BlackSockSlave
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Joined: 10/3/2012 Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: descrite Gotta say, OP, I totally get where you're coming from...and I think some of the Doms are being way too hard on you. Tell me to step off, if I'm missing it, but here's the rationale: - This is a kink site. Meaning: we are all here, primarily, because we share kinkiness in common. - That being the case, it would seem as if the Introduction forum is a good place to lay out your criteria for a partner; this is the germane portion of your presence on this board. - Being told to produce vanilla criteria/context seems contrary to the purpose of coming here in the first place. That does make sense. Flaws? - You're in a sellers' market. - Those sellers are women. Specifically, dominant women. Some sub women, you could approach with, "Hey-- want to fuck?" and, right place-right time, that might be just the thing to clinch a first encounter, and blossom a relationship from there. That won't work well with women (or men) who want to control that exact situation. So laying out your criteria comes across as pushy (again, I understand how that seems inherently contradictory on a site like this, but there it is). I totally get it. For sure, there is nothing more frustrating than making a close bond, building something together...THEN finding out your sex does not mesh. You have now become invested in another Friend, and are still bereft of a Lover. In any just world, we could put that on the table first, as a discriminator, and start from that trusted baseline. No such luck, unfortunately. Still.... This site does establish a new baseline, better than shooting blind (or even using older media, such as classified ads and group chat phone lines), so coming here does provide a step up. A smaller step than you expected. But-- it's a step in the right direction. I say: welcome to the site. I hope you find what you seek. Don't be discouraged. Great post. Every word is true. I hope you find what you seek, too.
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