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Mynwlkr -> putting under consideration (6/20/2006 4:04:06 PM)
can I please get someone to explain to Me the process from which you put a sub under consideration in real life?

enthralled -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 4:06:40 PM)
Perhaps you'd get more response placing this in "Ask a Master" forum? ~enthralled

Reflectivesoul -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 4:29:48 PM)
To put someone under consideration r/t would be like offering a training collar. If you like this person let them know you'd like a trial period to see how well you mesh together in a relationship setting. Start with a 3 month contract or so and see how things go, if it goes well extend the contract 3 more months and so on.

ShiftedJewel -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 4:32:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mynwlkr can I please get someone to explain to Me the process from which you put a sub under consideration in real life? I have put someone under consideration mainly because we haven't met in real time yet. We seem to click intellectually and have had many phone conversations but I need to see someone face to face, see their reactions when we talk and find out if we connect in any other ways before I'll even consider a collar. *Jewel*

feastie -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 4:39:08 PM)
Actually, there's a wholeeeeeeee thing about collars of consideration... http://www.steel-door.com/Consideration_Collar.html It's the collar one gets before a training collar...according to those that believe in it http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Collar_(BDSM)

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 4:43:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel quote: ORIGINAL: Mynwlkr can I please get someone to explain to Me the process from which you put a sub under consideration in real life? I have put someone under consideration mainly because we haven't met in real time yet. We seem to click intellectually and have had many phone conversations but I need to see someone face to face, see their reactions when we talk and find out if we connect in any other ways before I'll even consider a collar. *Jewel* Precisely... I have a wondeful boy under consideration now. He is at My 14 carat level...Smile We email, he journals, and we also speak (a lot!) on the phone. Tentative plans are to meet at the end of July, when I get back from My trip to Europe. At that point, we will know, and we can begin a new level of relationship with a more formal training collar. I am not one to stand on much formality regarding collars and levels, but when dealing in this medium particularly, I think an "Under Consideration" time can be very productive.

Totalmaster4you -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 4:53:15 PM)
The idea usually is similar to a promise ring. For whatever reason a Dom has connected with a submissive and they think that more of a connection is possible. More needs to be learned befor more of a commitment is made. This is generally determained by the Dom because it's his collar she's trying to earn..So the Dom will place the slave under consideration, meaning she's off the market until a final decision is made. Hope this explanation helps. Master Alan Taking you toInfinity and Beyoonnnddd!

JessieMe -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 5:01:02 PM)
I am a slave under consideration to a Master and the answers are correct for me as well. Although he is in the process of moving to be local to me (for work.. not for me LOL) we have only interacted through emails, phone and webcam. We feel we are a very strong match and for this reason we have pretty much "taken ourselves off the market for others" as we "consider" each other for a more permanent M/s relationship. I hope this makes sense to you. :) jessie

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 5:10:11 PM)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_297748/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#297748 collaring levels http://www.collarchat.com/m_293199/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#293199 some slaves have no http://www.collarchat.com/m_249659/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#249659 "Under Consideration"??? http://www.collarchat.com/m_167264/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#167264 Under Consideration http://www.collarchat.com/m_167264/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#167264 taking someone under consideration http://www.collarchat.com/m_136495/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#136495 under consideration http://www.collarchat.com/m_86003/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#86003 different "stages"/different treatment?

kickinchick -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 5:14:05 PM)
It's a two way street with me....If I'm under consideration....so is he. What's it mean? Simply, we both will see where it goes and if a collar is in the future? However, it should not only be about the submissive under consideration...should it? looks at fastlane as she asks?

ownedgirlie -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 5:17:57 PM)
For me it meant I begged him to train me to his liking and he agreed, after much discussion. While he was training me, he was watching and monitoring me to see how I was responding to him. In other words, he was considering ownership of me. There was no collar, however. There was no "promise." There was nothing but contemplation and observation on his part, and work on mine.

CrappyDom -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 8:20:09 PM)
I think I am going to create a new brand image for collars. I want a "collar of wanton useage" where I get to use the hell out of the woman till the biodegradable collar wears off.

akisha -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 9:18:44 PM)
Would it not be like "going steady. You agree not to see or play with anyone else and she agrees not to see or play with anyone else so that you can focus on one another and see if the possibility of a long term relationship is a realitic ideal? Maybe spend a week or two with just each other and see how things go? But really, it's completely individualistic just like everything else. Do what works for you and the other person. Why does what others think or what others do matter to your relationship? No ONE person has all the answers. No ONE person is right about everything or anything for that matter. There is no Rule Book or How Too book for BDSM. Look with in yourself and do what you think will work for you. Best of all, talk to the person you are considering and see what works for the TWO of you. Good luck and I hope it goes well.

akisha -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 9:20:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom I think I am going to create a new brand image for collars. I want a "collar of wanton useage" where I get to use the hell out of the woman till the biodegradable collar wears off. I think you might have a marketable item there CD grins i know a few ppl that would Love to have a few of those around [:D]

Noah -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 9:38:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom I think I am going to create a new brand image for collars. I want a "collar of wanton useage" where I get to use the hell out of the woman till the biodegradable collar wears off. Brilliant! And how about a Collar of INconsideration under which she just takes shit till she gets a clue? Maybe a Collar of Anticipation where you give it to her and then just disappear for a month or so. I think first of all I'll start developing the Collar of Equivocation, which is fraught with deep relationship meaning but at the same time isn't, really. Thanks for the inspiration. (Biodegradeability was a nice touch.)

DesertRat -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 9:49:25 PM)
I believe in "The Collar of Plausible Deniability", I think it will be popular with people who want to have it both ways. Commitment/no commitment. Now you see it, now you don't...or...did you ever? Was it really there? Were you? Was I? Bob

spankmepink11 -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 9:53:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Noah quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom I think I am going to create a new brand image for collars. I want a "collar of wanton useage" where I get to use the hell out of the woman till the biodegradable collar wears off. Brilliant! And how about a Collar of INconsideration under which she just takes shit till she gets a clue? Maybe a Collar of Anticipation where you give it to her and then just disappear for a month or so. I think first of all I'll start developing the Collar of Equivocation, which is fraught with deep relationship meaning but at the same time isn't, really. Thanks for the inspiration. (Biodegradeability was a nice touch.) Wicked funny Gentlemen........[sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif]

Noah -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 10:28:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesertRat I believe in "The Collar of Plausible Deniability", I think it will be popular with people who want to have it both ways. Commitment/no commitment. Now you see it, now you don't...or...did you ever? Was it really there? Were you? Was I? Bob Better have your people contact kikkinchik. I believe he holds the patent.

DesertRat -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 10:39:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Noah quote: ORIGINAL: DesertRat I believe in "The Collar of Plausible Deniability", I think it will be popular with people who want to have it both ways. Commitment/no commitment. Now you see it, now you don't...or...did you ever? Was it really there? Were you? Was I? Bob Better have your people contact kikkinchik. I believe he holds the patent. But even the patent is deniable...which is part of the beauty of it. I am sure he would agree. Denying is everything, isn't it? Bob

Noah -> RE: putting under consideration (6/20/2006 10:50:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesertRat But even the patent is deniable...which is part of the beauty of it. I am sure he would agree. Denying is everything, isn't it? Bob I give up. You just can't be denied. Happy birthday you desert demon. (Or not)

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