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Focus50 -> RE: Not a sucker (9/11/2011 3:45:45 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave
Ok, so I am back and kinda maybe sorta thinking about looking for a dom like person again, but just maybe sorta :D
I have been very vanilla for the last 3 years and away from these boards for a long while. I know I probably asked this question sometime in the past but there is new blood here now and anyway I can’t for the life of me remember what was said to me (I swear I searched with little luck finding a thread if I did indeed start one.)
Anyway… I wanted to get an idea of what you domly like people thought of someone who would not give oral, at all.
Is it a must? Is the girl less subly if she won’t suck you? What if the hard limit is there for a good reason? Do you work on it with her or do you let it be? If you take the girl on in hopes of being able to work with her enough to be able to but it turns out she may never be able to do you stay with her or do you leave?
I am wondering if this is a strange limit for someone who identifies as sub/bottom whatever, to have?
Have any of you ever delt with a sub that wouldn't?
Even with a willing sub, "forced" oral isn't just about a blowjob, it's one of those defining acts of domination (and submission).
So in your case, I'd revert to one of my most basic standards of dealing with my sub - that I'll accept a valid reason for anything, but NOT an excuse. That and I'd assume we have enough mutal chemistry to look past something that I'd otherwise consider normal for a D/s relationship (or vanilla, too, but I ain't going there anymore).
Now I'm not gonna pry into your personal reasons, assuming it's private, but I am curious about a related aspect. Since I refer to it as oral service and mostly consider it an act of domination (rather than sex), I don't always proceed to what most would consider the obvious conclusion or outcome. Often, I just enjoy making her work it with her mouth, including just teasing and slapping her about the face with it. Then there's the look on a sub's face, whose eagerness to please is halted just short of her lips etc.
In other words, *sucking* doesn't necessarily include climax. Ok, more often than not, but still not always.... My question would be whether your reluctance/unwillingness is with just the sucking, period, or with your man cumming in your mouth?
Focus.
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