Aswad
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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady Actually, a parent in a wheelchair or with other mobility issues has challenges that they can't help. So, worse, but still good enough, right? Which makes me wonder why someone else going for good enough is so bad. And, incidentally, what kind of a racer kid are people expecting that the mother needs to be able to run around right after delivering it? quote:
So we should let them watch as we have sex as well, huh? ~shrug~ That's between you and local laws. Near as I can tell, it used to be the norm up to about 60 years ago in rural areas here. Doesn't seem to have turned out any real problems, nor have I found anything to support non-secondary trauma from it, so yeah, whatever works for you. If you have some research to support that there's a problem with primary trauma, I'm absolutely all ears. What am I gonna do, invade the Amazon to prevent them from churning out kids in one room houses with no childcare? Or will it suffice to dispatch a batallion worth of shrinks and social workers to sort out the poor little things? Is that going to fix their lives? I mean, if it's a big deal, surely it's also a major factor in the ills that face them. No, I wouldn't want any kids around, cuz it'd kill my mood, and others might traumatize 'em for it later. quote:
I mean they don't know what it is we are doing, so where is the harm? You completely missed my point, from A to Z, which is getting to be a trend. I was pointing out that there's nothing wrong with WIITWD, as far as I can tell. That, unless we believe there's nothing wrong with it, then we shouldn't be doing it. That, if it's appropriate behavior for us to engage in, then it's something that should be treated the same as anything else. Which is to say, it's not something to hide, unless it's something shameful. I don't know about you, but I don't do anything shameful if I can avoid it. quote:
It is often a mistaken concept of the childless to believe that small children are unaware of adult behavior, yet every study shows just how false that can be, as evidenced by the therapy some need from seeing the stupid shit the adults in their life did in front of them. Glad I didn't make that mistake, then. Would hate to repeat an oft-made one. Incidentally, the therapy is usually about the secondary trauma, and it seems to be more of an issue where you live than where I do. I doubt our kids are any more robust than yours, so that leaves culture, which points a finger in the general direction of secondary trauma, which- lo and behold- is borne out in the research. quote:
The bottom line is that if you wouldn't think it was ok to involve strangers in a public place in your kink because they have not consented, there is NO logic to involving your children, even if it is just letting them see it. They didn't and can't consent. I never involve anyone in my kink, except my partner(s). I live my life, same as anyone else, display affection in public, maintain our usual dynamic in public, etc., and generally behave like the rest of the place does, with a few idiosyncracies. I've no problem adapting to requests from others, and I expect people to let me know if something bothers them, which most people here are quite happy to do. It's not like I'm whipping anyone in the streets. Most I'm inclined to do is simple stuff like a foot-kiss or whatever. Things that nobody cares about. As for the birth, I'm fairly certain the kid won't remember something that happened in its first seconds of life. This is giving me flashbacks to dealing with American tourists wanting us to cover up nude statues etc. IWYW, — Aswad.
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"If God saw what any of us did that night, he didn't seem to mind. From then on I knew: God doesn't make the world this way. We do." -- Rorschack, Watchmen.
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