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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/29/2014 7:41:08 PM   
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as to Wikipedia and equally idiot definitions. Ive seen you use them.

Nice to see you back posting on a site you claim to hate!!!

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/29/2014 7:41:26 PM   
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Lady Constanze,
I agree wikipedia can contradict itself. Consider reading the entire article and numerous sources before you challenge it. Or just Google Sparta and see what you find. Or you could admit their may be some validity to my understanding of the age Spartan women got married.

I always enjoy a good discussion of history and anthropology. Please feel free to discuss any subject you like by emailing me at [mod edit to remove email address]. Continuing this back and forth has to be boring the other bloggers.

This reminds me, You wrote
"I recently was talking with somebody who's over 70, he said when he was young it was considered unmanly to eat pussy, getting a BJ was sort of a badge of honor", but a guy going down on a woman, oh that was a big taboo and also considered dangerous. Kind of hard to imagine for our generation. The "getting a BJ was sort of a badge of honor" posting combined with the age I though you sad you were in the email you sent me, made me laugh with irony. I renumber the days when a BJ was a badge of honor and today many young people don't even consider it sex.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/29/2014 8:23:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

For example (yup I'm using Kana again, he's just going to become my example for everything) Kana mentioned on this thread that lw wouldn't take well to a man desiring to be penetrated anally. So if Kana could manage to command lw to do so anyways, without her thereupon feeling less secure with him as her partner, I'd consider that an act of sheer dominance.

Which isn't to imply that I believe that Kana currently isn't capable of acts of dominance in regards lw.


I've been in this situation actually. Not with Master but with the ex Dom. The moment he "ordered" me to do that to him, I admit I no longer took him seriously as a dominant man, or at least not mine. Yes, I believe there are certain acts that are dominant or undominant. Call it what you will. I'm old fashioned in certain things....actually, lots of things.



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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/29/2014 8:32:49 PM   
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Anal sex is a dangerous sexual behavior and can cause serious internal injuries, countless infections, twisted bowel, etc, etc., etc. Just ask your doctor.


Your repeat of the same statement without any substantiation is remarkable. It's as if you doubted that I managed to read your first post.

Perhaps you can offer anecdotes of things going wrong like you described? Because I am pretty sure you cannot back that claim up with published and reliable sources. I would gladly trade anecdotes with you on this issue.

As for asking my doctor - I don't need to. I know enough about anal sex before I got him as a doctor. I was a peer sex educator in college. Also, my doctor is gay and he enjoys bottoming. Enough said?

Also, let us just examine the statement: "Anal sex is a dangerous sexual behavior."

If I have read your posts correctly, you're offering this as one reasons why you will not entertain the idea of receiving anal. If I read you incorrectly, please feel free to explain. If not, then my response to that is below.

First, it apparently is not so dangerous that you would not fuck a woman in the ass, as you described before in the difference in sensation and your preference in fucking a woman in the vagina rather than in her ass. So at some level, you accept that when done correctly, it will not endanger the recipient to an unacceptable level. The alternative is to assume that you think it's too dangerous to carry out and you just didn't care about the safety of your sub. I don't think you're that kind of person, so I think the first scenario is far more likely. At the worst, self-administered anal stimulation will definitely be almost free of that risk, save for accidents. Therefore, it is not a very convincing reason.

Second, almost all of the kinks that are common in this community carry a risk. The presence of risk itself is hardly a good reason to abstain from the activity. Choking, impact play, predicament bondage, or even regular bondage, rough fucks, suspensions, temporary body mods, fire play, needle plays, sounding, breath control, permanent body mods, the list goes on, for activities that carry risks. Hell, "Driving is a dangerous daily activity" is also true, given the rate of automotive accidents. The important part is to minimize the risk through education and precaution.

So, care to offer a different reason?



On a different topic:
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Through history men and women had different roles. Women ruled in the home men ruled outside the house. For the most part they were happy. Love and family were the cornerstones of human development centenaries before farming.


This is a gross misrepresentation of history. In ancient Greece and Rome, women did not rule inside the house. They have duties to carry out to maintain the daily operation of the household, and depending on the social class they have varying degrees of public duties. But the men were always the final decision maker for all the mattes. The Latin term Pater Familias refers to this role explicitly.

Love is also a rather uncommon occurrence. Ancient Greeks considered women devoid of the faculty for high level logic and reasoning, and they proposed true love is the platonic love between two men of equal intellectual status. The Romans continued much of that same line of thought. In ancient Chinese culture, love is defined more as a comfortable obedience and supplication of the wives, and not the love as we would envision today.

There are other examples in other cultures, as well as examples where women did have some influence outside of their homes, too. Your summary of what happened in the past reads more like a fan fiction than an actual anthropological or historical description.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/30/2014 7:13:55 AM   
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When I was in my 20 I did have anal sex. After the novelty of convincing my wife to do it wore off, I never did it again. It just wasn't all that appealing. As respects the danger of anal intercourse or sticking objects up you butt. It is dangerous! When you place something in the bowel. The bowel expands. You can pierce it, explode it and infect it. You can email me at [mod edit to remove email address] If you wish trade medical data


The family unit is the building block of all societies, even those that existed before humans wrote. Men and women always loved each other and their children. The maternal instinct and Love molded every successful society that ever existed. For the most part men were the final decision makers. Roles and status were clearly defined. Everything revolved around developing a larger family. Please read or remember all the Greek and Roman love tragedies. Hellen of Troy launched a thousand ships, One of Cleopatra's pubic hairs could pull a thousand ships. Realize the enormous cultural differences between Greek States and Roman Providences. Then email me blue.swordsman ( a ) yahoo.com and I will provide you with some interesting reading.

This sight is a BDSM site and continued conversation is not fair to the other posters.


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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/30/2014 7:25:41 AM   
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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/30/2014 7:37:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Blueswordsman
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.... Please read or remember all the Greek and Roman love tragedies.... One of Cleopatra's pubic hairs could pull a thousand ships.
<snip>


a. They also loved comedies. You can't have one without the other--two sides of the same coin.

b. Re proper treatment of the anal region, taking adequate hygienic precautions (cleanliness/washing up, including handwashing & other contact surfaces; absolutely no anal-to-vaginal, absolutely no anal-to-oral, no anal-to-someone else's orifices) will take care of most matters, no excessively rough treatment.
What I find perplexing is this post of yours under "Inflicting Pain" http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=4635040 -- Care to explain that? For self-introspective purposes only.

c. Hey, don't be insulting Cleopatra. That's my girl. Whatever she had down there wasn't made out of hemp rope or papyrus reed....

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/30/2014 9:33:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Blueswordsman

.... I enjoy bending others to my will. I use pain is a too. My idea of dominance is compliance or consequence. Example. Do what I told you to do or I will hold a lit cigar to you left nipple for ten seconds. Do it again and I will hold the cigar to your right nipple for 15 seconds. Next will be your anus.


I’m sorry, “I enjoy bending others to my will. I use pain is a too. (tool)” Is true. However I never leave a black and blue or a mark that will last more than a few hours. The French bayonets in my avatar and their metal tipped leather sheaths are the only thing I spank with. They create a unique hot wet and lasting sting with very little marking. I never use more than a foot of cord to immobilize anyone. I’m all theater slap and tickle. Show me a pretty butt and I’m just as likely to fuck it as spank it

“Example. Do what I told you to do or I will hold a lit cigar to you left nipple for ten seconds. Do it again and I will hold the cigar to your right nipple for 15 seconds. Next will be your anus.” Is a line I have used many times to instantly take my partner out of her reality and create a place of obedience or consequence. The smell of the cigar alone scares the shit out of them. A pinch + Heat (the product) creates enough sensation.

I love the power exchange, getting women to do things for me they normally don’t do, not sadism.

My profile says I love wetting panties with a whisper or a whip … Do what I told you to do or I will hold a lit cigar to you left nipple for ten seconds. Do it again and I will hold the cigar to your right nipple for 15 seconds. Next will be your anus. Is a whisper


I don’t have a sadistic bone in my body.




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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/30/2014 1:16:34 PM   
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It is dangerous! When you place something in the bowel. The bowel expands. You can pierce it, explode it and infect it. You can email me at [mod edit to remove email address] If you wish trade medical data


I am not sure you are really engaging in this discussion. I already addressed this point and you're doing nothing to counter it.

Yes, a lot of bad things *can* happen during anal sex. So can a lot of bad things happen while using toys on the vagina. You can just as easily puncture the uterine wall with improper toys as you can damage the colon. You can cause permanent damage to the vagina during fisting just as easily as you can with fisting the anus. Something being dangerous and its tedency to cause harm when done without proper precaution is not a good reason to not do it. You reasoning here about anal sex applies to so many other kink activities that it will literally reduce kink to nothingness.





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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/30/2014 5:38:19 PM   
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frunandsins consider us disengaged.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 3/30/2014 6:49:11 PM   
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frunandsins consider us disengaged.


Fair enough. Consider it done.

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 4/2/2014 10:41:32 PM   
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I find it humorous that there are are female subs/slaves in here giving their opinions on something directed at MALE dominants. Having said that....


Though it is something which holds no interest to me there is nothing less dominant about receiving pleasure from that. Nor does it make anyone bisexual. That notion is simply ridiculous. About as ridiculous as thinking that somehow gay teachers will teach students to be gay.

The thing that changes the dynamic of dom to sub in such a scene would be positioning of the one being pegged. But at the end of the day all that matters is what YOU are comfortable with nothing more!

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 4/2/2014 11:25:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Prtynked

I find it humorous that there are are female subs/slaves in here giving their opinions on something directed at MALE dominants. Having said that....

Though it is something which holds no interest to me there is nothing less dominant about receiving pleasure from that. Nor does it make anyone bisexual. That notion is simply ridiculous. About as ridiculous as thinking that somehow gay teachers will teach students to be gay.

The thing that changes the dynamic of dom to sub in such a scene would be positioning of the one being pegged. But at the end of the day all that matters is what YOU are comfortable with nothing more!

In the event you weren't aware, anyone can post anywhere on any thread. There are no restrictions, other than no personal attacks are allowed, which means you can attack the contents of a post but not the poster on a personal level. Everyone's perspective is welcome on this topic, yours included, and broadens the multi-dimensionality of an issue which affects Dominants, S/switches, and submissives alike. For instance, I may be a Domme, but there are some who might think it unDommely if I am not doing the pegging. There are Doms who approach Dommes to get Topped in this manner because they are afraid of losing the respect of their s-type, their sub is unwilling to service Top them or, else only willing to do so in a very specific way.

Wide-ranging viewpoints are value-added, whereas narrow-mindedness is stifling and inhibiting. In my view, positioning is immaterial, and it is the D/s dynamic itself which determines who is the Dominant one in the relationship. Top/bottom perceptions are just that and have limited bearing on Dominant and submissive states of being.

[Edited to rephrase a few words]

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 4/18/2014 2:17:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Chesterfield91

My submissive girlfriend has told me that she's curious about pegging me. I was just wondering whether there are any other Dominant men in here who enjoy this, and if so, how does it work for you?


dominant men??? I think not!

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RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? - 5/1/2014 2:02:01 PM   
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This is all a matter of perspective. The sort of sex you enjoy is up to you, obviously. There are dominant men that enjoy receiving anal, and there is nothing wrong with that. It doesn't make them any less dominant. Dominance is all in your confidence and attitude, and of course, how you handle the situation, so why let a simple act of pleasure cloud your thinking of what is and is not dominant?

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