men who are straight; and by straight I mean, totally straight, with no bi-sexual urges at all; that is who this aimed at mainly.

(Please forgive me if my knowledge in this is way off base; what's more, feel free to set me straight if I am way off base )

It's my understanding that many Dominant woman 'play' with their subs/slaves? Correct?
It is also my understanding that this play sometimes involves the use of dildo's or butt plugs? Correct?

Well, for a man who is submissve, but totally and completely straight, how does this integrate into your life with your partner/play partner, etc?

I guess what I am asking, to be blunt, is "how do you handle being sexually used in that way, IF you are straight'?

( And I know that many of the answers are going to be 'because my Mistress wishes me to do do these things" but, I am trying to get away from the standard answers like that. I am truly interested in how the men ACTUALLY feel about this part of their life, the feelings that accompany them, and how they handle them . If that makes any sense.)

Again, I am not trying to offend; just very curious.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 3:55:02 PM

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"how do you handle being sexually used in that way, IF you are straight'?

Being anally penetrated has about as much to do with being heterosexual as does eating mashed potatoes.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 3:55:58 PM

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Relax honey! lol

Everyone has areas anally that can be pleasurable. It really is as simple as that. It isn't a gay thing. It is a human thing.

You want to blow some people's minds... check out those domina's that like a bit of action there too! It is all about pleasure and not an imagining necessarily, of a man being up in there.

Some see it as power in the taking of a man... some don't. There are different ways of it, but most of it in my opinion is all about pleasure.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 3:56:35 PM

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"how do you handle being sexually used in that way, IF you are straight'?
Being anally penetrated has about as much to do with being heterosexual as does eating mashed potatoes.

That's what I had always believed, however, from recent discussions with others, I have come to discover that they have associated it with their sexuality. Which is what prompted the question.

edited to add: I should have said that they are now confused and questioning their sexual orientation; that is what prompted the question.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 3:59:58 PM

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Relax honey! lol

Everyone has areas anally that can be pleasurable. It really is as simple as that. It isn't a gay thing. It is a human thing.

You want to blow some people's minds... check out those domina's that like a bit of action there too! It is all about pleasure and not an imagining necessarily, of a man being up in there. Some see it as power in the taking of a man... some don't. There are different ways of it, but most of it in my opinion is all about pleasure.

This I agree with, and I tried to explain to them that it did not have anything to do with their sexual orientation. I was wondering though if many men went through this same confusion.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 4:04:09 PM

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I am sure they do, but most likely a five minute discussion, maybe with some experimentation... could resolve that confusion I think. lol If not, I would think there was something a bit more serious behind it.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 4:07:18 PM

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I should have said that they are now confused and questioning their sexual orientation; that is what prompted the question.

Ah, well perhaps you should ask them why they think having a woman engage in a common sex act with them makes them anything but heterosexual.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 4:12:19 PM

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For something to be homosexual, you have to do it with someone of the same sex, eh? Plenty of entirely vanilla men like anal stimulation. Plenty of women do, too.

Fucking is pretty much...fucking.

Ask the dudes who are questioning who they are turned on by, Jason Momoa or ...I dunno, Megan Fox.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 4:26:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

I guess what I am asking, to be blunt, is "how do you handle being sexually used in that way, IF you are straight'?

( And I know that many of the answers are going to be 'because my Mistress wishes me to do do these things" but, I am trying to get away from the standard answers like that. I am truly interested in how the men ACTUALLY feel about this part of their life, the feelings that accompany them, and how they handle them . If that makes any sense.)

Ok, I'm not entirely straight - I've had fantasies about males before. On the other hand, it's rare that I'll get excited about the thought of strap-ons. I only ever considered them when I came to CM. So, you may or may not want to hear from me ;-)

If I were to be taken by a woman who is using a strap-on, it'd be a thrill a) because it's about her pleasure at my expense and b) because it is so *wrong*. That is absolutely *not* what men are 'made for' . . . which is why it'd be fun.

So, you see, the answer to your question "I guess what I am asking, to be blunt, is "how do you handle being sexually used in that way, IF you are straight'?" - is *precisely because*, in a sense, it *can't* be handled, can't be fitted into any reasonable idea of 'what's right'.

If I'm being taken with a strap-on, I'll not only think, 'This is unmanly', I'll really go for it. It's the masochist in me. See? It's the 'wrongness' of it all that works for me.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 4:43:06 PM

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I should have said that they are now confused and questioning their sexual orientation; that is what prompted the question.

I like getting a strap-on up my pussy, I guess by their reasoning that would mean I am really straight. Perhaps ask them this question <gotta love that Socratic method!!>:

If a woman likes having a man go down on her does that make her a lesbian?

After all, lesbians spend an inordinate amount of their sexual play time eating pussy, the four of us have devoted most of the last 8 hours to doing just that, so getting your pussy eaten is obviously a "Lesbian" thing.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 4:51:13 PM

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Sounds gay.

Tell me more.

Just kidding.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 4:51:44 PM

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Alas, I will never be a lesbian.

. But I put a lot of research and experimentation into choosing a sgrap on and making a harness I liked. Am I a guy?

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 5:44:50 PM

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Am I a guy?

No. You're too short and bad tempered.

I hope that helps . . . .

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 5:47:11 PM

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I am enirely certain that there are short, bad tempered men, Darling. In my own family, even! (I am Italian, after all)

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 5:48:37 PM

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That ought to go over well. I would try to correct you on that Peon, but I would rather watch the flames since I missed a campfire this weekend.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 5:50:40 PM

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Man... LadyHib is so much nicer than I am!

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 5:52:38 PM

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There are certainly people who believe this sort of thing (people will believe anything and not use their own noggins after all!) I remember seeing an episode of The Sopranos in which Uncle Junior had gone down on a woman and he was considered gay after that. (HUH?!) It was about giving pleasure rather than receiving.

Being gay is not about how you fuck (or even who you fuck really)... it's about who you fall in love with, who makes your heart go pitter patter, who you can't stop thinking about.

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 5:52:51 PM

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I know she is. She's a sweetie. Softy, fluffy, sweetie.

Arntcha, Hibbie? ;-)

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 5:53:40 PM

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Peon and I "get" each other pretty well, Lockit!

And he knows I have an incredible memory!

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RE: A very Awkward question... - 9/5/2011 5:55:30 PM

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I know, but I was just hoping! lol I've been denied a camp fire... I thought just maybe, I could see someone get roasted!

Damn it! hehe

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