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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/7/2013 2:45:50 PM

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Well, here ya go, I'll give you a quick lesson:

I made a post that was honestly intended as straight forward advice based on your first initial posts. Your response was to insult me. (and others)

You're now living in an environment of your own making because you just don't seem to know when to stop digging.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/7/2013 4:09:02 PM

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Yes toy with the crippled mouse my friends keep toying, I'm starting to get confused as to who is the crippled mouse or should I say mice.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/7/2013 5:53:40 PM

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The question is, who is the perfect submissive. To get this ball rolling, you asked, "Who would be your perfect submissive bitch."

Common replies to this question would be:

I don't want a doormat.
I want an alpha male in the world who is submissive to me.
I want someone who can see past their own fetishes and focus on my needs. (Those needs might be social -- quality interpersonal interaction or service oriented -- cooking, cleaning, and helping a household.)
I want someone so can take pain.
I need someone in: an age range, a size range, a weight range, or an endowment range.
I want someone who is experienced.
I am willing to work with someone new.
I want a "real man" i.e. not a sissy or a CD.
I want a monogamous relationship.
I want a polyamorous relationship (or a variation of one.)

A perfect submissive will have some combination of the traits above and other unlisted ones. What constitutes the perfect combination depends upon the dominant's wants and needs.

If you wanted me to characterize the archetypal, most desired male sub he would be:

(1) Monogamous
(2) An "alpha male" in the real world with and attractive interesting job.
(3) Have some grasp of the domestic arts.
(4) Be literate, cultured, and polite.
(5) Would not be interested in cross dressing.
(6) Would be tough and able to accept "punishment"
(7) Would have skills in bed -- knowing how to touch and respond to a woman
(8) Would be height-weight proportionate
(9) Would know how to turn his dominant on, which is another way of saying being kink-compatible.
(10) Would be honest, trustworthy, and reliable without being a boring automaton.
(11) Would be a balanced person with interests beyond "the lifestyle."

As you can see, the cross over between a "desired malesub" and simply a desirable male is considerable. You might do well to read Women's magazines and simply plug in kinky proclivities to hone in on a more accurate archetype.

It's also noteworthy that most of the enumerated qualities below are not synonymous with being someone's bitch. The qualities lineup more as a capable, attractive partner.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/7/2013 6:05:18 PM

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Texasmaam also started a thread that turned into a monster exploration of "the pefect malesub," to which I coined the turn "Cadillac Sub."

Her thread was one of the all-time great Ask a Mistress threads. You will find good material there.

BlkTallFullfig Madonna / Whore thread was also a classic, but didn't set any page number records. This helps you understand a Domme's mindset.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/7/2013 6:33:07 PM

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Well done, CB. Very informative and very helpful.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/8/2013 9:44:15 PM

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Well, MR. Curious and school project has flown the coop.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/8/2013 11:15:21 PM

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Lol has this thread made history or something, admins are checking out my profile now. How did this happen?

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/8/2013 11:21:13 PM

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Would you like My best guess?

From My perspective, the minute that you posted that you were information gathering for a school paper, that you hinted at reprinting accounts, you ventured into violating the ToS of this site. Specifically section seven.

Unless I'm mistaken, you don't really have expressed consent from the website to use it for your term paper.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 12:11:54 AM

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Yep thats why Im not using the information... lol

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 12:22:51 AM

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That's the third story you've told.

So, why are you here?

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 12:51:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

Lol has this thread made history or something, admins are checking out my profile now. How did this happen?

It's hardly a mystery. Poorly behaving trolls attract attention.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 7:36:07 AM

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Its not just a research paper my friend its a quantitative analysis on life and the people that live in it.

What specifically are you measuring?

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 8:35:46 AM

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Alright really people I think after the third post I get that bitch is a bad word, now idk lets use ourr thinking caps and try to move passed a FUCKING WORD OR I DONT KNOW MOVE THE FUCK ALONG!

And this RIGHT HERE is why the whole "lil bitch" thing is so damned unattractive!! You want us in charge as long as we are willing to hand out short-cuts, dominate you how you want it & answer questions the way you want...hummm who's exactly in charge???

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 1:32:09 PM

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Well, MR. Curious and school project has flown the coop.

Well, you have my thanks, anyway. Your post was worth being made into a sticky, if it isn't already.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 4:10:20 PM

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Honestly are you the spokes person for every single person on this forum? If by what I gather is true, I should come into the "Ask a Mistress" forum assuming that I need permission from them to answer a question. What is this a game for you? Is this amusement? Where is anywhere in "what is the perfect submissive little bitch" say or ask about short cuts or how I want people to dominate me?

The only thing I wanted you to do from the "Ask a Mistress" forum was to (this might sound stupid to stupid people like yourself) answer I question I asked. Not make statements about a word.

Lol I guess thats way over your head to understand...

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ORIGINAL: iamwhoiamabc123

Alright really people I think after the third post I get that bitch is a bad word, now idk lets use ourr thinking caps and try to move passed a FUCKING WORD OR I DONT KNOW MOVE THE FUCK ALONG!

And this RIGHT HERE is why the whole "lil bitch" thing is so damned unattractive!! You want us in charge as long as we are willing to hand out short-cuts, dominate you how you want it & answer questions the way you want...hummm who's exactly in charge???

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 4:20:23 PM

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Do you people honestly think an 18 year old kid is a threat to your community, if so do you think the boogie man is still in your closets?

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 4:27:51 PM

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Nope. Didn't make it up. If you want to have a look for yourself, hit that Terms of Service link at the bottom of the page and you'll find it under section seven.

I do think if your purpose was to gather information to write a paper, you could have mentioned that in either of the originals that you wrote. Considering the original avatar that you posted, I don't think it was entirely true.

For what it's worth, you're not an eighteen year old KID. You're a man and you're on an adult site. That means you're going to be interacted with like any other grown up. Your age doesn't stop you from outting people or any other thing. That can be an honest concern for some people.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 4:28:01 PM

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This is going at random here, but I ,thought your picture was of a bird lol.

To answer your question I'm measuring reasons behind submissive activity. Collecting data over some factors of person bias of what makes such a submissive perfect, helps me pin point certain factors and traits of submissive people. This I will then take and ask submissive people if the can relate to these factors and see what motivates them to serving rather than dominating.

This research again isn't just some paper for a semester it would be a thesis, but as I am now aware (hopefully not a by troll) I might not be able to use this data, which is fine I will simply go and do personal observation in the field itself as some suggest actually going to these group encounters and simply observing the culture behind the lifestyle.

When I there I just wont mention the word "bitch to anyone present... lol

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Its not just a research paper my friend its a quantitative analysis on life and the people that live in it.

What specifically are you measuring?

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 4:30:29 PM

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If people have a concern about it message me personally I can't use information without people's I know that, and if all these people on this thread posting are adults then there is a need to worry.

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Nope. Didn't make it up. If you want to have a look for yourself, hit that Terms of Service link at the bottom of the page and you'll find it under section seven.

I do think if your purpose was to gather information to write a paper, you could have mentioned that in either of the originals that you wrote. Considering the original avatar that you posted, I don't think it was entirely true.

For what it's worth, you're not an eighteen year old KID. You're a man and you're on an adult site. That means you're going to be interacted with like any other grown up. Your age doesn't stop you from outting people or any other thing. That can be an honest concern for some people.

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RE: How can I be the perfect straight sub? - 5/9/2013 5:45:35 PM

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To answer your question I'm measuring reasons behind submissive activity.

Not only do you lie, you lie badly.

If you're going to bullshit your way through something you need at least a cursory familiarity with the subject matter. Clearly you know nothing of d/s, let alone the scientific method.

You're going to measure "reasons".. sheesh. More to be pitied than laughed at.

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