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Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? Let's look at the definitions of hold vs wield. To hold can mean to clasp, clench, clutch. To wield can mean to exert, maintain. If one holds all the power, as in tyranny, they will lose it. If one is so concerned about whether or not they hold all the power, they will, again, lose it. The dominant partner wields the power, which in turn, empowers the submissive partner. This is why it is called a power exchange, because this way, both dominant and submissive are fulfilled within their relationship.
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"Power is real. But it's a lot less real if it's not perceived as power." Robert Parker, Stranger in Paradise
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