DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: Aihal And when it comes to Slave VS Submissive and what definition you use and why in your private life, is exactly that; in your private life. On this we agree. However when it comes to those definitions outside of your private life, you(generally speaking, not directed at IrishMist) must make sure to understand that those terms are probably being used the way they're supposed to be, and that your personal definitions do not apply. And this thread, the first few responses I got to it, is a perfect example of why that is. Excuse me? Are you dictating to all of us how we apply these terms? I wouldn't take that shit from John Warren or Jay Wiseman. I'm definitely not taking it from you. There's a reason that we're not using the terms as precisely as you'd like. It's because the terms aren't defined all that precisely. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aihal Which is why I didn't understand people referencing their spouses as Slaves, and what made me make this post to begin with. Because by every established definition of the term 'Slave', kink and non-kink, the position of a spouse and the position of a Slave (not a Submissive that you call a Slave because it sounds sexier to you), doesn't work logically or functionally. It's either not an actual Master/Slave relationship, or it's an extremely niche semblance of being in a relationship. As everyone described above, they are adamant that both parties are equal in these relationships; for non-kink relationships this should absolutely be true, and for most kink relationships as well. But in a Master/Slave relationship beyond moral semantics about innate Human equality there is a very specific agreement that one is lesser than the other, it is essentially the entire point. You can't have equality and an actual Master/Slave relationship simultaneously. You can call your D/s relationships Master/Slave ones if you find it titillating, or if it pushes your buttons in all the right places; but do not mistake your fantasy for reality, please. So when people refer to M/s relationships within marriage, your assessment is that they're doing it wrong? Have you ever heard of Paul's letter to the Ephesians? "Wives, obey your husbands. Husbands, love your wives."? Marriage does not have to have an equal sharing of power, which is what I assume you mean by "equality". Edited to add: And I will argue that for centuries, marriage was not an equal partnership, and that the notion of equality is relatively recent. And not universal, as some Arab a nations and India show. quote:
ORIGINAL: Aihal We'll do a very simple analogy. Let's say I work for Microsoft. And in my personal life I like to pretend I am a CEO at Microsoft. Not hurting anyone by pretending, it makes me happier, it gives me confidence. But I cannot then go into the real world, to a job interview and say "I was a CEO at Microsoft". It would be a lie, blatantly and unarguably not true. No one outside of my personal life is obligated to play along with my nonsense. And I certainly can't say "Well I have the right to define CEO however I want." "By my definition I was in-fact a CEO and you're being rude by suggesting otherwise." That isn't how the real world works. And I am not suggesting that anyone isn't allowed to pretend they're CEOs, I am saying it's disingenuous to charade as one, when you're personal life isn't relevant to the topic at hand. Are you accusing us of using labels which do not conform to your own definitions and are therefore (according to you) incorrect? Or flat-out lying? You know, you have a lot of nerve wandering in here and telling us all we're doing everything wrong on your first day on the site.
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