darkinshadows
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Joined: 6/2/2004 From: UK Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote:
ORIGINAL: cloudboy When we met, you talked about why you hated these threads. I do think the OP has a legitmate "newbie-ish" question, and it was the first one I thought about when I joined CM too. I got reamed for posting about it back then, as well. I hate them because they never go anywhere productive- it always turns into a "Fat women unite!" and "Love people for their inside" kumbaya/bash anyone who dares mention that fat isn't positive fest. Making observations about fat people is a sensitive area for sure. But there's no reason it should turn into the defensive backlash that it always seems to. Yes, fat people rock like anyone else. Yes, lots of people love lots of fat people. No arguments there. I'm a fat chick. I'm REALLY looking forward to moving into a place with a great gym and 8 pools and two men who have been ordered to keep me in line on my diet and exercise and want to lose weight, for my health, my self esteem and so I can fit back into all my awesome size 14 clothes that I don't fit into right now because I've gained weight over the last year. I understand the good and the bad bout being fat. I can discuss the issues about fatness and my own observations about fat people without turning it into a personal emotional defensive posture. Most people don't seem to be able to do that. quote:
All that said, I think you've given a great response here. You acknowledge the facts, you inject a little humor into a sensitive topic area, and you give a reasonable and maybe correct explanation for the phenomenom. Glad you got something out of it. See - I don't get that. People are happy being overweight - good for them - but why get all hippy and loveydovey over it? What is so wrong with wanting to improve oneself? I am technically BBW. I am happy with being me - but why should I not want to improve on it? Why do people get all up in arms at the slightest suggestion that weight can be improved? That figures can be moulded? We use bondage, we use corsets, and bindings and costumes. People alter there looks all the time to improve and make themselves more attractive to someone - even themselves. Why are people so damn defensive at such a simple question that the OP makes? Its not a troll question IMO... its an honest observation. Why deny something that is obviously noticable? Peace and Rapture
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