Extravagasm
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cloudboy Post 338: But for many women, the cause of their sexual malaise appears to be monogamy itself. It is women much more than men, who have H.S.D.D. who don’t feel heat for their steady partners. cloudboy, this is a spectacular, in depth article you've uncovered and cited for us (post 338). Everyone seemed to skate by your cite, without looking. So Im gonna call more attention back to it. Crediting you. Rather serious research is pointing out that women have a good deal harder time with sexual monogamy, than men. Independent of the perceived male ineptitude excuse. Female sexual disinterest in their chosen steady partner, not caused by, and without regard for the male being seen as problematic. Even more important from a science methodology viewpoint, this research breaks ground in defining a useful empirical term: Sexual Resistance Behaviors (such things as: Sneaking to bed earlier Fearing intimacy as repugnant Reinterpreting morality as antithetical to sex Preoccupations that expropriate sex time & space Separate sleeping etc) New operative terms are important for scientific breakthroughs. Let the studies come forth. One can only imagine the emotional maze arising from combining latent Sexual Resistance Attitudes, with partially debilitating medical conditions such as Diabetes or Asthma. In a just & fair world, any woman or man who has had to deal with the combined effect of these, in dedication to their spouse for 15 or more years, certainly deserves a hottie. But the rhubarb is that this spouse too, has been emotionally damaged, and will have difficulty going ahead and doing this. Say nothing of getting 'permission'. Such is where the OP sits. Dominance (or lack in his case) has little to do with it. His years fantasizing (which tick off responders here) have little to do with it.
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BDSM operates on submission. Not on love, fairness, or convention. The way to a Dom . . is to follow his karma, wallow in his grime, Swim in his heart.© Yeah, fantasy is not reality. That's how it gives direction to the truly gifted.
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