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ORIGINAL: TheLadyLayla

Also I don't see what my age has anything to do with this. I'm not taking offense or trying to sound bitchy, as I do understand people usually act their own ages but since you don't know me personally you can't assume because I'm young I have less experience. Maybe less years worth but I have done more in 23 years than most people. But based on the advice given I have changed some of my profile and am hoping it seems better.

Actually, age has a lot to do with it. If you're 23 years old, you've maybe been doing kink for 5-8 years if you started experimenting in your parents' basement as a teenager. A lot of us who are regulars on the forums are considerably older than you. Some of us have been doing kink for as long as you've been alive. So yeah, when someone says you don't have a lot of experience and will improve with age (like a fine wine!), that's the level of experience being used as a comparison. It's not personal, it's just a statement of fact.

I've been doing kink for a little less than half of your lifetime and I learn new things All. The. Time. For example, I've learned I could probably call myself a findomme since I always control the money in my relationships and I've had subs buy me gifts just because I'm awesome. Not that I'll be opening up a clips store anytime soon, but it's fascinating to read the different perspectives on this fetish.

There are tops here of whom I stand in awe because of their amazing skill with knives or single-tail whips, or whatever. So if people are giving you feedback on making changes to your profile or improve yourself to get better return on your investment, then take it! You'll thank them later, I promise. And if you want to learn more about the wild, wonderful worlds of D/s and BDSM so you can make the most of your past and future experiences, then stick around, ask intelligent questions, and learn from the wealth of knowledge on this forum. You won't regret it.

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Actually, age has a lot to do with it. If you're 23 years old, you've maybe been doing kink for 5-8 years if you started experimenting in your parents' basement as a teenager.

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I've been doing kink for a little less than half of your lifetime and I learn new things All.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Actually, age has a lot to do with it. If you're 23 years old, you've maybe been doing kink for 5-8 years if you started experimenting in your parents' basement as a teenager.

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I've been doing kink for a little less than half of your lifetime and I learn new things All.

Now, I feel old. I've been doing it for her entire lifetime. <sigh>

Don't feel too bad. I've decided that some of us age like fine brandy...older = smoother. I dunno about you, but I am very smooth.

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Actually, age has a lot to do with it. If you're 23 years old, you've maybe been doing kink for 5-8 years if you started experimenting in your parents' basement as a teenager.

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I've been doing kink for a little less than half of your lifetime and I learn new things All.

Now, I feel old. I've been doing it for her entire lifetime. <sigh>

Don't feel too bad. I've decided that some of us age like fine brandy...older = smoother. I dunno about you, but I am very smooth.

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

For those who do findomming, and all things having to do with it, would you mind sharing with the class how it is you go about charging a man for your time? I intend to write my own answer out and post it a little later.