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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/14/2012 8:56:01 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		Dude I would take on a rich slave anyday. Oh hell yes I would.
Are you folk nuts? I'm not so insecure and shallow as to give a damn who makes the most money. I'd be all about it. I'd wave goodbye as she went to work, enjoy the day manufacturing ways to torment her, and be waiting at the door in some Dior assless chaps with a leash and a collar for the slut when she came home.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/14/2012 9:07:02 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Kana

Dude I would take on a rich slave anyday. Oh hell yes I would.
Are you folk nuts? I'm not so insecure and shallow as to give a damn who makes the most money. I'd be all about it. I'd wave goodbye as she went to work, enjoy the day manufacturing ways to torment her, and be waiting at the door in some Dior assless chaps with a leash and a collar for the slut when she came home.


Ugh.....the dog collar at Coach.

It falls under the category "If you gotta own a station wagon, it might as well be a BMW".


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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/14/2012 9:17:27 AM   
Kana


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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/14/2012 9:54:42 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Yeah, the woman behind the register is like "I'm sure your dog is going to LOVE this collar..."

I'm dying and he's laughing.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/15/2012 10:56:25 AM   
Aswad


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Is there long term repercussions for my independence and his dependence?


Possibly. Some couples can handle it. Some can't. It's certainly something that may cause things to go sour. I think the main issue is whether he could provide. If he couldn't provide if he wanted to, you will likely end up resenting him, and he will likely end up resenting his dependence on you, and by extension resent you. If he could provide if he wanted to, then he has independence, which will make a major difference, though not always enough. Spending may well be a factor. If you make all the money and he decides what to do with it, you're likely to find that gnawing on you in the long term. If you make it and spend it, while he doesn't, he's likely to end up finding that it isn't so cool to see you enthused about your new toys while he's eating his reheated porridge.

quote:

I would just like some feed back on the situation.


Comes down to what you want out of it. If you like the guy and don't mind carrying him on your shoulders, then go for it. Pamper and spoil him. Be the proverbial plantation slave. Fork over the money or put it in an account as savings. Work all day then come home and get worked some more. Whatever works for you. If it's not your thing, though, you seriously need to consider telling him it won't work, at least if you're thinking long term.

I think Kana put it very nicely. You need to figure out if that's a relationship you're comfortable in.

Either way, it's something the two of you need to talk about with each other, not us.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/16/2012 12:00:52 PM   
blurg1234


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Status: offline 		Interestingly, I've gotten involved with a submissive who had a child in a previous relationship. I have no problem being the supportive rock and fantasy man she can come home to in order to relax. She has so much control over her regular life that she loves coming home to lose that control. Meanwhile, she has someone at home she can depend on to be with her child, meaning that stress is just gone. I also enjoy knowing that she has power and authority outside the home, and that I have power over that authority. I'm not going to do anything to get her in trouble, but we both enjoy that people look up to her, and there's this secret of what she is.

Also, because she can bring home money more immediately with her dream job, I have the opportunity to pursue some things that, when I was younger, I was never able to comfortably pursue, since I was always hopping from minimum wage job to minimum wage job, just trying to earn rent. I know I need to be my own boss because I have such a hard time dealing with authority figures, which plays even more into the particular kink. So that's how we've handled it, I just enjoy dominating authority figures. Your partner may feel the same way, and as long as you're happy with the situation, and he is as well, there is no problem.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/16/2012 12:21:45 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: blurg1234

Interestingly, I've gotten involved with a submissive who had a child in a previous relationship. I have no problem being the supportive rock and fantasy man she can come home to in order to relax. She has so much control over her regular life that she loves coming home to lose that control. Meanwhile, she has someone at home she can depend on to be with her child, meaning that stress is just gone. I also enjoy knowing that she has power and authority outside the home, and that I have power over that authority. I'm not going to do anything to get her in trouble, but we both enjoy that people look up to her, and there's this secret of what she is.

Also, because she can bring home money more immediately with her dream job, I have the opportunity to pursue some things that, when I was younger, I was never able to comfortably pursue, since I was always hopping from minimum wage job to minimum wage job, just trying to earn rent. I know I need to be my own boss because I have such a hard time dealing with authority figures, which plays even more into the particular kink. So that's how we've handled it, I just enjoy dominating authority figures. Your partner may feel the same way, and as long as you're happy with the situation, and he is as well, there is no problem.


Interestingly enough your profile doesn't say anything about this Amazon of submissives. Does she still know you are trolling the net, looking for new, dainty playmates? While she is working and you are supposed to be caring for her child...?

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 8/16/2012 12:22:14 PM >

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/16/2012 12:55:27 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: blurg1234
I know I need to be my own boss because I have such a hard time dealing with authority figures


That is not a good reason to start your own business. If anything, you'll be dealing with authority even more. When I worked for someone else, I had 2-3 people in authority over me. Now that I own my own business, I deal with account heads, accountants, customers, suppliers, local, state and federal government.

So, I would suggest you work on those issues.


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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/16/2012 6:17:24 PM   
MaxCapacity2


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ORIGINAL: Choline

I guess I'm just hung up on the traditional roles as the Dom being the provider? Is there long term repercussions for my independence and his dependence?



What if you were a high-powered, male CEO who came home to your stay-at-home, female Dom? Would she be any less a Dom and you less a sub? Food for thought.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/16/2012 6:42:24 PM   
Baroana


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ORIGINAL: MaxCapacity2


quote:

ORIGINAL: Choline

I guess I'm just hung up on the traditional roles as the Dom being the provider? Is there long term repercussions for my independence and his dependence?



What if you were a high-powered, male CEO who came home to your stay-at-home, female Dom? Would she be any less a Dom and you less a sub? Food for thought.


I don't think I could be a dominant in a relationship like that (or be in a relationship like that at all). Despite some leather upholstery, it's still just a gilded cage.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/16/2012 8:06:55 PM   
littlewonder


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With "His slut" spelled out in diamonds on it!



eerr...Master? I think I know what you can get me for Christmas.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/16/2012 8:10:53 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: Choline

Where the sub is the breadwinner/provider?

I'm a sub who is an RVT, I make decent money, have a car, a two bed room apartment... I handle my business.

Recently started up with Dom who has a job, at a fast food joint. no car no drivers licence, shares a stuido with 2 other people.

I guess I'm just hung up on the traditional roles as the Dom being the provider? Is there long term repercussions for my independence and his dependence?

I would just like some feed back on the situation.


I'm all good with a Domme who can take care of me in the style I've become accustomed to.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/17/2012 6:57:47 AM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

With "His slut" spelled out in diamonds on it!



eerr...Master? I think I know what you can get me for Christmas.

Cubic zirconia work?

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 8/29/2012 4:09:47 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		Id be greatful he had a job. Any job. But the no car deal breaker and rookies might be a deal breaker.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 2/2/2013 6:57:22 PM   
KidCongo


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Status: offline 		I love the sentiment espoused by Giancarlo Esposito as Gus Fring here ;

a man provides



If you are ever feeling sorry for yourself about having to go to work without thanks,(as a man)think of this little speech.
Other than that,there is the old remedy,swallow one glass of water and cup of cement mix and harden the f**k up!

On a side note,can I just say to La Tigresse in respect of the comment to Blurg1234; BOO YA! I am actually imagining him walking off,wheezing and folded up like an accordion,a la Wiley Coyote after getting hit by a boulder.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 2/2/2013 7:52:51 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: Choline

RVT - Registered Veterinary Technican

I spent a lot of time and money to get those fancy letters behind my name.

Yeah but those letters won't get you big screen tv's, month long vacations or an island of your very own...simply NO you can't afford this so called dom. The general idea in kink is still like normal dating, there needs to be some benefit FOR YOU even if you're the sub.

A couple of my subs were millionaires & I a behaviorist. Financially we were unequally matched but I was able to "pull my own weight" on bills, nights out & being of practical help to them not just their whippy spanky. Can this guy say the same?

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 2/2/2013 8:45:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		This thread is more than 3 months old. The OP is long gone and it is frowned upon to open up old threads like this.

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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 2/2/2013 9:47:21 PM   
theRose4U


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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 2/3/2013 4:36:50 AM   
lilcracker


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RE: how does one handle a situation: - 2/3/2013 5:00:30 AM   
absolutchocolat


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