njlauren
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ORIGINAL: njlauren but in reality, it depends on the D/s couples own version of the truth. That's by no means accurate about every type of relationship. There are, for example, brain studies that demonstrate that children's brains (and the brains of teens) make decisions differently from the brains of adults. So the custom of Afghani men in their 50s wedding 9 year old girls is not just something that "offends western sensibilities"; there's concrete biological evidence that this practice is unhealthy for the girl. Not everything is culturally relative, and just because someone chooses "their own truth" does not mean they not full of shit. Or do you believe that there's no scientific basis for disciplines like family therapy, relationship counseling, and so on? Some types of relationship dynamics really are more abusive than others. However, this line of conversation seems to be turning into a borderline hijack, so I'll stop here. If you read my quote, I said that there are objective truths, and what you post about a 9 year old child being married would fall into that. Childhood development has been studied a long time, and it was realized a long time ago, from studies (long before cat scans) that children are incapable of consenting to sex with an adult, or anything else, because children's brains are wired to accept authority from older people, it is why we have statutory rape laws (that sadly are used in some quarters, especially down in the bible belt, to prosecute anyone that has sex with an underage girl, including a 15 year old having sex with a 14 year old girlfriend). If controlled studies and science can show something, that is objective truth, and I used that in my original post. family therapy and relationship counseling are more problematic, because a lot of what they work on are theories and ideas that have been promoted that often can't be tested well. Richard Feynman wrote in one of his biographies his assessment of psychological research as science, and he was pretty negative about it, he said a lot of the time they do experiments once, for example, and claim proof, which mainstream science would never do, or that they don't necessarily examine with the kind of rigor a physics paper would get the claims of other researchers. It isn't that I don't believe in therapy and counseling and its benefits, it is that psychotherapy and the like are not necessarily based in science, a lot of it, even its practitioners will tell you, is a dark art. With something like D/s relationships, the answer to how much power is there, what the power in fact is, is very, very difficult to assess logically or scientifically, and therefore the 'truth' about who has the power is very much subjective truth. Someone saying 'in a D/s, for it to be real, the dominant has to have all the power' is about as fictional statement as I can make, because what having all the power means is subjective in the end, not objective.
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