SerWhiteTiger
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Joined: 8/12/2013 From: Why is my name Florida? That's a state! Status: offline
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Had to take a break from this to recollect myself and think about things a bit. Sorry for being a bit douchey. Too heavy on the intuition and it sometimes takes me a while to figure out wtf I mean by what I'm saying and why. ;) quote:
ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote:
ORIGINAL: SerWhiteTiger The entire point of monogamy is jealousy and possessiveness. Wow really? Whodathunkit? Do you have any idea how jacked up and offensive that statement was. Dude, I'm struggling to say this in a way which does not earn me a gold letter. I try not to keep the mods too busy. But you are blatantly ignorant of that which you speak. There is no "point" to monogamy for me. I find a woman. I bond with her. I no longer see other women as "possible mates". Nobody is making me be monogamous. Nobody really could make me do that (you know, that whole "dominant" word that gets tossed around here so frequently). You can believe whatever jacked up things you want about monogamous folks but really it's just your your lack of understanding and empathy thinking of anyone who is "not you" as "defective". Yes, I know exactly how jacked up and offensive that statement was. It's exactly as equally jacked up and offensive as much of this thread is to me. That was most of my purpose in making that statement, I think,to try to get people to understand how their words about polyamory were affecting me, and you'll notice that I didn't bust out with it until asked directly. What I said was true... about my idea of monogamy. And you see it as offensive, because you identify as monogamous and assume that if I use the word, I must be including you. You see, in my idea of monogamy and polyamory, a person can be poly even if they are exactly the sort of person you described. The difference between the two isn't your own desires, it's in how you treat the people you love. So, you have no interest in others when you've bonded with someone. But how would you behave if you fell in love with and bonded with a woman who did still have interest in having other relationships after bonding with you? Would you try to restrict her to monogamy, or would you allow her to be poly? If you would try and restrict her, what are your motivations? If you would not, you're poly in my book, even if you have no interest in pursing multiple relationships for yourself.
< Message edited by SerWhiteTiger -- 9/8/2013 10:36:53 PM >
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