FieryOpal
Posts: 2821
Joined: 12/8/2013 From: Maryland Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: dehumanize The idea of finding a no limits slave out of the box is absurd. Many slaves can and want to be pushed past their limits, but it takes time and trust to do so. I, personally, have rarely used safe words in my own TPE relationships.... On the other end of that, I have had my entire adult life of experience. I am not new to this. I have never done any sort of play to another that has not been done to me at some point. I can read body language. I get to know my slaves and their limits and build up and push past certain levels. I have never caused permanent harm to anyone and I have never had anyone complain that I went too far. <snip> Dominance style is not being called out here. You are experienced and undoubtedly have a solid reputation to uphold. The other day DarkSteven, on a particular thread having to do with conduct or along those lines, pointed out that he is mindful of safeguarding his reputation within the BDSM community (and I'm sure elsewhere in other arenas of life). There is a saying to avoid giving the appearance of impropriety. I'll try to make this short. OP is wet behind the ears when it comes to protocol. Classic newcomer/newbie sub, no offense intended. Now you might not ever dream of taking advantage of an s-type, but there are many CM profiles that pop up when logging in/out which show blatant disregard for subs. Every sub, male or female, is their insta-slut, sub-human or dehumanized, right there in your face. Men come on this site without expertise of any kind for the sole purpose of trawling for kinky women to give them bj's on demand. They presume this comes with the territory of calling themselves a Dom. So we're really talking apples and oranges, in a sense.
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