LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt From Janah: quote:
(Im going to use an example here that in my book is way extreme) and lets say its oh ... J9 (use your imagination) how would anyone mentally prepare someone for something like that? Make them feel that its okay because its something that the other really desires? I would think that would be along the lines of brain washing and have real aftermath consequences of fucking someone up - especially if its something that is beyond their consideration. That you have amazing chemistry with a person is a wonderful thing -- if that person has your best interests at heart. My ex-husband and I shared "amazing chemistry" -- that didn't make him any less abusive. What it did was make it incredibly hard to understand what was happening to me, b/c I was committed to him. It also made it difficult to get out, even after I realized I had to. You know, trust can be a fragile thing. You can spend months or even years building it, and it can be destroyed in seconds. Indeed. I've had 'amaaaaazzziiinnngggg chemistry' quite a few times in my 50 plus years. And every fucking time the relationship blew up in my face. I am not sure I even trust 'aammmaaaaazzziiinnggg chemistry' anymore. It's just fucking lust people! The best relationship of my life began with very little chemistry, but a whole lotta friendship and communicating. We've said this over and over and over on here, till our fingertips turn purple,.............just because you've got some BDSM or power exchange dynamic tossed in does not negate the fact that it is a relationship. We are not that special. Every single person that I've seen/heard say otherwise, tends to go through relationships like my dogs through chew toys. But hey, if you want short and aaaamaaaazziiinnnggg......go for it! Usually the breakups are pretty fucking aaaaammmmaaaaazzzziiiinnngggg too. And entertaining for us observers.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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