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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal

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ORIGINAL: HisPet21

...I really just want to get some perspective on what finacial domination is, what's in it for the findoms and finsubs, and why it bothers so many people, including myself. When I first started hanging around here, I was vehemently against financial domination. I viewed financial dominants as lazy sleaze bags who suckered the desperate out of their hard earned cash. But in the time I've been here, I've learned that this is not the case. There is a kink for absolutely everything, and there are no exceptions to this rule. Someone, somewhere, gets off on buying chicks free stuff, and I've come to accept that. Furthermore, I've come to know several findoms on this site that I respect, like blushes, for example. So, why does it still bother me so much?

And to the finsubs out there---if you are out there---what is your perspective on this?

I can't tell you why it bothers you, obviously, but I can speak to the finsub perspective. It's far, far more than just a kink for me. In fact, I doubt if you could call this a sexual kink at all in my case. But it is a strong desire, something I really love to do and wish to do with the right person. I am a person who has lived in an extreme enslavement situation and plans to again, and for me it's a completely natural method of giving to a prospective or actual owner, a way of being of service. I have a very, very strong desire to give--everything I have--to the right person. Financial slavery fits in perfectly with this, and it is a way I can begin to serve someone I've decided is right for me immediately should they also desire this, even if they are remote (A note on this: the sort of person I'm looking for is not very common, so I just assume I am not going to find him or her locally; it's likely going to be remote at first.)

From the standpoint of somebody who wants to own a slave, demanding a financial gift or tribute or whatever you want to call it from a prospective servant is a very smart, practical move in this sense: it weeds out, very quickly, the romantic talkers from those ready to walk the walk. Slavery, the version I seek out anyway, is very hard and requires considerable inner fortitude to stick with. It's far more than just sexual kink fulfillment or thrilling fun and games. Some potential slaves love discussing theory, love getting off on the hot things an extreme Master or Mistress says, but when it comes time to submit to the pain or the hard work that they don't want to do right that second, or to the new rigid limitations and protocols in their lives, they balk, waffle, procrastinate, break the rules, etc. One quick and easy way of assessing someone's seriousness about being a slave is to demand they sacrifice something for you, and nothing is more valued and precious to many people than their hard-earned cash. This is, literally, putting your money where your mouth is. It's also earning the right to be considered seriously as a slave. It demonstrates that yes, you are willing to give, willing to sacrifice, willing to serve _for real_. It's not all pretty words and fantasies about what such things are like.

I fully realize that majority of financial domination does not involve the relatively rare situation of a master or mistress looking for a genuine slave. In fact, a lot of what you see in the personal ads _is_ just women who have as little to do with dominance (let alone slave-owning) as a parakeet does, looking for a free meal ticket. Perhaps that is the answer to why it bothers you? Because so many people abuse this situation and misrepresent themselves? While this is a very specific case I am describing, it is a valid case: financial domination is used by legitimate mistresses and masters looking for real slaves and is often warmly embraced by such slaves.

You are right that it is also a sexual kink, particularly for male submissives. It is not a sexual kink for me, a female submissive, but it is a driving desire of mine. What I wish for myself is that the partial financial domination which I imagine will be the first step in a relationship and which will probably be conducted remotely at first will eventually evolve into the full natural version typical of slavery (traditional slavery, not the romantic-relationship style practiced today) which is that everything I produce or earn automatically becomes the property of my future master or mistress, who will do with it what he or she pleases.

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I suppose it would be wise to add at this point I am NOT AT THIS TIME actively looking for an owner. I am taking a long sabbatical from that process, so I would appreciate it if lurking opportunists would PLEASE not flood my inbox with $$$ demands. :/ When I'm ready to look (and it will be long after this thread is gone and forgotten!) I will hang my shingle (er, profile) back up.