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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 11:52:29 PM

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Simple. Her health is your responsibility. Sort it.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 3:11:29 AM

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I'm not sure.

She yelled so loud, she gave me a migraine!

Oh for God's sake quit yer whining, here let me give you some impact play.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 3:13:14 AM

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May you suffer severe migraines, blinding migraines...

Now that's just cruel, unless you're willing to help them get through it with some impact play.

I have a hammer you can borrow.

K.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 3:13:15 AM

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Do you think breast torture might be a better solution? You can get it at Walgreens now, yanno.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 4:42:42 AM

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Lockit, I love you.
And where the hell did random shouter come from?

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 4:58:26 AM

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When I typed in my comments. They showed up as a small font. and I could not delete the post after I made it. But I did get my point across. There are to many selfish ignorant stupid people on this site.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 5:17:20 AM

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Hi Katherine,

FYI, you can edit your post for up to an hour. Also, instead of clicking OK, you can click the Preview button right next to it - I often Preview my posts when the contain a lot of formatting to make sure all is as I intend.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 6:18:31 AM

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Katherine- they deserved the shouting!

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 6:46:45 AM

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Thanks Kalikshama and Fornica for letting me know. That was the first post I have ever made. It just made me so very angry.

I worked in the medical field for 15 years and i suffer from horrible migraines, I sometimes have to go into the Emergency Room for IV and IM injections. I have seen several Neurologists and no one has been able to give me much help.

I just cannot believe anyone could be so self absorbed and narcissistic. It is people like that that give BDSM a BAD REPUTATION.

Not taking care of a slave's medical condition is ABUSE!

And I do not care about ANYONE's claims that slaves have NO RIGHTS, ABUSE is NOT BDSM!

These two people have NO RIGHT to call themselves Dom/Domme, they are NOT Dom/Domme, they are abusers trying to justify their sick and twisted life...they do not deserve anyone's respect or servitude.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 7:21:18 AM

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*Added... before someone jumps my bones about the change of tone in the op's... when called on something, they always backtrack and seem more reasonable as if they learned something. I am not buying it.

Yup. And suddenly they're going to discuss it on the second meeting...because it never occurred to them to discuss it on the first meeting because they were too busy being annoyed.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 7:35:55 AM

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Yup. And suddenly they're going to discuss it on the second meeting...because it never occurred to them to discuss it on the first meeting because they were too busy being annoyed.

The important issue is they are going to discuss it, indeed they were insensitive and/or unaware of the devastating effects a migraine can have but are aware of it now. I know of no one who has not made error in judgment in the course of life’s living and know of many, many who have learned and increased the content in the self of them via lessons learned from mistakes.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 8:11:33 AM

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On medical issues, an error of judgement can hare dire consequences. A google search on migranes would have shown them WebMD and the Mayo Clinic for starters.

Emotional stress is one of the most common triggers of migraines and tension headaches (stress headaches). Migraine sufferers are generally found to be more emotional and highly effected by stressful events. During stressful events, certain chemicals in the brain are released to combat the situation (know as the "flight or fight" response). The release of these chemicals can provoke blood vessel changes that can cause migraine headaches.

http://www.webmd.com/migraines-headaches/guide/triggers-stress

New meetings are always stressful.

And thats just the start. Both sites, and many more, are loaded with information. Asking questions on what to do is one thinking. Saying how annoying someone's behavior is just shows you know nothing, and didnt bother to even look.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 8:13:40 AM

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Arienos,

With all due respect, BULLSHIT!

This is not a mistake, she said HERSELF, her slave suffers from DEBILITATING MIGRAINES....HELLO that means SHE KNEW AND UNDERSTOOD, she just did not care for her slaves health, she cared more about BEING ANNOYED.

It is narcissism....CLASSIC NARCISSISM, it is found in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV), it is a MENTAL ILLNESS, A PERSONALITY DISORDER NOT A MISTAKE.

I know I was married to someone with Anti-social Personality Disorder, a component of which is narcissism. I also have a son with severe mental illness.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 8:24:10 AM

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No offence, but your posting style reminds me of someone else I would rather not see posting.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 8:33:27 AM

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I would more then take the time to get her to subspace. Have played with her many times and sessions are at least 2hrs and am very knowledgeable on how endorphins are released in the body.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 8:36:43 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Arienos

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Yup. And suddenly they're going to discuss it on the second meeting...because it never occurred to them to discuss it on the first meeting because they were too busy being annoyed.

The important issue is they are going to discuss it, indeed they were insensitive and/or unaware of the devastating effects a migraine can have but are aware of it now. I know of no one who has not made error in judgment in the course of life’s living and know of many, many who have learned and increased the content in the self of them via lessons learned from mistakes.

According to him/her/them...they get migraines.....so how could they not be aware?

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 8:36:48 AM

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Using fast reply b/c I just have to stick my toe in the water here.

I have had the misfortune to suffer from a horrendous migraine on more than one occasion. This type of debilitating migraine renders you incapable of doing anything other than moan, suffer, and throw up. This is not the type of pain you "work through" by any means, b/c it's not *just* pain, the sufferer is often extremely sensitive to light, to smells, to sound, etc.

Which means I call bullshit on the s-type having a debilitating migraine. I'm going to call it a bad headache (although a neurologist friend of mine says the latest word on headaches is that they are all migraines).

Most of us have had to go to work, do chores, care for the kids, whatever, with a bad headache.

The thing about a bad headache though is it hurts (don't you love these profound statements of mine?). It's supposed to, most of the time it's your body letting you know something is wrong. If at all possible, someone with a bad headache should be encouraged to take pain meds, then lie down and relax and see if the meds help. This is basic compassion.

If your very new slave serves you with pleasure and grace except for the times she has a bad headache, well gee. The thing to do OP is look to yourself. Are you such an asshole that your slave is too afraid to tell you she is not up to doing chores and needs to lie down?

I'm voting for yes, you are that much of an asshole. That you found her behavior annoying as well means you are not *just* an asshole, but a narcissist as well (good call, Katherine).

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 9:09:08 AM

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First the stones were thrown and then a few people picked up rocks. Is there an eventual point to any of this?

People sometimes make mistakes for their own selfish reasons. In this case I suspect they talked about it together and built it up to be something that pissed them both off. They also spoke to another on scene person and from the sound of it that on scene person gave them some negative feedback. From later posts that they have written, I suspect they realize this and want to put things right.
Why don't we just let them do that. At the end of the day she stayed for the 14 days and wants to get back together with them, so they must of been doing something right.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 9:11:39 AM

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For those who addressed the original question and tried to give incite into what steps to take to help this situation...thank you. For the judgmental ones who can go around and say things you have said about someone you do not even know...that says a lot about you. I would never verbally attack anyone that I did not personally know and to me the people that do that. Really show there true colors.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/29/2011 9:16:09 AM

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Another symptom of NARCISSISM!

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