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ORIGINAL: ConfidencePlays

I'm a dom. I'm also a man. A man who takes responsibility for his actions, his behavior, his thoughts, his words, and everything properly his.

Which is why I can say, without any hesitation or second guessing.... that I am -always- prepared to apologize when I am in the wrong. Humans tend to get a lot of things wrong, and I'm no exception to that rule.

Any man who isn't able to own up to his mistakes, failures, shortcomings, lapses in good taste, good judgment or proper decorum, accidents, "incidents" and all other manner of issues stemming from their basic humanity.... isn't able to "man up" enough to even be called a man.

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Here here!

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ORIGINAL: ConfidencePlays

I'm a dom. I'm also a man. A man who takes responsibility for his actions, his behavior, his thoughts, his words, and everything properly his.

Which is why I can say, without any hesitation or second guessing.... that I am -always- prepared to apologize when I am in the wrong. Humans tend to get a lot of things wrong, and I'm no exception to that rule.

Any man who isn't able to own up to his mistakes, failures, shortcomings, lapses in good taste, good judgment or proper decorum, accidents, "incidents" and all other manner of issues stemming from their basic humanity.... isn't able to "man up" enough to even be called a man.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I know this is going to come across as snarky but it's seriously not intended that way.

Exactly what IS an old school dom? What defines one? Is there such a thing as a new school, and if so, what defines one? How does new school and old school differ? Is there some sort of age cut off between the two?

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I know this is going to come across as snarky but it's seriously not intended that way.

Exactly what IS an old school dom? What defines one? Is there such a thing as a new school, and if so, what defines one? How does new school and old school differ? Is there some sort of age cut off between the two?

Does this mean you think the social standards of today are no different to those of 20 years ago; which are no different to 50 years ago etc...?

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: climax2

I've got to say, this was an enlightening topic.  In the last three months, I've never heard any DOM say sorry, once!!

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I know this is going to come across as snarky but it's seriously not intended that way.

Exactly what IS an old school dom? What defines one? Is there such a thing as a new school, and if so, what defines one? How does new school and old school differ? Is there some sort of age cut off between the two?

Does this mean you think the social standards of today are no different to those of 20 years ago; which are no different to 50 years ago etc...?

Focus.

I think that social standards vary dramatically with regard to time, location, and people involved. Time is only a fraction of the determining factors.

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ORIGINAL: ConfidencePlays

I'm a dom. I'm also a man. A man who takes responsibility for his actions, his behavior, his thoughts, his words, and everything properly his.

Which is why I can say, without any hesitation or second guessing.... that I am -always- prepared to apologize when I am in the wrong. Humans tend to get a lot of things wrong, and I'm no exception to that rule.

Any man who isn't able to own up to his mistakes, failures, shortcomings, lapses in good taste, good judgment or proper decorum, accidents, "incidents" and all other manner of issues stemming from their basic humanity.... isn't able to "man up" enough to even be called a man.

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ORIGINAL: barelynangel

Your post as well as the other post someone posted to me shows major disrespect not only to him but to your relationship, it's a good thing he doesn't agree.    It's convenient he doesn't come here to want you publically blast his integrity while bitching about him not doing what you demand and want him to do.  

To me, based on your post here -- You have no respect for him at the very least, based on THIS thread, you believe he has no integrity.  To me, that means your relationship is over or at least well on its way to being over.

Maybe i see things differently as to what constitutes respect of your partner and your relationship and yourself.   But coming to a public board that you know he doesn't come to and pretty much indicate its YOUR Dom you are speaking about and the blasting of his integrity on a public board to me isn't the ingredients to maintain a healthy relationship.

But i guess we all set our own standards as to what is acceptable in a relationship.

angel

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Keep asking when you need to clarify things in your head, forget those that tell you it is wrong to air dirty laundry in a public forum. It really irritates me when I see people who say that, AS IF they know you personally, know your town, know your family, and know the other party AND feel badly for them on a personal level. It is a bunch of BS.
If you want to ask, or need to, whether that it to get things right in your head or because you have no one close you can talk to about this, well that is why public forums are here.
You ask and take what you need from the answers. Otherwise these places would be just about politics, whines about trueness, and recipe exchanges.

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What a very wise and compassionate post! Kudos for it, Missokyst!

(Smiles)
Ms CLickofheels

(in reply to Missokyst)

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ORIGINAL: stldaddy

I haven't read all the responses but...
ALL people are manipulative. ALL people lie. Anyone that claims they don't or never have are manipulating you with a lie.
ALL people have the ability to twist things to fit their perspective.
Saying the actual word sorry is irrelevant to the point of what is being said. For example, a person can misunderstand or forget. Is admitting so any less valuable because the word sorry wasn't used? How something is said is much more important the actual words used.
Crossing a boundary is dependent on the relationship.
The man makes the Dom.
The presence of fear is also dependent on the relationship and the people involved. Interestingly it is believed fear comes from the same part of the brain as excitement. Hence the popularity of "scary" movies. I once dated a girl that jumped and screamed at scary movies. She enjoyed that stimulation.

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ORIGINAL: stldaddy

I haven't read all the responses but...
ALL people are manipulative. ALL people lie. Anyone that claims they don't or never have are manipulating you with a lie.
ALL people have the ability to twist things to fit their perspective.
Saying the actual word sorry is irrelevant to the point of what is being said. For example, a person can misunderstand or forget. Is admitting so any less valuable because the word sorry wasn't used? How something is said is much more important the actual words used.
Crossing a boundary is dependent on the relationship.
The man makes the Dom.
The presence of fear is also dependent on the relationship and the people involved. Interestingly it is believed fear comes from the same part of the brain as excitement. Hence the popularity of "scary" movies. I once dated a girl that jumped and screamed at scary movies. She enjoyed that stimulation.