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CarolBC Post 74: Wow - has this topic ever push buttons! And I thought men wearing women's panties was at the top of the Outrage-O-Meter!
Little did I know there were so many rules to having children.

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ORIGINAL: aurelianus

I have been watching this thread for several days and wanted to comment. My credentials include an advance degree and training in matters dealing with children and I work closely with CPS. First, from a psychological standpoint, there is no evidence in the literature that a baby, when older, will have any lasting detrimental issues with knowing that his/her mother wore shackles during labor and delivery. Usually, many children do not even know the circumstances of the birth until much closer to adulthood if at all (I know I have never asked my mother about my birth other than it was natural and in the hospital). Secondly, wearing chains occasionally around children is considered a minor deviance from social norms and has been shown many times to not adversely affect the child. That is not to say that you will find an study in the literature that deals specifically with children being exposed to their mother wearing light bondage around the house. It is only that minor differences in social norms has no affect on children and they grow up healthy and normal when compared to their peers. The bottom line is that children are not as delicate as many profess on this thread and a loving supportive environment in the absence of abuse will produce well adjusted children. Lastly, though anything can be reported to CPS. CPS, in my state, would not investigate based on the report that "there is a mother that wears chains in front of her children." The basis of a CPS investigation would be reported physical/sexual abuse, neglect (malnutrition) including medical neglect, child endangerment (leaving your child in a locked car while the parent shops, living in a house with a meth lab). There are other broad sections that would prompt at CPS investigation but these are the only areas that the current situation by the OP would fall under. As a general warning to those that would notify CPS on the drop of a hat, again anything can be mentioned to CPS by a lay person (only certain things are reportable by mandatory reports, i.e. doctors, teachers who are trained to know when to report and when not to) but use caution on embellishing the facts you want to report. If you knowingly make a false statement that results in a CPS investigation and later it is determined that parts of the original report were fabricated, the reporting person can be charge with a class C felony in my state. I have seen it happen. Charging a person that makes a false report was designed as a deterrent in family custody situations where accusations abound.

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As a general warning to those that would notify CPS on the drop of a hat, again anything can be mentioned to CPS by a lay person (only certain things are reportable by mandatory reports, i.e. doctors, teachers who are trained to know when to report and when not to) but use caution on embellishing the facts you want to report. If you knowingly make a false statement that results in a CPS investigation and later it is determined that parts of the original report were fabricated, the reporting person can be charge with a class C felony in my state. I have seen it happen. Charging a person that makes a false report was designed as a deterrent in family custody situations where accusations abound.

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ORIGINAL: lapgirl

and to think I had a nursing professor who fought with the DOC to allow inmates to give birth without shackles on. Things that make you go hhmmmm.....

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ORIGINAL: aurelianus

Just saying that very light acts of BDSM along with other mild social deviances have not been shown to adversely affect children.