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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 1:13:24 PM   
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If the lady in question doesn't work out, they better hope the next potential doesn't read the forum.

"Wait, so if i am seriously sick - they'll get annoyed with me? Fuck that."

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I have serious trouble believing you are concerned one bit about this slave.

You've had migraines, and like LL has pointed out, you know they affect others differently, and yet, you are annoyed by her wincing.

Right. Ok.


Seems there is a good reason they can't find a third who wants to stick around, huh?


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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 3:28:49 PM   
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This does not seem like a situation where the question is about whether this is the right slave for you. This is about whether or not you are the right Masters for her. It sounds like she deserves better and I hope she has the confidence to walk away from a situation that is this intolerant.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 4:10:34 PM   
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The first post you wrote shocked me and my initial reaction was to come back and have a real go at you both but I'm not going to do that except to say, new poly can have many hurdles but the more in house you keep them, the better your poly will become.
Any problems I have with my husband I wouldn't discuss on here and any problems he has with his girl he wouldn't discuss on here. He would talk about it with both of us. This in my opinion is the only way to resolve things.
The thing is, this is not such a complex situation. She is a good slave in every other way than she suffers crippling migraines. You are perhaps suspicious that the migraines are put on and that she is attention seeking but unfortunately that is an impossible thing to know and so you have to take her for her word. Migraines are often caused by stress and so you have to ask yourselves, are you making her anxious?
What medication does she take? and does her medication work because if not, you need to help her find one that does.
People with migraines usually need quiet time in a darkened room. Vision is often disturbed and pain behind the eyes can literally have you banging your head against the wall. You absolutely can not allow her to work when she is suffering, even if she insists she can manage.
You had her for 14 days. How many migraines did she get and was there a pattern to her getting them?
It sounds like she needs to relax and feel more comfortable with you both and its time all three of you sat down and talked about this together.

On a side note we are a couple that have had very successful and ongoing poly. Our present relationship is, Steve has a girl and I don't but I am Steve's wife. Neither Steve or me discuss his girl in a negative way behind her back... not ever. Anything I or he has to say is said to her face. Early experience showed us that going behind one anothers backs is a sure way to build resentment and resentment within a poly household is potentially disastrous. Its ok to spend 24 hours pondering the issues but ultimately you have to deal with it in an open and frank manner.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 5:15:02 PM   
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If this is how the bitch responds to migraines, can you imagine how useless she'll be if she dies on you?

Dump her, quick.


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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 5:20:04 PM   
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MariaB.....I know we need to understand her situation better and how to deal with her migraines, she has said that when she does get them that it helps ease them if she has impact play and breast torture. I had never heard that as something to help, but she says it does. Again I thank all for there input and ways to go about better understanding how to help her with this.We will look forward to seeing her this weekend and getting a better understanding how we can help and work with her when she has them.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 5:40:39 PM   
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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 5:42:35 PM   
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The fact your OP stated you were annoyed, and you asked for help in this aspect, tells me your concern is not there.  I don't see it as a communication problem, you were quite plain and to the point.  She annoyed you.

The responses were probably not what you were hoping for, so now your coming at this from a different angle. I agree with so many here, this union has disaster written all over it.  Honestly, I thought this thread was a joke, not to be taken seriously at all.  I couldn't understand why someone would write on a message forum that the discomfort of another was annoying. 


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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 5:50:11 PM   
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She says impact play and breast torture help her migranes? Thats VERY interesting.
Is this post for real? Im beginning to smell some bullshit.

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MariaB.....I know we need to understand her situation better and how to deal with her migraines, she has said that when she does get them that it helps ease them if she has impact play and breast torture. I had never heard that as something to help, but she says it does. Again I thank all for there input and ways to go about better understanding how to help her with this.We will look forward to seeing her this weekend and getting a better understanding how we can help and work with her when she has them.








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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 5:51:35 PM   
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she has said that when she does get [migraines] that it helps ease them if she has impact play and breast torture.


This seems extremely strange. Counteract one pain with another? I'm starting to think this slave you have under consideration has a screw loose. Or she's pulling your leg. Or you're messing with the forum posters.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 6:00:42 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: January

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she has said that when she does get [migraines] that it helps ease them if she has impact play and breast torture.


This seems extremely strange. Counteract one pain with another? I'm starting to think this slave you have under consideration has a screw loose. Or she's pulling your leg. Or you're messing with the forum posters.

January


Only thing I can think of is endorphin release with impact play/breast torture? Still smells of BS to me though.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 6:30:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: oddlots347

MariaB.....I know we need to understand her situation better and how to deal with her migraines, she has said that when she does get them that it helps ease them if she has impact play and breast torture. I had never heard that as something to help, but she says it does. Again I thank all for there input and ways to go about better understanding how to help her with this.We will look forward to seeing her this weekend and getting a better understanding how we can help and work with her when she has them.

I don't get not discussing it with her the first time.

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ORIGINAL: January

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she has said that when she does get [migraines] that it helps ease them if she has impact play and breast torture.


This seems extremely strange. Counteract one pain with another? I'm starting to think this slave you have under consideration has a screw loose. Or she's pulling your leg. Or you're messing with the forum posters.

January


Only thing I can think of is endorphin release with impact play/breast torture? Still smells of BS to me though.

Endorphins would dialate the blood vessels, so it is possible....


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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 7:43:16 PM   
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My sub is SUCH a bitch man, she broke her collar bone and was all <whineineedmedicalattentionwhine> <mybonesarestickingoutwhine>, it irritated the hell out of me. I was trying to watch the price is right. I finally just threw a blanket over her to muffle her whining. She couldn't breathe, but that totally was NOT my problem.
Annoying bitch.
Get a blanket.
HTH

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 8:48:14 PM   
January


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I would think pain play to release endorphins to counteract a migraine would require a top's time and skill (experience, too). The OP doesn't want to listen to this slave whine while she cleans. Does anyone really think the OP would have the needed patience and devotion to affect a subspace cure? I don't. They'd slap her breasts once and say, "There ya go, slave. Migraine fixed. Now get back to work."

I believe this migraine cure is a red herring.

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 9:10:51 PM   
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I cannot believe how insensitive and selfish you two are. You get ANNOYED because she is unable to completely hide the fact she is in terrible terrible pain.

She has a SERIOUS MEDICAL CONDITION! AS IN NEEDS MEDICAL HELP...MEDICATION, QUIET AND DARK COMFORTABLE ROOM TO REST!!!

YOU GUYS NEED A LESSON AS SLAVES FOR A FEW MONTHS WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE AS INSENSITIVE AS YOU ARE!!! I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS CRAP!

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 9:11:54 PM   
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lmfao

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 10:09:03 PM   
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Soooooooo... what are ya tryin' to say here?!!



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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 10:22:42 PM   
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I'm not sure.

She yelled so loud, she gave me a migraine!

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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 10:30:51 PM   
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Have had a slave with us for the past 14 days. She has gone back home for a few day. She is willing to do just about anything to please us and is learning her routine quickly and without much correcting. However there is a problem. She suffers from debilitating migraines and when she gets one, she still does what she is told to do, but when she is on a task. she is winching and sighing as she does her work and this really annoys us. Does anyone have any suggestions about when she is like this how to handle it?



Every time you people open your mouth you surprise me, because I really didn't think you could be any worse than I thought you were already. I won't be unsuspecting or surprised again. May you suffer severe migraines, blinding migraines so you may be taught the hard way, what it is like and find some patience and understanding in your callous souls. How the hell did you make it this far in life?

*Added... before someone jumps my bones about the change of tone in the op's... when called on something, they always backtrack and seem more reasonable as if they learned something. I am not buying it.


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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 10:56:54 PM   
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May you suffer severe migraines, blinding migraines...

Now that's just cruel, unless you're willing to help them get through it with some impact play.

I have a hammer you can borrow.

K.




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RE: Slave under consideration - 11/28/2011 10:59:35 PM   
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May you suffer severe migraines, blinding migraines so you may be taught the hard way...

Now that's just cruel unless you're willing to help them get through it with some impact play.

I have a hammer you can borrow.

K.





Why thank you, but I have a large tool box or two around here! Very sweet of you to offer though!


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