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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/7/2012 3:59:03 AM

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Do they come with a warranty? I mean the original stepford program had a lot of glitches.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/7/2012 7:40:53 AM

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"I am being slimed by MasterBater." ;)

Thanks for that mental image.....

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/7/2012 1:32:06 PM

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No training done here, never has been probably never will be. We have a relationship, we have a set structure to it, that's about it. I treat him respectfully as he does me.

It's just my opinion, I think training is pretty silly. If someone loves it and all that - great. I just can't take the term seriously as a description for relationship type things.

I like that. 100% true.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/7/2012 6:07:15 PM

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See there, Focus, I M not describing the way I "trAin" her because I do not call what I do "training". I just tell her the way I wAnt things done, she agrees to do them , and voila. No "training" required.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/7/2012 8:21:06 PM

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Let me try to explain a little bit. Training , to me , sounds like there is a timeline involved ( like airplane pilot getting trained : doesn't happen overnight) . Ie , it takes time to learn. My way, time isn't a factor. If it takes any amount of time to figure out that the outfit in the house in a non nilla setting is "a thong and 3" heels", she isn't very smart. I mean, a thong and 3 inch heels means just that. No "training" required.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/8/2012 1:24:38 AM

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See there, Focus, I M not describing the way I "trAin" her because I do not call what I do "training". I just tell her the way I wAnt things done, she agrees to do them , and voila. No "training" required.

Ahhh, then this must be you NOT getting hung up on the semantics of the word, then?

Got it...!

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/8/2012 2:15:51 AM

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Let me try to explain a little bit. Training , to me , sounds like there is a timeline involved ( like airplane pilot getting trained : doesn't happen overnight) . Ie , it takes time to learn. My way, time isn't a factor. If it takes any amount of time to figure out that the outfit in the house in a non nilla setting is "a thong and 3" heels", she isn't very smart. I mean, a thong and 3 inch heels means just that. No "training" required.

I agree that time isn't a factor, too. I teach her the basics (rules, guidelines etc - MY basics) straight up as well as moulding/adapting anything unique to her (health, injury, physique, bad habits, committments) into said rules and guidelines etc. And then there's a 3rd consideration - how we gel with each other and likely the need to tweak the rules so they work for both of us etc.

Some things take weeks or more to learn plus all relationships evolve, and you need to adapt accordingly. So "training" isn't some academic course with a specified time frame. And that's something I find a bit annoying with newbies especially. That they look at training as a box to be ticked ASAP so they can feel like they "belong". Hence they gravitate to "training doms" - kinda like some teenagers treat their virginity as a boil that needs lancing, pronto!

There are no time limits for how long it takes the girl to learn anything. But once she's at a stage where I'm sure she knows something backwards, then I'm not so tolerant of her getting it wrong. Training is one of the great shared experiences of a D/s relationship, IMO. It mostly gets a bad rep for the name, is all....

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/8/2012 3:57:15 AM

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When I was learning to make the bed in my last relationship, it took me a few times, not because I'm dumb, but because it was a very different way than I was used to. He'd remind me of things and change things that weren't right. That's a process of teaching. I do think the word "training" has become a little negative because of people using it in negative ways, but it's not a silly concept, in and of itself.
"Teaching" might be a less offensive word for some, but people would probably have a lot of the same gripes.
I guess it just depends on how you think about it.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/8/2012 11:19:45 AM

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I don't like the word training. I've heard it used too many times in the past from people who thought they were experts on D/s after like 3 months... If you know what I mean.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/8/2012 1:08:41 PM

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Training, teaching or slimed, just pick your word. It seems many get caught up on semantical arguements and discussions, when the intent would bear more fruit.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/8/2012 4:26:13 PM

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If it takes any amount of time to figure out that the outfit in the house in a non nilla setting is "a thong and 3" heels", she isn't very smart. I mean, a thong and 3 inch heels means just that. No "training" required.

/snicker/

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/8/2012 4:50:12 PM

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I train them to recognize wankers.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/8/2012 8:42:03 PM

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Do they come with a warranty? I mean the original stepford program had a lot of glitches.

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~ I train them to be Stepford Slaves.

I am sorry to say that after nearly 40 years in the lifestyle, the bugs still aren't worked out. No warranties, they all seem to be sold as is.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/9/2012 2:56:42 AM

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Sam's club has them shrink-wrapped in bulk in the very back - who knew!

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/10/2012 7:58:54 PM

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they aren't fully trained until they can balance ten shot glasses on thier head while belly dancing on a table barefoot with a bottle in thier ass. Everyone knows this, it's in the "one true way" manual.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/12/2012 3:08:33 AM

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I train 'em to hold the camera

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/12/2012 5:00:56 AM

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Well the bellydancing-with-something-in-your-ass (does it have to be a bottle?) part isn't soooooo hard -- the shot glasses could pose a challenge. Can they be arranged on a tray? Maybe I could channel John Compton. hahaha

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/12/2012 2:32:12 PM

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Looks like Lilly is up to the challenge ;)

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/12/2012 5:20:46 PM

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Well the bellydancing-with-something-in-your-ass (does it have to be a bottle?) part isn't soooooo hard -- the shot glasses could pose a challenge. Can they be arranged on a tray? Maybe I could channel John Compton. hahaha

pics or it didnt happen!!

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/14/2012 2:50:53 PM

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Just like you train a dog you swatem with a newspaper when the pee on they rug

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I prefer to think quite the opposite. If the dog pees on the rug, you should be smacking yourself with the newspaper for training it improperly, or not paying enough attention to its needs.

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