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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

No one maintains on 300 kCal.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

I haven't made any personal attacks on you. I merely pointed out that most of the stuff you say doesn't add up and that you are seeking attention. As Lynn said, no one "maintains" on 300 calories a day.

People have given you a great deal of good advice, yet everything that is suggested you have an excuse for not doing. When a normal person is hurt so bad they say they can't move and are in tears, they don't spend time on a message board asking if they should go to the ER. If they are in that much pain, you aren't sitting in front of a computer, especially when they were recently told they have a fractured vertibra. Did you consider that you could have worsened it? Did you think about the fact that your vertibra protect your spinal cord and if one is broke, something could shift and paralyze you?

You said the doctor told you no exercise for 8 weeks, yet you are going for walks, which is exercise. So you either are being dishonest about what the doctor told you or you are once again ignoring doctors instructions.

When you were in so much pain, why didn't you call your doctor and ask them what you should do?

You are willfully damaging your health and giving every excuse not to stop purging, not to eat a healthy diet, not to exercise. That's not a personal attack, that's facts based on what you have written here.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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I never said I gain weight on 300 calories a day. I said I maintain on 300.

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I'm doing everything I can to try and lose weight.

While you hold these beliefs, your situation is hopeless.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

You can contact your doctor at any time in an emergency.

Your metabolism problem is something you created. The only way to fix it is to suck it up and start eating. Take responsibility for what you did to yourself and work towards fixing it.

My reading comprehensions is just fine, along with everyone else who says the same things I am. The difference is I don't feel sorry for your ill health. This isn't something that just happened to you, you caused it.

Now I'm going to say something you are going to think is being mean but I really don't intend it that way. You are already over three hundred pounds. You broke your metabolism and are continuing to damage your body. The only way to fix it involves a temporary weight gain. You are assuming that you will gain a couple hundred pounds but you don't know that for certain. When this fracture heals, you have two choices, keep whining and crying while you do nothing but more damage or accept responsibility for yourself and start eating a proper diet and work extra hard to restart your metabolism. If you do nothing you will die morbidly obese, and it will be suicide. If you choose to take responsibilty, you will gain weight, but you will lose it when you stop thinking you know it all and wallowing inself pity. You are already over 300 pounds, if you are over 400 it isn't going to make that much difference, and the facct that you will be eating right and busting your ass to lose it will pay off in the long run.

Don't want to eat 1500 calories a day? Then don't. Eat a thousand. Of the right food. Build your calories slowly if you have to, adding a hundred every few days while your stomach learns to accept food.

But if you aren't willing to do that, then stop whining and crying about your ill health, gaining weight or anything else. People who aren't willing to change don't get to bitch about their situation, especially when it is self imposed.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

DP, one thing you want to check out with a specialist if you should have the heat pads on, some conditions can be made worse long term by applying heat, for some an ice pack is actually better, despite the heat feeling good...

As for your metabolism, you have to slowly increase your burn rate, what you are doing now is starving your body of nutrients, your body is programmed to take the maximum calories out of everything because it gets so little, you could slowly start with a bit of ginger, cinnamon, apple vinegar and slightly increase your intake, especially the proteins, you want something that is sustainable and not some of those quick fad diets where you lose a bit quickly, then put it back on as soon as you start eating normally and mess up your metabolism in the process. A lot of people get fat from diets by ruining a healthy metabolism by slowing it down. You need a proper nutritionist to get yours back on track and reverse.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

I'm thinking your plan is pretty good. If you want, send me a note on the other side. Would it help you if we have a little chat each week and review your progress and just discuss what you might do, you know just toss ideas around and give you something to focus on? I get really cheap oversea calls, so it wouldn't be a big deal, or we could Skype. Sometimes things just work better with a sounding board.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

You have to increase movement with the increase of calories. You look at yourself and say"I'm fat, I need to lose weight.," so you stop eating, but then your body starts hoarding everything you eat, slowing your metabolism. So when you eat more and gain, now you are going to have to suck it up and eat more, move more. Its simple math. Gain in the short term, lose in the long term.

Giving up is all you seem to be able to do. If you keep going how you are going, you will die and you will die a fat girl you hate the look of. Follow some good advice and yes, gain weight but as your metabolism comes back you will lose weight, and then you won't die and you will start to see someone in the mirror who didn't give up.

No decent doctor doesn't have someone on call 24 hours. No, you won't get a dermatologist orpodiatrist, but a neurologist or orthopedist? They are on call and if they aren't, switch doctors. If you can't get someone you go to the ER, and they will wake the doctor up since he/she is your doctor of record.

This emailing them and not being able to call after hours is bullshit laziness on the part of the doctor. I rarely will even leave my doctors voicemail. I leave a message with a living, breathing human being and if they transfer me to voicemail, I hang up and call back.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Let me know when and we sort something out!

I'm actually trying join a charity fund raiser (triathlon - I'm shit scared to look a complete unfit tit) in fall and need to start training or else it's going to be so embarrassing, please remember to poke me too. Maybe we can both help each other out to stay on our goals! Sometimes a little bit of ass kicking from a friend goes a long way. Dunno about you, but knowing I will report to you, will just give me that bit of motivation that I might otherwise not have.

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Seriously... Here in NH there is never anyone on call. In NJ there usually was...but in other parts of the country its not the case. Most can't afford it in a rural area, or its simply not worth it. Even some of my doctors in NJ didn't have someone there all the time.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

will start to see someone in the mirror who didn't give up.

No decent doctor doesn't have someone on call 24 hours. No, you won't get a dermatologist orpodiatrist, but a neurologist or orthopedist? They are on call and if they aren't, switch doctors. If you can't get someone you go to the ER, and they will wake the doctor up since he/she is your doctor of record.

This emailing them and not being able to call after hours is bullshit laziness on the part of the doctor. I rarely will even leave my doctors voicemail. I leave a message with a living, breathing human being and if they transfer me to voicemail, I hang up and call back.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

I do, but it is very vanilla, if you don't mind that... I got family and vanilla friends on FB, colleagues and clients, so I like to keep it that way, if your FB is not overly kinky, really no issues with adding you.