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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/28/2012 7:32:16 PM

SirWforkitten

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I differentiate between correction and punishment. My kitten makes mistakes as we all do, the one thing I have found is that she already feels saddened and disappointed that she had not fulfilled a task or want. I prefer to use communication/reiteration in dealing with these sort of issues rather than jump to a hasty conclusion (correction). I live by the rule of 3, Introduction to only three changes and 3 months to get it ingrained so to speak with correction along the way. Punishment is solely when communication-correction does not solve the issue. Thankfully, kitten is an amazing submissive and I have not had to go to the second step. Cheers

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/29/2012 1:08:49 PM

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Two situations in my case: First, if I'm training a slave for my use, then the goal is to develop her into a slave who knows about and understands my unique needs and requirements. Let's face it -- no two Doms or Masters are alike, so subs and slaves need to see firsthand how they are expected to behave at all times. From her perspective, I doubt that she wants to be in "punishment" mode all the time. And most subs and slaves need a valid "well done" sign of appreciation occasionally to know her efforts to please are working. Second, I have trained subs and slaves when asked to do so by their partners who are new to BDSM. Or, I have been approached by novice subs and slaves who want to make good first impressions when they settle in with their new Master or Dom. And yes, I've been paid for performing this kind of training. In most cases, this requires my communicating with the partner to understand what he or she expects out of their relationship. If the partner is more interested in bondage, for example, than discipline, that's something I need to know. At times, the partner (Master or Dom) is so inexperienced, that I invite them to witness some training sessions so they know what to do properly. When this happens, I have to set agreement in advance that the person observing doesn't interfere in any way at all (including no facial gestures) when they see me working with their sub or slave. If you have any questions after reading this, or even if you're interested in receiving training yourself from me here in Houston, feel free to send me a message. By the way, I'm not very enthusiastic about "online" training.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/29/2012 1:21:59 PM

ChatteParfaitt

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Using FR:

People have issues with the term train just like they have issues with the word slave.

It's all semantics.

Training is simply teaching your s-type what you want. Every YOU will have different wants.

I admit I don't get the training to be obedient. Either they want to be obedient to you or they don't. I don't think you can train someone for that.

You can teach an s-type how to form a proper response when they need to explain why they can't obey, but for me, inspiring the s-type to obey is the dom's job AND part n parcel of the whole dynamic.

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RE: What is your goal in training a sub? - 2/29/2012 7:17:15 PM

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I see training of my sub as a way to help her realize herself. I know, kinda new agey...
I do need service though, and so I need to teach her what types of service I enjoy and what annoys me...

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