tazzygirl
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I think a lot of BDSM acts are wacked, what about the guy who had his wife in chains around his kids, they were married. Guess that's not crazy at all. OR people who cut each other, or beat each other, and have kids? Why do these things seem more okay? ITs all honest, then its all okay? These threads never have a good ending. I think it seems mob like too, and some comments are just meant to be insulting and belittling. This happens each and every time someone is having an affair is mentioned. DO I advocate cheating, no, I don't. I have did it. Many on the chains thread said they were crazy. The problem here is context. At least for me. To complain that you are both in a relationship, but he suddenly isnt giving her the "time she wants".... I really wanted to say something earlier... so Im going to say it now.. and let the chips fall where they may.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ OP, what the fuck do you expect. He is married, you are married.... you are not each other's primary relationship. You are now enjoying the back seat. Not liking it? Get used to it. Why is he doing it? Could be for many reasons. He got his piece now he is done, he just doesnt know how to tell you. He is feeling guilty and is avoiding you to avoid the guilt. he is lining up his next piece but keeping you on the back burner for a "just in case I need some" event. Could be a whole number of reasons why he is doing what he is doing. The only question you should be asking is... can you accept this. I will say, if your profile is any indication, you will learn how to accept being the "mistress" to the wife. I doubt its going to change, his situation. And, if you keep looking for married men, its going to continue to be a pattern, unless the man actually is capable of being honest with his wife and she doesnt mind. Rare, but it does happen. So, in my way of thinking, you have 2 choices. Accept that you will always be in the back seat, waiting.... you may be waiting for his time... his attention... or for him to break things off.. but you will be waiting. Or move on. The rest of the advice I would typically give isnt what you would want to hear. If you wish to know, then ask.... otherwise... take care of you.
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Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt. RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11 Duchess of Dissent 1 Dont judge me because I sin differently than you. If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.
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