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RE: Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive? - 11/8/2012 12:41:05 PM

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I have always assumed that as soon as some d-type posts, "I've had dozens of slaves" then all the LTR slaves go looking elsewhere for just that reason. I pretty much assumed that what they'd have left is someone suited to them... namely a temporary sexual slave. It never once occurred to me to think that numbers was a GOOD thing for anyone seeking permanent ownership.

Agreed, Jeff.
It just smacks of someone who tosses people off at the first sign of inconvenience, or "new shiny," or whatever else. Not a positive thing when looking for LTR material.

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RE: Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive? - 11/8/2012 12:50:45 PM

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That's a good point too, Michael. If someone has had a lot of submissives/slaves, it's usually not a good thing. It usually means that they go through them like underwear and/or are incapable of having a long term relationship.

I have always assumed that as soon as some d-type posts, "I've had dozens of slaves" then all the LTR slaves go looking elsewhere for just that reason. I pretty much assumed that what they'd have left is someone suited to them... namely a temporary sexual slave. It never once occurred to me to think that numbers was a GOOD thing for anyone seeking permanent ownership.

I've seen a good number of D types that use the number of submissives that they've had as a bragging point like it is proof of their knowledge or experience. IMO, most of the time it just means that they're incapable of having and keeping a long term relationship.

(There are some that just prefer short, temporary relationships as long as they're honest, I see no problem with that.)

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RE: Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive? - 11/8/2012 2:18:12 PM

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I've seen a good number of D types that use the number of submissives that they've had as a bragging point like it is proof of their knowledge or experience

LOL. Yeah well.. my bragging point is that I have gotten at least one woman to actually do as I say. Of course, everyone here knows that I cheated. Rather than dominating her into submitting fair and square I was sneaky and loved her into it.

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RE: Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive? - 11/8/2012 2:27:04 PM

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Sneaky bastard!

But, I do find it ironic that it's usually someone who is single and looking that tells everyone else how relationships should run.

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RE: Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive? - 11/8/2012 2:32:32 PM

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I think a lot of people are good with the seduction game bullshit but haven't got the substance to maintain any sort of long term relationship.

But.....they will happily tell you all about their exploits like they are some kind of boy scout badges.

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RE: Can a Master be satisfied with a submissive? - 11/9/2012 1:44:59 PM

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So the play, and the sex, and the emotions are all pushing us to be together, the thought of not being together is awful.

You know, this caught my eye. You say this, but all you've talked about in this entire thread is how your BDSM play is really hot but also scary. Nothing about your relationship, who he is as a person, how you feel about each other, or really anything outside the bedroom.

True. But not because there are no emotions. I guess they just weren't a problematic aspect for me. He makes me feel very precious and loved when I'm with him. I fell asleep in his arms and woke up still there and I've never done that before, I always move away in the night.

My point, I suppose, was - what kind of relationship do you have with him outside the bedroom? I think that makes a lot of difference in how well this is going to work out.

If you guys otherwise have compatible personalities, interests, life goals, etc, enjoy hanging out doing non-sexual stuff, and the general level of D/s you're both interested in (i.e. only in the bedroom vs 24/7, what parts of your life he'd have authority over) is pretty similar aside from some of your limits, then IMO it'd definitely worth it to pursue the relationship and hopefully he can just try to deal with your limits.

But if you want to have kinky sex in the bedroom within very set limits, and he wants someone to give up all authority 24/7 (which is what I would consider slavery).... no, he's probably not going to be satisfied in a relationship with you. Nothing personal, just incompatible relationship needs.

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