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Itsthetruth -> Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 3:36:14 PM)
My Mistress want's to try doing "forced intoxication" with me. I am a recovering alcoholic and I have not had a drink in over a year. She know's this. I never mentioned this as a hard limit at first because the issue never came up. What should I do? I don't want to relapse and risk going back to my old way's of drinking. I also don't want to disobey my Mistress. I should have brought this issue up when I was first owned but that was my mistake. I don't know what to do.

evesgrden -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 3:52:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Itsthetruth My Mistress want's to try doing "forced intoxication" with me. I am a recovering alcoholic and I have not had a drink in over a year. She know's this. I never mentioned this as a hard limit at first because the issue never came up. What should I do? I don't want to relapse and risk going back to my old way's of drinking. I also don't want to disobey my Mistress. I should have brought this issue up when I was first owned but that was my mistake. I don't know what to do. Clearly your mistress has no regard for your well-being and is completely ignorant with respect to alcoholism, addiction and recovery. I think you have one choice: leave. If this was a vanilla relationship, I'd say the same thing. Leave. This is not someone you want to hang around with in any context if you want to stay sober.

Itsthetruth -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 3:55:35 PM)
She does not believe alcoholism is a disease. She let's me go to my meeting's but she think's they are taking up too much of my time. Those meeting's are what helped me to stop drinking in the first place.

getoutnow -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 3:59:21 PM)
Why are you putting into too much stock of what she says or believes? Just because she is a Domme? She is a wannabie, most likely a stupid bitch. I would leave her now, right away. It seems to me you need someone to look after your wellbeing first then your kink needs second.

DesFIP -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 4:02:53 PM)
Tell her first to give you a hundred thousand dollars to cover rehab and six months in a halfway house. I guarantee she'll back down from that. But seriously, this is akin to trying to kill you. If you wouldn't let her chop off your arm, you don't let her do this.

MissToYouRedux -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 4:04:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Itsthetruth My Mistress want's to try doing "forced intoxication" with me. I am a recovering alcoholic ... I'm joining the "she's an idiot" group.

OsideGirl -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 4:06:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Itsthetruth I also don't want to disobey my Mistress. Seriously? This is what you're worried about? You should be worried about your well being, your life and your sobriety!

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 4:10:31 PM)
Your 'mistress' is an irresponsible, insensitive, selfish moron. I would ditch her immediately, using those exact words, and explain to her that your recovery is worth more to you than her agenda AND your dick, combined. Let NOTHING and NO ONE interfere with your recovery. Congratulations on one year sober. Very best of luck to you!

mummyman321 -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 4:26:57 PM)
Any person that disregards your health & safety and an idiot. There is no excuse for what she is suggesting and I would tell her that and begin looking for a responsible Domme

angelikaJ -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 4:53:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Itsthetruth My Mistress want's to try doing "forced intoxication" with me. I am a recovering alcoholic and I have not had a drink in over a year. She know's this. I never mentioned this as a hard limit at first because the issue never came up. What should I do? I don't want to relapse and risk going back to my old way's of drinking. I also don't want to disobey my Mistress. I should have brought this issue up when I was first owned but that was my mistake. I don't know what to do. Poppycock! Some limits should not need to be written out. I never told [my] Master to not use chainsaws on me or to not feed me poison. I knew He was trustworthy in terms of common sense things when I decided I wished to engage in a D/s (and then M/s) relationship with Him. Her opinions regarding your sobriety are analogous to her feeding you poison and her wishing to get you intoxicated is not much different than someone wanting to use a chainsaw on you. Choose someone who cares about your health and well-being and who views your sobriety as important.

dcnovice -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 4:57:35 PM)
quote: I don't know what to do. In that case, I'll take the rare (for me) step of giving orders to a total stranger: (a) You're up against a powerful, cunning, baffling foe. (I mean the addiction, not your domme.) So probe the shadows of your mind to see if some part of you secretly likes the idea as a guilt-free way to act out. If so, acknowledge that and remember that you needn't act on it. (b) Talk to your domme. Two key words: rigorous honesty. (c) Keeping coming back!

Itsthetruth -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 5:31:45 PM)
I do wish some meeting's would be more understanding of kink but I don't feel comfortable about mentioning this part of me. I have found being a slave in recovery can be difficult at time's. I know I can't return to the way I use to drink. It's almost keeping too many secrets. I can't talking about my kink around people in meeting's unless I know they don't care. I can't really talk about my alcoholism around too many people as most could care less to hear it. That's why I finally came on here. What is a recovering alcoholic in kink suppose to do? I have heard of recovery meeting's for those in fetish in particular but those meeting's are still new and far apart.

thishereboi -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 5:36:04 PM)
I don't mean to be blunt but seriously, you shouldn't have to tell her that this is a hard limit. If she can't figure that out on her own she has no business owning someone. I would flat out tell her if she can't respect your sobriety then you can't respect her.

thishereboi -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 5:40:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Itsthetruth I do wish some meeting's would be more understanding of kink but I don't feel comfortable about mentioning this part of me. I have found being a slave in recovery can be difficult at time's. I know I can't return to the way I use to drink. It's almost keeping too many secrets. I can't talking about my kink around people in meeting's unless I know they don't care. I can't really talk about my alcoholism around too many people as most could care less to hear it. That's why I finally came on here. What is a recovering alcoholic in kink suppose to do? I have heard of recovery meeting's for those in fetish in particular but those meeting's are still new and far apart. I would do a search on kinky AA groups in your area or ask at munches. I know there are many in this area and from conversations I have had there should be some down there also.

OsideGirl -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 5:47:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Itsthetruth I do wish some meeting's would be more understanding of kink but I don't feel comfortable about mentioning this part of me. I have found being a slave in recovery can be difficult at time's. I know I can't return to the way I use to drink. It's almost keeping too many secrets. I can't talking about my kink around people in meeting's unless I know they don't care. I can't really talk about my alcoholism around too many people as most could care less to hear it. That's why I finally came on here. What is a recovering alcoholic in kink suppose to do? I have heard of recovery meeting's for those in fetish in particular but those meeting's are still new and far apart. I realize that you're part of the generation that expects everything fall into your lap, but seriously, with very little effort you can actually find things if you bother to look. Here's a starting point: https://fetlife.com/groups/794

Politesub53 -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 5:51:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Itsthetruth My Mistress want's to try doing "forced intoxication" with me. I am a recovering alcoholic and I have not had a drink in over a year. She know's this. I never mentioned this as a hard limit at first because the issue never came up. What should I do? I don't want to relapse and risk going back to my old way's of drinking. I also don't want to disobey my Mistress. I should have brought this issue up when I was first owned but that was my mistake. I don't know what to do. If she knows you a recovering alcoholic then she is putting you at risk. Tell her you are not going to do this, period, for health reasons. It could well be she is suggesting the idea just as a mind game, if so all well and good. If not, and she wont listen, then walk away. I have often wondered what I would do if a Mistress asked me to do something I didnt like, as she found it a turn on. If it involved my health in a negative way, I would take the risk of upsetting her. If it wasnt going to have an adverse effect on my health, then I truly dont know if I could agree or not.

BBBTBW -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 5:52:26 PM)
This woman obviously doesn't care about your health or well being. Mental as well as physical as she is already mentally abusing you. As for bringing this up when you were first owned, if you trusted she cared about you, there wasn't a need to bring it up honestly. She is obviously trying to get rid of you because she isn't going to want you if you are a drunk and will get rid of you anyway so you might as well leave before the damage is done and leave on your terms. I would say do not pass GO...Do NOT collect 200.00, just get out NOW

dcnovice -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 5:55:00 PM)
quote: I do wish some meeting's would be more understanding of kink but I don't feel comfortable about mentioning this part of me. I have found being a slave in recovery can be difficult at time's. I know I can't return to the way I use to drink. It's almost keeping too many secrets. I can't talking about my kink around people in meeting's unless I know they don't care. I can't really talk about my alcoholism around too many people as most could care less to hear it. That's why I finally came on here. What is a recovering alcoholic in kink suppose to do? I have heard of recovery meeting's for those in fetish in particular but those meeting's are still new and far apart. I understand. Big hugs! There may be kink-friendly meetings available by phone or online. This may also be a time to draw on other recovery tools: sponsorship, phone/email with trusted program friends, and perhaps writing.

stef -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 8:33:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Itsthetruth She does not believe alcoholism is a disease. She let's me go to my meeting's but she think's they are taking up too much of my time. Those meeting's are what helped me to stop drinking in the first place. She's a fucking idiot. Think with the larger of your two heads and what you should do will be obvious.

belle4beast -> RE: Forced intoxication fetish while in recovery (8/23/2013 8:39:35 PM)
uhmm, besides the addiction thing, theres all the liver thing to worry about.

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