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Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/4/2012 11:32:02 PM

runningman12

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Despite the fact I am young, I am very obidient. I was born to worship women and thier desires. However, no one seems to take me seriously? ANy ideas?

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/4/2012 11:34:28 PM

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I feel the same way but I might of found an mummy at last

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/4/2012 11:43:10 PM

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It's got very little to do with your age.

There are many more men than women on this site on both sides of the kneel, so you have to do something to make yourself stand out from the rest of the herd. Your profile is all about your wishes, your fantasy of a D/s relationship, and a complaint that "all women don't take this seriously". It also sounds desperate.

There's nothing about the "you" beyond your kink and your complaints. What hobbies do you have? What TV programmes/movies/video games do you enjoy? Do you prefer the seaside or the countryside? Do you have any interesting skills?

Show yourself to be someone that a woman would want to spend time with beyond cleaning the bathroom and taking a spanking.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 12:16:29 AM

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When I look at a profile, I look for a few key things, one of those being whether or not the person seems to have a positive attitude. Any time some one posts how much of a negative experience they are having on the site and meeting ladies, it tells me there is something a little off about his attitude. In your profile you make some fairly broad sweeping negative remarks about the demographic you are trying to attract. Seems a bit counterproductive, no? You catch more bees with honey than you do vinegar.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 12:37:01 AM

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In my opinion you have a "take me now" profile. What some around here might call a "do me" profile. And a bit of an insulting profile (in that you believe no one here takes this seriously) Do you not understand that you are asking someone to be in a realationship with you? Do you not understand that kink is not everything? Do you not understand(this is a big one) that every woman that reads your profile(and is serious about this) will want to know what you do with your time when you aren't on your knees. Kink is cool and sex is great but what are you going to do with someone on a slow sunday morning when she doesn't want to beat you or put lipstick on you? What are you going to say when you have to talk to her parents, siblings, kids? What do you really have to offer into a realationship? On any random day there are 6,974,207 random men willing to submit to a woman, what makes you any different than they are? If you really want to be taken seriously than you need to be able to answer all of those questions for yourself and others that ask them.

Good luck.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 3:36:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: runningman12

Despite the fact I am young, I am very obidient. I was born to worship women and thier desires. However, no one seems to take me seriously? ANy ideas?

How are you "worshiping a woman's desires" when you contact a domme and ask her for experiences that she lists as a hard limit?

Turn your computer off. Go out to local munches, get to know people as people. Educate yourself with something OTHER than porn. In short, take yourself seriously first.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 4:08:53 AM

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Well, it looks like the ladies here pretty well covered it.

Per SadisticMs's reply to you, you do not 'listen' as well as your advertisement says you do.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 4:18:51 AM

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Fella, your profile sucks. By paragraph:

I am a young man who desires to serve a woman. I am looking to worship a woman and listen to her every command. I am very submissive and listen very well. If there is a woman who is looking to for a slave who will listen to her every command than I am your man. I wish to bow down to a woman. I am open to all kinds of punishment if necessary. Many say that young men are immature...I will prove you wrong. I can cook and clean very well.

This says that you want to worship, when women want a relationship. Lots of men want 24/7 playtime, and they're all unrealistic. You also say you listen well when you're offering a woman what she doesn't want to have offered, and you say "I will prove you wrong" instead of "I will prove the stereotype wrong," thus sounding argumentative.

Nobody seems willing to give me a try...its a shame.

This says that when you don't get your way, you will whine.

It seems as though the women on this site dont take this lifestyle seriously. I am submissive towards women and want to be able to do this as a lifestyle but no one takes me seriously. Is there anyone who is willing to give me a chance to be at thier feet and show them how obiedient I am?

You're 21 years old. Yet you think you know so much that you know what the lifestyle is like better than every single woman on this site. So any woman who takes you on could expect you to regularly correct her about how she should be doing it.

So what SHOULD you be doing?

1. Ignore the D/s aspects in your first message. If she says she's Dominant in her profile, assume that if you develop a relationship, you'll be sub and she'll be Domme.
2. READ her profile. Ask yourself if this is someone you could envision having a relationship with. Do her vanilla interests mesh with yours? How about the personality you see in her profile?
3. If you think the two of you might match, message her. Make sure to mention what interested you about her profile, and your experiences with that. If she mentioned mountain climbing, tell her about the time you found a couple of bear cubs and were playing with them when the mama bear came by. Your goal is to start a conversation.
4. If the messaging goes well, after a dozen or so messages see if you can step up to talk on the phone. After a week or so of phoning, see if she'd like to meet at some public place.

Note that during this entire interchange, you should do NOTHING that you are currently doing on your profile. Do NOT tell her your fetishes. Do NOT say you want to serve her. Do NOT say that other people don't understand the lifestyle. Do NOT tell her how obedient you are. Do NOT tell her how hard it is to find someone.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 4:41:03 AM

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Worry less about what you want and be open to understanding what women want. Try woo'ing them not thrusting your fetishes and ideas on them.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 6:45:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: runningman12

Despite the fact I am young, I am very obidient. I was born to worship women and thier desires.

If you want to be taken seriously, you might want to try using a Spell Checker. As they say, "You never get a second chance to make a first impression". If your first impression is full of spelling errors, that's going to turn off some people before they've even taken a look at your profile.

Secondly, whining is probably not a good way to be taken seriously. Your message basically screams, "Don't take me seriously". And when I look at your profile, it confirms that you're not to be taken seriously.

I don't say this to insult you. But read what others have written to you, and then think about it objectively. Try not to be sensitive. Just think about what everyone has said.

Remember, you're not the only male sub on CollarMe. Women have lots of guys to choose from. So you have to help them to see why you're worth their time.

Good luck.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 12:59:27 PM

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So you have to help them to see why you're worth their time.

Good luck.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 3:55:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: runningman12

Despite the fact I am young, I am very obidient. I was born to worship women and thier desires.

If you want to be taken seriously, you might want to try using a Spell Checker.

Thanks Roch, you saved me the keystrokes.

OP, read and heed every word of the Ask A Mistress FAQ. All will be revealed. The folks above already did your homework for you, but it wouldn't hurt for you to read it several times and drive it home. Then revise your profile, come back and ask for constructive critique. We'll help you get there.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 4:06:27 PM

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I feel the same way but I might of found an mummy at last

Lawdy lawdy Babysissy, your profile genuinely scared me.

Really. Ask A Mistress FAQ might help you be successful as well. Really. Good luck!

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 5:00:47 PM

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Your ability to be "taken seriously" by the women on this site is directly proportional to their perception of how much money you make and / or have.

They assume by your young age that you are basically broke; hence they have no interest in you.

At your young age you should be focused on preparing for your future. You should not be worrying about the aging battle axe dommes and young hookers that populate this site.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 5:05:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: SingleServant

Your ability to be "taken seriously" by the women on this site is directly proportional to their perception of how much money you make and / or have.

They assume by your young age that you are basically broke; hence they have no interest in you.

Another ray of bitter sunshine. Thanks for sharing that lovely first impression.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 5:11:40 PM

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Your ability to be "taken seriously" by the women on this site is directly proportional to their perception of how much money you make and / or have.

They assume by your young age that you are basically broke; hence they have no interest in you.

At your young age you should be focused on preparing for your future. You should not be worrying about the aging battle axe dommes and young hookers that populate this site.

Can I just laugh at the stupidity of this statement and not be bothered? Seriously, dude, I do what I can around here to answer honest questions, but asshat remarks like this just don't deserve that kind of time.

Enjoy your day.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 5:12:06 PM

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I m not posting to make a first impression on you or others. I posted because the original poster is young and unaware of the true nature of the women who populate this site.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 5:17:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: SingleServant

I m not posting to make a first impression on you or others. I posted because the original poster is young and unaware of the true nature of the women who populate this site.

Um. You joined the site today. You're already an authority on all the women on this site?

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 5:20:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: SingleServant

I m not posting to make a first impression on you or others. I posted because the original poster is young and unaware of the true nature of the women who populate this site.

Um. You joined the site today. You're already an authority on all the women on this site?

Good observation skills go along with his docility and obedience, Steven.

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RE: Why am I not taken seriously? - 3/5/2012 5:30:06 PM

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The original poster is living in a porn driven fantasy trip. The hot leather clad 22 year old blonde dressed in skin tight leather carrying a whip and wanting to make him her "slave".

What is the reality of his options:
Option # 1
Older, over weight, multiple divorced, minimally educated , minimally employed, multiple dependent children, sarcastic , bi polar , women who take on the role of a "dominant woman" when in fact they are simply unpleasant and disfunctional women.

Option#2
Young, attractive, women who want money to role-play being a "dominant woman". The gig beats outright hooking or spending the evening stripping.

The original poster is chasing something that does not exist in the real world, a young, attractive, dominant woman.......he should be focused on his future and not wasting his time and energy chasing a ghost.

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