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RE: home birth in chains - 5/18/2013 4:09:55 PM

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I don't see anything wrong with it if your midwife doesn't. Additionally, I really, really do not understand all the judgment happening in this thread.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/29/2013 7:58:53 PM

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No, I do not ever do any kink around any of my children including when I am giving birth to one. I hope you are ready for CPS to come knocking one day and have all the evidence they need when she answers the door in chains.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/29/2013 8:07:41 PM

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I find it hard to believe that someone who has managed to give birth and raise 2 children AND be pregnant with a third even *needs* to express their submissive side. Infants are tiny doms without even knowing it. As a mother, you *have* to submit to the baby's demands.

So I'm here to say I don't get the concept at all, and the idea of actually doing it is insane in my mind. Until recently (yes I am talking decades, not minutes) many women died in childbirth. Many fetuses and newborns died with them. Why anyone would consider taking a chance on this is beyond me. When I gave birth, the actual act was miracle enough.

Just me in my dotage, YMMV

I have a 2 month old baby and I have to say... RIGHT!! And my baby nearly died during childbirth when the placenta broke free. Bad things still happen during childbirth, that is just one more reason why I think it's a bad idea.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/29/2013 11:17:14 PM

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If this is her third time, and she's up for it, and the midwife has no objections, i say go for it. On the other hand, don't expect a lot of support in the D/S community: acceptance is important, as long as that means everyone else accepting what YOU like. Otherwise, everyone is just as uptight as those sign carrying idiots you see on TV.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/30/2013 1:00:10 AM

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I don't see anything wrong with it if your midwife doesn't. Additionally, I really, really do not understand all the judgment happening in this thread.

Speaking to 9 different midwives I know personally they all stated they would not want to have that as part of the birth plan. I suppose someone could find a midwife who would agree... then I would have to question that midwife.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/30/2013 11:17:06 AM

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I don't see anything wrong with it if your midwife doesn't. Additionally, I really, really do not understand all the judgment happening in this thread.

Speaking to 9 different midwives I know personally they all stated they would not want to have that as part of the birth plan. I suppose someone could find a midwife who would agree... then I would have to question that midwife.

Most definitely. Especially since, God forbid, something goes wrong, that midwife could lose her license. Someone's kink is NOT worth losing your career over.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/30/2013 2:35:16 PM

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or going to jail. One of my parenting message boards has a lot of women who homebirth with midwives and they were discussing a case where a woman was giving birth. The midwife did not immediately call 911 when they learned her baby was breech, instead she called a taxi and delivered in the back of the taxi. The baby died and the midwife was charged with manslaughter. The prosecuter claimed she did not have a breech birth on her resume yet and decided to go by taxi to be able to say she had done breech births before. She claims a taxi was faster then 911. Since it was not a local story I do not know how it ended. I tried google and I could not go on wading through all the widwives up on charges from babies that die from them flubbing up. I had no idea there were that many cases of babies dying during homebirth where the midwife was at fault.

I have to agree that just because they found a midwife willing to do it does not make her a good midwife. There are plenty of bad ones out there to be wary of.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/30/2013 7:14:24 PM

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It seems that anyone can call themselves a midwife these days. So few I think check for credentials and if they do, the credentials are from "The School for Homeopathic Spiritual Touch Healing" or some such place.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/30/2013 7:34:42 PM

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It is kinda scary. I would be roasted alive if I went on the parenting board and said this, but they need to regulate them and hold them to the same standard as OB's. There is just to many stories about births going tragically wrong by some midwife not knowing what she was doing when there was a problem.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/30/2013 8:10:38 PM

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Each state has their own licenses for both Midwives and Nurse Midwives. I have worked with both, found both to be very well qualified, the Nurse being held to a different standard because they are an RN first.

http://cfmidwifery.org/midwifery/faq.aspx#3

It can get confusing. The first thing I would do is check credentials. According to that web site, they may have limited training and not be licensed at all. If they hold no license, you can bet they have no hospital affiliation, which also means no back up OBGYN in times to trouble.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/30/2013 8:46:57 PM

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Yeah. I struggle to remember that most times things do not go wrong, but I shudder when I think about what could have happened to my baby. I had a placental abruption during labor. Her heart rate kept dropping so I had a few nurses in the room with me trying to get her heart rate up. I think they were pushing on her head but I was too busy worrying. Then it dropped to 50 and I had a C section. From the time they left the room to when they came back and assured my husband we were both fine was only 4 minutes. Later the OB told my husband the placenta pulled away from the uterus. I got emotional for a while when I thought about how easily my baby could have died especially if we were not just down the hall from the OR.

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/30/2013 10:30:44 PM

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So many things can go wrong. Honestly. In my opinion, people are insane not to go to a hospital to have their babies. Im not trying to imply that being in a hospital will assure a perfect outcome. Sometimes, even then things go wrong. but why risk it?

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RE: home birth in chains - 5/31/2013 6:53:58 AM

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Exactly. I could have had the best midwife in the world but if I had been at home my baby would have died. Even if the dips in her heartbeat had made a midwife nervous and she sent me in I would not have made it before the abruption. Part of me had always wondered if having a baby is so much better, if they bond more and feel more relaxed. I will never find out since I will never consider having a baby at home after going through that.

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