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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 10:49:20 AM

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 10:51:34 AM

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That is fine and well I just was stating something. Man you ladies take this to another level. Take care and please just stop the rude comments. Have a wonderful day.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 10:57:14 AM

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There were no rude comments.

There is a low tolerance for cheating within WIITWD. It requires a lot of trust and unless both of your spouses know what you're doing....you've both just proven that you're not trust worthy.

You're cheating. Acting all self righteous and offended when you get called on it, isn't going to win you any points in this forum.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 11:50:36 AM

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Hi I have a question for a Dom, I am new and have had my Dom for two months we both have other lives it makes complicated but is what is. Anyhow we finally met up last week and since then he hasn't pursued me the way he did, he still talks to me but not as much. He says busy but we both have made time for our little acts and vice versa, dirty talks videos. Etc.before now he's just I don't know a bit different . I have told him he has appologized. Told him how I felt. It's hard to hook up. Didn't know this in beginning didn't think it would be so difficult on his part. I get kinda pissed when i see him on here and hes not im me or emailing me, i dont care hes looking around at stuff on here cause i do too. he has me on here journaling and everything. But there's no going back. Any advice as a Dom.

Maybe he feels uncomfortable cheating on his wife, and figures looking at hot pictures is less unethical.

Does he still have kids at home? Maybe he doesn't want to wreck that.

My suggestion to you: if you must cheat on your husband, pursue a man who is single. Less fallout that way.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 11:56:44 AM

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I only wanted to hear from a doms perspective .

Meaning you only wanted the men's attention. For that, a photo is required. Tits help.

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That is fine and well I just was stating something. Man you ladies take this to another level. Take care and please just stop the rude comments. Have a wonderful day.

You came here with sketchy information, basically not making a whole lot of sense, asking for advice....

And you got some damn good advice, chicklet.

Advice you apparently couldnt handle because it wasnt what you wanted to hear. I know how that sucks.

But thats no reason for you to get snotty. Submissives often know just as much as the big bad doms do.

Yeah, the thread was polite.. because I hadnt posted yet. I have no need to pull up your profile. Honestly, there are many like you who come here every day. Hell, I was like you once.

When you get tired of being his option while you make him your priority, come back and revisit this thread. Work on a good apology while you are waiting.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 12:01:05 PM

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His other women must be hotter, simple as that.

Oh, and that's from an official Tier 7 Dominate!

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 12:01:14 PM

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Yeah, the thread was polite.. because I hadnt posted yet. I have no need to pull up your profile. Honestly, there are many like you who come here every day. Hell, I was like you once.

When you get tired of being his option while you make him your priority, come back and revisit this thread. Work on a good apology while you are waiting.

Yea, she wants to make him a priority instead of the man she made an actual commitment to. Of course, she wants him to make HER a priority instead of his wife as well. Classy woman.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 12:20:53 PM

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You so funny hehe

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 12:22:40 PM

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Barring some unknown life circumstance, he's either not very interested in you (or potentially the lifestyle, he might just like to flirt and pick up subs), or he has some serious evolving to do before he can call himself dominant. Leadership is a skill that requires practice, and enlightenment. It's about bearing the burdens and responsibilities of your subordinates (whether we're talking about subs, employment, or military life), not about getting all the pussy. If he's dropping the ball for non legitimate reasons, drop him and find yourself a true leader, watch some military movies (band of brothers is a fantastic mini-series) and see how a true dominant individual behaves.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 12:31:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: YourLordandLady

Barring some unknown life circumstance,

Like the wife catching on.

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he's either not very interested in you (or potentially the lifestyle, he might just like to flirt and pick up subs)

Or he's a serial cheater.

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or he has some serious evolving to do before he can call himself dominant.

He's cheating on his wife and having kinky sex. He's not even close to being a Dominant and it would require a heck of a lot of evolving.

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Leadership is a skill that requires practice, and enlightenment.

And integrity, which he's already proven that he doesn't have.

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It's about bearing the burdens and responsibilities of your subordinates

Like not lying to his wife and family.

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not about getting all the pussy.

To him it's all about getting the pussy.

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If he's dropping the ball for non legitimate reasons

I think a wife and kids are a pretty legitimate reason.

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drop him and find yourself a true leader

Why? She's cheating too. And after all, since it's two cheaters that have obligations to the spouses and families that they made vows to.......it's just kinky sex and not D/s.

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watch some military movies (band of brothers is a fantastic mini-series) and see how a true dominant individual behaves.

Most of us here take issue with the term "true", FYI. But again, it's a moot point since it's two cheaters meeting to have kinky sex, not a D/s situation.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 12:50:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: YourLordandLady

Barring some unknown life circumstance, he's either not very interested in you (or potentially the lifestyle, he might just like to flirt and pick up subs), or he has some serious evolving to do before he can call himself dominant. Leadership is a skill that requires practice, and enlightenment. It's about bearing the burdens and responsibilities of your subordinates (whether we're talking about subs, employment, or military life), not about getting all the pussy. If he's dropping the ball for non legitimate reasons, drop him and find yourself a true leader, watch some military movies (band of brothers is a fantastic mini-series) and see how a true dominant individual behaves.

If a man cannot control his own home, what right does he have to try to control anyone else?

If he is that afraid to tell his wife he is needing something more... or tell her he is wanting someone else... I dont hold out much hope for him ever mastering someone like me.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 2:00:48 PM

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Your profile is part of who you are....if you wish no one to comment on it then hide it. You came to the boards and as you have been told ANYONE can post on anything anyone writes....its in the TOS. Maybe take some time and read them.

As far as your post goes...it looks like you are both getting what you are seeking, so not so sure what the problem is....well unless both of your spouses find out and then the innocent children will also be invovled. Its my sincere hopes that you both get what is you are seeking and then some....and that was said with a

and not being nasty at all.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 2:49:54 PM

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Hi I have a question for a Dom, I am new and have had my Dom for two months we both have other lives it makes complicated but is what is. Anyhow we finally met up last week and since then he hasn't pursued me the way he did, he still talks to me but not as much. He says busy but we both have made time for our little acts and vice versa, dirty talks videos. Etc.before now he's just I don't know a bit different . I have told him he has appologized. Told him how I felt. It's hard to hook up. Didn't know this in beginning didn't think it would be so difficult on his part. I get kinda pissed when i see him on here and hes not im me or emailing me, i dont care hes looking around at stuff on here cause i do too. he has me on here journaling and everything. But there's no going back. Any advice as a Dom.

Really? You don't know what the issue is?

Darling, you're just his piece on the side, his fuckbuddy, his toy, his booty call. He isn't interested in seeing you as anything more than that. Also I'm assuming you're both married so why would he see you as anything more than his fuckbuddy? And why would you see him as anything more?

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 4:05:53 PM

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Seems to me that he is having a "no strings attached" bit on the side - and the OP is having feelings - unfortunately, she put on her profile that a NSA relationship was what she wanted. I guess she was wrong. Not as easy to cheat without developing feelings after all, is it?

and before you say you don't have feelings, why do you care if he's on CM and not talking to you, if all you are looking for is NSA bit on the side.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 4:57:58 PM

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Leadership is a skill that requires practice, and enlightenment. It's about bearing the burdens and responsibilities of your subordinates (whether we're talking about subs, employment, or military life), not about getting all the pussy.

*blinks*
Who the heck told you that? Perhaps good, non-parasitic leadership requires those things. But to the best of my knowledge there are exactly and only two things required to be a leader. You need to be going somewhere and you need to be able to convince other people to follow you. Sure, integrity helps with that second part but so does being a suave, lying bastard. It's worth pointing out that virtually nobody cares about things like honor and integrity in their leaders (no matter what they say to the contrary). A quick look at factcheck or politifact tells the story. We want our leaders to be charismatic not honorable.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 10:27:16 PM

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We are wondering why not introduce your Partner to his Partner then see who gets all the attention then.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/9/2013 10:55:31 PM

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I can tell you who wont.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/10/2013 5:28:28 AM

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Thats the best advice yet.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/10/2013 6:00:24 AM

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You're *not* official tier 7 until I say you're official tier 7 !!

And don't forget, what happens on tier 7 STAYS on tier 7.

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RE: Dom is different - 6/10/2013 6:03:38 AM

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We want our leaders to be charismatic not honorable.

Let's substitute hero for leader. It's what's wrong with the world these days -- our heroes are pro jocks or movie starts or famous for being outrageous. Not a lot a substance in the current flock.

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