sunshinemiss
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Hello Galveston Nurse, Last year, I had the opportunity to travel to Britain for a conference (I live in Asia). One of the regular posters here, crazy ml lives (what I thought) was near where my conference was. I invited him to meet for a cup of coffee. Not having looked at a map, I thought Liverpool was near London... it's not. Anyway, he got on a train - knowing it would take over four hours to get to where I was. In reality, it took over 9 hours. Nothing in it for him but a cuppa coffee, some fun chatting and a short walk.... but he put the effort in. He's sexy as hell and has mad charm and can have any woman he wants, so he sure as heck didn't NEED to spend all that time, energy, and money just to have a cup of joe with me (so sweet you could kill a camel with, as I recall). For me, it's not just about the money that either of us spent on meeting and furthering our friendship, but the energy and willingness. I'll be traveling to another country soon (I travel a bit for work, so it happens I get to meet people in far-flung places), and I'm hoping to meet another couple of posters from here (who will have to travel a bit to meet me). Several people on the boards here have met each other and created friendships and romance... because each one is willing to put in the time, energy, and money needed to create meaningful relationships. Let me remind you of something a friend once told me that went BANG right into my heart. Never make someone a priority who considers you an option. That has helped me tremendously over the years. Best wishes, and good luck, sunshine *eta: I don't think I would willingly meet a stranger at his home. I have always either met in public or made sure the person was known by someone I know. Just because it's about D/s doesn't mean I should give up my own responsibility for taking care of myself. If a stranger called you on the phone and told you to meet him in a deserted place in a strange city, would you do it? Would you recommend that your best friend do that? Because.... that's pretty much what you were planning to do. There are bad people in the world. Some of them are into BDSM. Be careful. Don't be stupid.
< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 12/13/2013 6:55:20 AM >
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